Can Daycare accept non-potty trained child...

Question

My son just turned 3 and I've been considering putting him in daycare for a while now but the few that I looked at would not except him at his age unless he is potty trained. Potty training has been very hard. Can they do that? it's not my fault that he doesn't want to learn and I tried forcing him and that had a negative effect. I live in NYC if that helps out any. have you ever placed your child in daycare un-potty trained and if so did they let you and at what age? Are there ones that would allow him in, I mean how can they punish him if he's not ready.. Please help Thanx

Answer 1

i don't think it is his fault but yours

you should not force him you should turn it into a game stuff like that

i have four kids i know what i'm saying

just make using the tiolet interesting skip the potty get a seat for the toilet turn it into big boy time

Answer 2

I didn't realize morons could run day cares.  The average kid these days is 3+ when finally potty trained.  A "day care" - a real day care and not a preschool - really has no business saying you have to have your kid potty trained before he's ready.  If you can find one that doesn't care, that's the best place for your son. Any day care that insists you force your child to potty train is NOT the place you want your son to be.  I hope you can find a place that is willing to accept your son for who he is and isn't out to be 1. lazy (changing diapers is too hard!), 2. controlling (I want him potty trained now, so he will be, no matter what!) or just plain 3. stupid (everyone knows you don't force a kid to use a potty. If the day care can't figure that one out, they don't deserve the opportunity to know your son.)

Answer 3

Well I certainly wouldn’t view it as punishing him. They have set guidelines, set rules, certain expectations, and people should respect that.

My son started his daycare at 1 yr old, the youngest they allow. He’s going to be 2 in Nov. They have certain guidelines that I wasn’t used to, but if I wanted my son to attend, I had to follow the rules. He used to use a pacifier at home during the day, naps, bedtime, etc. They don’t allow it in the 1 yr old room and I just had to deal with it. But it was a blessing in disguise….my son does great without it! It never phased him one bit to not have the binky, he fell asleep right away, and I love the fact that he did so well with this. Because really, the daycare helped ME break this habit! I had their help in this and that was a biggie.

Now once my son is in the 3 yr old room, he MUST be potty trained. They have accidents, sure, that’s understandable. But the daycare is trying to get these kids on a schedule to not differ from any other children in that same age group. Situations or accidents are embarrassing. So they try to steer clear of situations to where the kids may feel left out, singled out, whatever the case may be. Once they get to kindergarten, they’re ready to go…..

My son is almost 2 yrs old, he’s about ready for the 2 yr old room. Which means potty training starts up….and yes, I’m nervous about it. I feel a smidge of pressure, but on the flip side, I actually have the HELP of the daycare in potty training my son. And you don’t get that all that often….

My suggestion is that if you don’t like the rules, don’t attend the daycare. But usually, the ones that have the rules or suggestions, are the GOOD daycares! Because they’re more focused on the overall development of the child versus just babysitting.

Best of luck in choosing a school! It certainly isn’t easy!

Answer 4

yes, just pre-warn them and let them know. Personally i don't have kids, so i've never done this, but i used to work at daycare (in florida though) and i can tell you your not the first.  

Answer 5

3 years old is aweful young for preschool anyway, isn't it?

Answer 6

Yes, but he must stay in the toddler room until he is potty trained.

With 2/3 year olds.  

Answer 7

It depends on their policy.  No preschool will accept a child that is not potty trained but many daycares would.  Look for a home daycare that accepts infants through school age.