Can I ask him this.........?

Question

Is it ok to ask my guy friend if he really doesn't like kisses to make sure he was telling the truth?

Because two years ago I kissed him on the cheek and he blushed beet red, his blue eyes turned black and he had a huge smile on his face. A week after that we hugged and I turned to look at him and he turned and all I could see was his lips. He was so close to my lips I could have easily touched it! I got scared and froze and after several seconds he jerked his head away moaning. THat night I felt bad and called him up and said I didn't mean to kiss him(I said that out of nervousneess and that's a lie by the way) and he said he doesn't like kisses.

When I kissed him he was leaving for something and now he's back.

So is it ok to ask him if he was serious about not liking kisses? I really do respect his boundaries I just want to make sure because I don't believe him. Not after his reaction.

we're both single and I'm 23 and he's 28.

Answer 1

I believe that he is running away from his true feelings.. i dont know why though.. you should talk to him and see what he says or you will never know

Answer 2

maybe he's a dipper

I got a thumbs down - I used to dip Tobacco, I had a gf who didn't know (I would just put a small dab in the back of my cheek) occasionally, she would move in for a kiss and I would shy out because I didn't want her to know. It's a legit answer.

Answer 3

Something is very wrong here. Why doesn't he like to be kissed? That isn't normal unless he prefers guys to girls.

Answer 4

There are a couple of possibilities here.

1.)  he's g*y.

2.)  he's just not into you in that way.  Be prepared to hear that dreaded phrase, "I just want to be friends"

3.)  he really IS into you, but you took him by surprise, so he reacted poorly in the moment.  Then he made up a lame excuse for his weird behavior to try to cover for it.

You could always try to ease into it by saying something like, "it's too bad you're not into kissing, because that one time we kissed, I really enjoyed it."  See how he reacts.  I think it's a lot easier than saying "did you lie to me about not liking to kiss?"  One's an open opportunity for him to change his mind on the subject, the other is an accusatory question.

Good luck.

Answer 5

He just doesn't want to kiss you and/or he's g*y, no men "don't like kisses."