Can I call myself a real "mom" still?

Question

I know this question seems rather obnoxious but I continue to struggle with the idea of whether or not I am a mother. I was pregnant with my daughter, Eva Lynn and I gave birth along with holding her in my arms. She had gone to be with God again shortly after the birth. But I ask myself, am I a mom? A legitimate mother? I've got no other children Eva was or would be my 1st. And I can't help but wonder - I feel like a terrible person for even thinking I'm not, like I am denying my baby. I think about her all of the time, but would I be properly thought of as a mom? Can I call myself such a word?

Answer 1

Oh, I'm so sorry for your loss...

Of course you are a Mom - you lovingly conceived and carried a baby, nurturing her all those months. SHE sees you as her Mom - of course you are!

{BIG HUG!!!}

Answer 2

Of course you are....you are always a Mother...your baby moved on faster than seems fair....but as you said is back with God ...you were...are and always will be a Mother.

Answer 3

yes you can call yourself a mother. you have experienced a lot of feelings any other mother would and maybe more than other mothers as well .

Bless you!

Answer 4

I am sorry to read of your daughter's death.

Of course you are still a mum, you were pregnant, gave birth and therefore had a child. Your daughter  may no longer be with you, but you are still, and always will be, her mum.

Answer 5

yes you can. You have a child, you sadly don't have the joy of raising your child but she is still your baby. You are a parent in every sense of the word. I am sorry for your loss. I don't think there could be any worse experience

Answer 6

Yes you can still say mom.  You loved that little girl when she was in your womb and you gave birth to her.  Even though her time was cut very short, she's still your baby.  You are not denying her by thinking this.  You have gone through a very traumatic time.

Answer 7

Yeah u can.

Answer 8

Firstly, I"m so very sorry that you lost your little angel. Being a Mom  isn't about how long you raised a child for.  There are many people who have raised children, but mistreated them, hurt them, never loved them. These people are Parents. Your beautiful girl Eva Lynn was conceived out of love and was born to someone who loves her very very much. This is what makes a mom. Any one who has given birth can be a parent. It truly takes a special person to love their child so completely that it encompases their life. You are such a person. You are a MOM!! You have every right to call and refer to yourself as a mom. And I believe that our children now matter how young know this straight away.  

Answer 9

I am so sorry for the loss of your child. Yes, your a mum and although the child is not with you. You still gave birth her and she is in heaven now, she will always know that you are her mum and when you die and go to heaven, you will go up as a mother. As the heaven is under every mothers feet, and you are one of them

Answer 10

Without a doubt YES!

Think about all the people in the world who have lost thier children - are they not mothers?  

Answer 11

Yes you are a real true mother.

You raised her for 9 months and delivered her.

I am sorry for your loss. My sister's second babygirl was born and passed away a few months later due to an infection from the hospital (her syndrom required a feedin tube and was set to come home before they took out and re put the feeding tube back into her with out cleaning it...).  My sister struggled with the issue of a loss of a child.

She is still your daughter and she will forever have you as her mother.

When someone asks you if you have children, it is okay to say yes.  You can explain yes and say "She is in heaven".

On a head stone near my niece's grave says "9 months, only 9 hours with you, forever in our hearts"

Meaning, no matter how long she was with you, time isn't what makes you both together.

Answer 12

You can call yourself whatever feels right to you , You are a mother !unfortunatley your little one was taken at such a young age,  

Answer 13

Yes you are a legitimate mother. You gave birth to Eva. Eva was your baby, she made you a mother. You are a magnificent mother that thinks of her child all the time because you shared a love that only a mother and baby could share and therefore she lives on forever in your heart. You should call yourself a mother, regardless of the fact that she is no longer with you. Wherever she is - you will always be her mother and she your child.

Take care