Can I forgive MY MOM NOW AFTER THIS?

Question

WHEN I WAS 13 MY MOM BOYFRIEND TRIED ME(IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN) I TOLD HER AND SHE DID NOT BELIEVE ME. SHE TOOK HIS WORD OVER MINE AND HE SAID I WAS DREAMING. THEY LATER GOT MARRIED. NOW IM 18 AND I CAME HOME FROM JOB CORP FOR SUMMER BREAK AND MY FIRST NIGHT BACK HOME HE CAME AND CLIMBED IN THE BED WITH ME. HE TRIED PLAYING IN MY HAIR THEN ATTEMPTED TO KISS ME. HE RUM ON MY BODY AS IF HE WAS TRYING TO ARROUSE ME. I TOLD HIM TO EXIT MY DOOR AND HE LEFT. THE NEXT DAY I TOLD MY MOM WITH THE HESITATION OF HER NOT BELIEVING ME. SHE LISTEN AND I THOUGHT SHE HAD UNDERSTOOD ME CLEARLY. SHE DOESNT KNOW THAT I KNOW THAT THERE STILL INVOLVED. I KNOW BECAUSE MY COUSIN TOOK PICTURES AT NIECE BIRTHDAY PARTY AND HE WAS THERE WITH MY MOM. THE PIC. ARE POSTED ON MYSPACE AND THAT MY REALLY ONLY COMMUNICATION WITH MY FAMILY BUT MY COUSIN NEVER KNEW WHAT HAPPEN OR THE PIC. WOULD NOT HAVE BEEN POSTED. BUT THATS HOW I FOUND OUT. WHAT SHOULD I DO? IM NEVER GOING BACK HOME AFTER I FINISH JOB CORPS THATS FOR SURE. HELP...

Answer 1

no/yes she should have believed you about this your her daughter and she should no u  wants her happy and why would you lie about this. but what i would do is call her about and say look mom i know ur still with that guy and  you can live ur life but i would like you to know he tried with you. when i was younger and just tell her like if you dont bealive me then thats own you just now that i would never lie about this and how can u bealive a guy over your own flesh and blood but look i will stop calling you so you dont got to hear me cmplain about what he has done to me and i hope your happy now

Answer 2

I would say you should not forgive her because she doesn't believe her own daughter!

Answer 3

I understand your frustration. You have to understand that your mother is in a tough position. Would you think your mother would believe her boyfriend if he said YOU were a pedophile?? I would try to put a hidden camera in my room and have that jerk off try again. Then, show your mom your concrete proof. If she still takes his side, THEN disown her.

Answer 4

THAT'S HORRIBLE!!!

like every one else has wrote..show her what u just wrote!

and if she wont get rid of this guy then just don't go back!-i think i would just never talk to her again if she wouldn't listen to me after all that..

Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

you do not need to forgive your mom at all. any mother who can be with someone after they tried to sexually abuse her own daughter is a sick woman. she has no self esteem and is not capable of being there for you. she has already shown you that she can't be trusted. i'm so sorry this happened to you. it is not your fault. please please work as much as you can, educate yourself and do not go out with men who treat you badly or make you feel miserable. this is apattern that people can sometimes adopt when they are around it growing up. you need to take care of yourself from now on and find your own self-worth. if i were you, i would stay away from them both and try to find support from as many friends as possible. just don't get into a bad relationship. this will be your downfall, coming from this. it is called codependency and it afflicts a lot of betrayed young women. this is a betrayal by your mom. stay strong.

Answer 6

Tell your mother what you wrote here.  Tell her you love her and want to be close to her but not to him.  If she still doesn't believe you, show her the pictures.  Also consult with your clergy person, a trusted relative or friend. What he did to you is against the law and perhaps that should be a consideration.  This man should not be alowed to be free and go around molesting children.

Answer 7

Sounds like you need to do anything you can to put your mom and her sleazy BFs in your rear view mirror as soon as you can. In a lot of situations, it is unfortunate that the parent's BF or GF carries more weight than the kids, and the kids are often forgotten.

Start with putting a replacement doorknob on your bedroom door... one with a keyed lock. Make sure you lock the door when you enter, and keep him locked out after your leave. Wear the key around your neck and don't let your mom have a copy.  You need to play "keep away" from that guy.

Next time he touches you, let him know that you WILL file molestation  charges on him. You want him to back off.

You will need to keep working in order to come up with money for deposits on utilities and a place to live (even if you are sharing it). Most apartments require a deposit plus first and last month's rent.

See if you can stay with a relative while you are putting some money together to launch. Check with the local community college for vocational training so you can make more money.

Answer 8

This is a hard situation being only sixteen and not fully knowing your mothers personality it's hard to say. But have you seen georgia rule with lyndsey lohan (shes very hot in this movie) well this happens to her with her stepdad and her mom finally realized that she was telling the truth. What I would do in your situation is get SOLID proof that he did make a move on you. I.E. video, picture, anything that would pin him. If you can I would set up a camera with like night vision so that you can put it by your bed and when he walks in you have him. But if you do do this make sure that you put black tape over the little red flashing light. Also if you could try and make your mom understand that your telling the truth and that your 18 years old now and this is not something that you would even be joking about. Also if you could contact her mother or anyone else in her family then that could also help your case.

Hope this helps!

PS if you need anymore advise contact me at [e-mail]

Warm

Answer 9

tell her exacty what you just wrote. if she continues, i would disown her. or you can turn him in!!!

Answer 10

If you want to be taken seriously you need to press charges against this guy for child molestation. Just because a stupid parent doesnt believe you does not mean there is no help for this.

And yes you should just stay away from both of them.

Answer 11

I'm really sorry that your mom doesn't believe you. The same thing happened to my best friend. She told her mom  about her step dad and she ended up just saying. You knew it was wrong why did you let it happen. What kind of advice is that? What I think you should do is let her know everything. If she choses not to believe you, that's fine. You just need to get away from that. You deserve better. Good luck :]

Answer 12

GET A CAMERA IN A CORNER OF THE ROOM AND TRY TO ACT WELL HOW U ALWAYS DO SAYING GET AWAY AND THEN SHOW IT TO YOUR MOM AND THEN SHE WILL BELIEVE YOU

Answer 13

I just posted a question about this same topic. Check it out and answer it for me.

Yes, you can forgive your mom. It will definitely take some time. Your mother seems to be placing her emotional instability and loneliness over your safety. Its not until you can ask Christ to come into your life that you can begin the process of forgiveness. You may be able to share your story to help someone else that is going thru or has gone thru the same as you.

And you can still report this because you are a minor.