Can I get paid for giving my baby up?

Question

I'm 22 with a 3 yr old & I can not afford to take care of another child. I've come to terms with giving my unborn baby to adoption. But can I get paid for it? I'm struggleing with my son as it is & I've heard how some birthmoms get money for giving their babies up. I've asked a couple people & they all agree with me that if I'm giving my child up then I should be compinsated for it espically since I need the money for my other child. Is it wrong to think that? I'm really confused & would like advice.

Answer 1

compensated!!!!!   the only money you should be able to get is to cover doctors bills not covered by your insurance. Baby selling is illegal.

Answer 2

It is not legal to be "PAID" for placing your baby for adoption- but you can go to an attorney and he/she can help you find an adoptive couple, that will help you with medical, housing, etc during your pregnancy.

Answer 3

I think its illegal.

Answer 4

see a lawyer, I know that what you are doing is hard, but legally you are not allowed to sell your babym, so the adoptive parents would only be allowed to pay expenses you incur, but there might be some help he can offer, and please, practice birth control from now on, its a lot less painful than yhe pain you will feel when you give your baby up, oh yeah and the dad has to give it up too you know

Answer 5

I don't think its about compensation. It's more about wanting a better life for your baby. If you really love this baby then you will find a way to raise it. Think of your 3 year old. Does he know about the baby? Do you think he might hate you for giving away his brother or sister? There are lots of agencies that will help you with medical bills and let you keep the baby. But to want to be compensated for giving it up is treating him or her like an object that could be bought or sold. There are also agencies that can give you free counseling. Look in the book and find pregnancy crisis centers before making any decisions. They will help you with any needs you might have for the baby and questions about adoption.

Answer 6

You personally do not get paid. You can however have your doctor appointments, ultrasounds, delivery, etc. paid for. But no, they will not PAY you.

Answer 7

I don't think it's legal, but you would be taken care of with medical bills, ultrasounds, etc. all throughout your pregnancy.  Giving  you actual money for the baby I believe would be illegal.  I would consult an attorney.

Answer 8

Ok, hep me understand this, You want to SELL your child? Sick!

Answer 9

Unless you are a surrogate then it is actually illegal in canada and most states to pay for a child

Answer 10

I just wanted to add that I feel sad for you, as it sounds like you really want to keep your baby.  Do you have any supportive family members who can help you with raising them?  I hope that there is a way.  I hate to think of the three of you being separated because of money.

Answer 11

Some agencies will pay for your living expenses, definitley your medical expenses, for any counselling that you need, and then the agency/adoptive couple will pay for all of the fees associated with the adoption process. As far as getting a sum of money above and beyond this, sorry, you won't be able to receive any. Best of luck to both of you. The agency that my husband and I are approved with (and that offer these services) can be reached by going to the website www.itsaboutlove.org  There will be a phone number on there (depending on what country you're in). You will also be able to select the adoptive couple yourself, and choose how open you would like the adoption to be. Best of luck to you and your children.

Answer 12

They will not pay YOU. They will pay for ultrasounds, checkups, things like that.

Answer 13

I think it is wrong that you think that..

Now Im not against adoption but why would you even think that you should be paid for something that you dont want...

it aint no second hand goods or anything....

and u didnt invest money into it or anything...u made a mistake and have to figure out a way of dealing with it...

YOU SHOULDNT BE PAID if u wanna think like that maybe you should be paying the adoptive paerents money for havn ur child...

Like child support!!!!

update: I think YOU should relax...course ur gonna get answers like my one LOOK AT WHAT U JUST ASKED....

and I still say u should be paying the people to have ur baby not the other way around...do babysitters pay you to look after ur child?, what about child care I supoose u heard that they pay u to look after ur child....

Answer 14

sorry about people telling you stuff,it,s their job in life to hurt people already hurting,yes you can be given money.you need to talk with the adoptive persons in advance.there is someone on here right now who wants a baby,check into it.tell  the people your situation,you need help they need a child,but check them out ,how they are and things like that,you do want a good home for the baby,God Bless you for trying to help both of your children

Answer 15

I can understand that this is hard. Kids are expensive. I have 4... they're certainly not cheap.

There are ways for you to keep your baby. I wish you had've said where you are.

Worldwide, there is a place called birthright. You'll find them in your phone book under abortion alternatives. If it's material things you need for the baby & your son to get you through this rough patch, they will help you with that. If it's a non judgmental listening ear, they'll help you with that too. And if adoption is really what YOU want, they can point you in the direction to go that will be legal & ethical.

Please don't go into adoption lightly, this is something only you can decide because you will be the one living with your decision for the rest of your life.

I really hope that you can find someone close to help you through this. feel free to email me

Answer 16

Getting paid for your child is also known as human trafficking or baby selling and it's illegal.  Selling people for money became illegal in the United States around the time that slavery ended.

And yes, it's wrong to ever consider selling your flesh and blood for money.  It's just not a nice thing to do.  Sorry.

Answer 17

TO ALL YOU PEOPLE WHO ARE DISSING HER AND JUDGING HER; SHUT THE **** UP

ITS A SERIOUS QUESTION AND SHE NEEDS A SERIOUS ANSER OR SHE WOULDNT BE ASKING!!!!

IF SHE HAD TWO CHILDREN SHE COULDNT AFFORD TO FEED THEN YOUD ALL HAVE SUMAT TO SAY ABOUT THAT TOO !!!! NOSEY b******s!!!

*******ANYWAY LOVE*********

THERE IS SUCH THING FOR GETTING PAID

ITS TO BE A SURROGATE MOTHER TO A COUPLE WHO CANT HAVE CHILDREN

YOU HAVE TO ARRANGE A PRICE TOGETHER

PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEING TRYING FOR A CHILD FOR YEARS WILL PAY A LOT OF MONEY FOR A NEW BABY.

YOU CAN LOOK ROUND ON THE INTERNET TO FIND COUPLES THAT CANT HAVE CHILDREN

THERE WILL BE WEBSITES DEDICATED TO IT!

DONT FEEL BAD

AND DONT LET THE OTHER PEOPLE GET TO YOU.

YOU ARE DOING THIS TO HELP OUT THE CHILD YOU ALREADY HAVE AND ARE HELPING A FAMILY WHO CANT HAVE CHILDREN

MANY PEOPLE DO IT THESE DAYS .

ONLY YOU CAN KNOW WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY SO DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO.

XXXXX

Answer 18

I think its brave of you simply because it would not be an easy thing to give up your baby.. and you want to give it up because you cant support it well and it would probably be better in the hands of someone who can.

as for getting paid for it .. i wouldn't know.. sorry

BTW: i totaly agree 100% with 'Chloe Mafia'... she is your best answer.

Answer 19

Depends on the state you live in.  Almost all states have laws AGAINST paying the birthparents.  The laws allow paying for all the costs associated with having the baby - OB doc fees, hospital, attorney/agency... but most don't allow even for housing or anything more than a tiny (minimal) gift.  

I THINK California has some exceptions and in the back of my mind maybe Arizona??

Answer 20

it?  USA Baby$$$=Felony.

Answer 21

I sense that you are very conflicted.

Are their people out there that Will pay $$$ for your baby? SURE....but ask yourself this...would you really want someone who would be willing to purchase your child to raise him/her?

Really think about what value  that they place on you or your unborn child........I guarantee they will never speak to you after they have baby in hand because they will view as no more than a business arrangement.

Only you know financially what you can and can't handle.....have you turned to family?  The babies father?

Accepting monies from adoptive parents prior to the birth creates a moral dilemma.....what if you change your mind after the baby is born? You may feel a sense to honor the agreement because they have paid money to help support you during the pregnancy....that's not good for you, your baby or the adoptive parents.

You need to speak to a counselor to discuss what your going through....you can not make a decision like this under duress.

Answer 22

Your confusion is no excuse for irresponsibility.  USE PROTECTION!!!! It's a h**l of a lot cheaper than a child.  When you bear a child you are responsible for him/her.  If giving them up is what is best for your child, not you, than you should NOT be compensated.  Knowing you gave your child a better life than you could provide should be payment enough.

Answer 23

You need to to and speak to your parents and ask for support, and the father of this baby..

My birth mother gave me up after having my sister First and has lived a life of utter despair ever since giving me up, never got married never went on to have other children and is now lonely and miserable

It may seem like the best thing to do NOW But trust me down the years you will live to regret it

Get social services, dont you have the single parent pension over there ???

We have plenty of single mothers here in Australia

Our adoption rate has dropped from 10 000 35 years ago to just 568 Last Year

Please Get HELP do NOT give your baby away, and to answer your question NO you can not get money for your baby , the baby is not a commodity to be traded

Maggie Poster Person - Typing in ALL Capitals is considered shoutng AND it makes it very difficult to read ALL Caps

Answer 24

Getting "paid" for placing a child for adoption is illegal.  In most states, no money can change hands between the adoptive family and biological family.

I completely understand your concerns with your 3 yr old.  Have you looked into what types of resources are available for you in your community to assist with expenses?  Perhaps they can even help you to keep your unborn child if money is the only concern with keeping the child in your family.  

Good luck to you.