Can I move out at 15, 16 in february?

Question

I hate where I live, i'm an only child with a dad who works abroad Mon-Fri, so its just me and mum. I nearly died in may and as a result of the drugs needed to stabilise me I have problems with memory. Because of this I have needed to get to know everybody again, this has been difficult and my mum and I argue alot about pointless things, I know this is partly my fault because I am much more confrontational and defensive than I used to be. She has also had to help a clinically depressed friend who was trying to leave a domestic violence situation with her child. This has meant she hasn't been there for me when I needed her, I know this may sound selfish but my councillor has been telling me I cant cope with other peoples problems as well as my own and I think she is right. The reason I really hate my house is because of out neighbour. we have had an ongoing legal battle with him for years, he is not sane and has lied about our family to the police harassed my mum when she went to meetings and installed cctv cameras with zoom and audio recording all along the boundary wall so he can spy on us all the time, he has all so made holes in the wall so to watch us. I refuse to go in the garden now because every time I do he comes and watches me. I don't like to walk out of the front door because he has a camera on his house so he can watch that too. He has done so many things over the last few years and I cant handle it any more. I cannot relax in my own home and dont like to open any of the curtains. As much as I argue with my parents I can't sleep in a diffrent room to them, this is sad at 15 and I've never had a problems with it before but everynight I try to stay awake because I am convinced I will wake up to find the house on fire.This is another reason I wont go in my bedroom, it doesnt have any windows and I am always worried he will start a fire. This may seems paranoid and most people dont understand unless they have met someone like him, I know it is a risk to fall asleep however because he has previously shone a strobe light into my mums room when she was sleeping which can cause many medical problems if there is longtime exposure and can cause epilepsy. This man is not normal and he does not think logically, it also concerns me alot that he owns a gun and he is a bit manic. on weekends he goes and manically saws, and drills and hammers stuff in his barn, just to make a noise and disturb us a 7/8 oclock, he can do it all weekend. He has previously come into our garden while we were out and moved things and left packaging from his company so we knew it was him. It is extreemly worrying and as a result of his actions I have an anxiety disorder, and when put into any pressured situation eg exams, coursework lessons I have panic attakcs and have to be removed. These started earlyer this year, I see the councillor at school 3/4 times a weeks and cannot manage if I dont. She has reffered me to a psycologist who I have to see once a fortnight. I really cant take it anymore and want to go and live with my aunt and uncle who do not live to far away, I know my grandparents would be happy to have me if i explained why but it is too far to stay on at my school. I have mentioned this to my parents but my dad says it is not an option and we have to come up with other ways to make me feel better. He is never around thought so he doesnt know how bad it can be, to top it all my grandma who i have always been extreemly close to has cancer and nobody is telling me straight what is going on, i thought she was getting better but i found out only the other week this is apparently not so. its hypocrytical, everyones is trying to protect me from things like that but not dealing with the real issues. I know running away wont fix things and i dont want to. I do however want to leave home untill the injunction has been put on him, i then believe i will feel safer, it will take a while however and i dont feel i can cope with it any more, it has been gradually getting worse for 2 years. This has all affected me in many ways, i have been close to an eating disorder twice and have had bouts of self harm, i really want to get better but i know this will not be possible while i am still in this enviroment. any help on information about moving out at 15? or ways to persuade my parents to let me go for a while? and thoughts apprichiated

Answer 1

wow, I think you should convine your parents to move.

Answer 2

If you live in England, you can move out at sixteen but the authorities say you have to have parental consent. However, if your parents don't want you to, there's not that much they can do - ringing social services doesn't do much, as at sixteen, you're not top of their priorrities. At fifteen, you cannot move out, no. I wouldn't advise moving out or running away. You haven't a clue how hard it is living on the streets - if I were you, I would read the book 'Stonecold'. It's about a sixteen year old who runs away from home and lives on the streets, saying how hard and dangerous it is. It may seem bad now, but believe me, it could be ALOT worse. Same with moving out, not a god idea UNLESS you move in with a family member. Don't load yourself off onto friends and think, "It's exciting, sleeping at one, one night and not knowing where I'm going next!" but it's really not, and to be honest, it's rude to expect people to let you stay because you have nowhere else to go. So, either grandma's or stay put.

If you live in America, I don't know.

Answer 3

do u have a boyfriend? if hes 16 or older then he can move in and u can move in with him

Answer 4

nope you have to be 18 or 17 if your living in a dorm at college and graduated. all teens feel they h@te there life but when you move out your gonna wish you lived at home with no responsibility or bills!one thing that might help is talking to ur mom about ur nieghbor and try to settle it

Answer 5

OMG! Ur neighbour sounds like a freak! Im 15 too!

If I was you I would show both your parents this question so they can know how you really feel!

Does this man know about all your medical problem!

Seriously take it to the police!

Its just not right!

xoxo

Answer 6

This is just way too long to read, so Im just going to say unless your parents are going to help you out financially or your going to get a job to support yourself, your better off staying where you are. Adolecence is hard some have it worse than others, but you will get through it!

Answer 7

You can't move out on your own, but if your aunt and uncle are happy to have you go to them, but keep in regular touch with your parents!

Carry on with counselling/therapy and maybe anti depressants may help? But it may take a while to find one that works for you.

Eat healthily, exercise and take a good multi vitamin.

Sit down with your parents and calmly and nicely explain how you are feeling. Maybe you could also ask them if they can move.

The neighbour should also be reported to the police, and council ( noise control ) people. Keep a log of every thing he does so it can be reported properly.

Maybe find a new hobby or interest and go out with friends when you feel up to it.

Try to stay positive, be calm and polite with your parents. Get help for your eating disorder if you are not already, your counsellor will be able to refer you to someone.

Good luck!

Answer 8

nope you have to be 18 because ur parents are still responsible for you. sorry!

hope this helps good luck.

Answer 9

You are in the UK I see. No, you can't really move out at 15, your mother and father are responsible for you. Nobody will employ a 15 year old, or give you housing. 16 may be a possibility, but still beyond reach for most.

Answer 10

The answer is yes. You can move out, you may have to wait till your 16. One of my best mates has had constant trouble at home and he decided to move out, but he got help from consil and social workers. He also has a job to pay rent and basilcally everything.

So yea you can - but you need to think of whether you can afford it and whether it will actually help. And how will your mum feel about it.

Answer 11

Scotland UK you can move out at 16 but where will you get money to support yourself. From your question I think you need help from doctors.

Answer 12

Your situation sounds terrible, and I am so sorry you're going through all this!

I am glad to see you are seeking some counseling. Have you talked to your counselor about what options are available to you? Your counselor may even be able to have a family session and bring everyone to the table to talk about what you need and how you really feel.

Your parents are dealing with several serious stress issues, too, but that does not give them the right to ignore the needs of your child. If you feel safe talking to them, you might write out a list of the main issues and ask for their help. If you feel more comfortable, you can write a letter to them.

If there are ways for you to stay away from your house more, you might try them. A school club, a part-time job, or volunteering might help you focus your attention on something other than the major issues you deal with at home and will help you build new support networks.

Many people find strength through a higher power. If your family is religious, you might turn to your faith leaders for guidance and support. If your family is not religious, you might consider looking into other religions for comfort. My personal faith in Jesus Christ has kept me strong when I've faced very difficult times. Your faith in something larger than you may help you develop increased perspective and coping.

I hope that you are talking to your counselor about the self harm and eating disorders. While both can bring you comfort, they can also lead, even accidentially, to death. You are too valuable to too many people!