Can I raise them on my own?

Question

Hello I would very much like to get some support here. I am a housewife and homeschool mother. My kids are my life and I am having a really hard time with my husband for various reasons. I have decided that for my and the kids best interest I need to separate from him. I am studying to be a wedding planner but my nerves are shot because I am so scared to raise them and homeschool them at home. I am read that it can be done and I want to believe in myself but I am so scared. So scared that I am crying and depressed all the time worried that I cant do I am making myself so sick.I really dont have faith in myself at all and I try to so much. I want to die because I hate myself so much but my kids are all that keeps me here and going. Can you please help me. Thank you so much.

Answer 1

Yes, You can do it on your own, Yeah sometime it will be hard and it will be had at first until you can settle in a routine and do everything you need to do but for starters you have to calm yourself and try not to worry.

I was a single mother of 2 for a few years and now i am married and have 4 kids ( my husband is over seas  right now) and i am study too, i have an 11, nearly 9, 4 year old and a 5 1/2 month old and i do it. You really just need to believe in yourself and tell yourself that you can do it.

I don't know you but i believe in you and i believe you can do it. If you need any help you can always ask your family to lend a hand once in awhile too.

Answer 2

If I could I would jump through the computer and give you a big hug.

You seem like a great loving mother and you have a dream! You should fix this home situation and then go for your dream.

If homeschooling is something that you want to do (Which I commend you for, Go Mom Go!!!)

I think that you can do it.

Really, there is nothing that you or anyone can not do, anything is possible. You can be a terrific mother, a sucessful wedding planner, and a teacher all in one.

Just fix this situation with your husband and then work your way into being a wedding planner,and a teacher for your children.

Please remeber that we have one life, and you need to find that happiness somewhere and keep pushing!

Whenever I get really down, I think about people and worse situations than mine such as those in third world countries, those with terminal illnesses, those mothers who have lost their children... You seem to have a good life and you should live it, be bigger than the sorrow, be bigger than your problems.

Good Luck Mom

Answer 3

Why do you want to seperate from him?

Answer 4

I have no doubt in my mind that you couldnt raise them on your own.  I will also say that in some cases it is much healthier for the kids to have a broken home than a home in turmoil.  If you feel that you should leave your husband, then do it.  You will have to put the kids in public school though, because you wont be able to be a stay at home mom, even wedding planners have to leave the house to work.  Public schools really arent all that bad you know.  I also recommend that you talk to a counselor or a close friend about this to work through your depression.

Answer 5

you poor thing.......even if you left your husband i would hope that he would help pay for the kids and their living expenses.......make sure you get a good support system together who are willing to be there for you such as mom dad brothers sisters best friends anyone that can be there for you......you can do this you are strong and you have to realize that this is  the best thing you can do for them..........you are probably against this but for your own sanity you should probably home school the kids for a while it will be good for them to get away from the stressful situation you are in....i know as a kid when my parents when you a similar situation school was a vacation for me and no matter what age they are they notice and feel every bit of tension in the air personally i think it would be healthier for them if they went to school for a little while at least until things calm down. I also think that if you have insurance you should go to a therapist for your feeling of hating yourself and wanting to die.........believe me going to one does not mean you are crazy but it will help you out a lot even just to talk to someone who knows the right thing to say.........you can do this don't be scared and you never know things might hit your husband and maybe things will work out but for now you are doing the right thing for yourself and your children...........congratulations you are a hero to many woman who don't have the guts you do to make this big leap.......SO GO LEAP GIRL YOU CAN DO IT!

Answer 6

Well, to answer your question, I need some more info.  Is your husband still going to be around?  Are you going to let him see his kids?  Do you have financial support?  Raising your kids alone can be done, but it's better to share it with your husband, even if you are separated.  

Answer 7

I was raised in a single family household and even was homeschooled at times.  It can be done, and also fun and you get to spend more time with them.  They should be fine.

Answer 8

It can be done but it will be hard.  

Firstly, I want to say that you really need to find someone to talk to.  Your self esteem issues should be dealt with before the additional turmoil of a lost marriage, money and housing issues, child support and visitation, school and work and all the other things that come with a separation.  You need to believe in Yourself.  I don't think you should make too many life changes if you are feeling sick, depressed and suicidal.  

As someone earlier said, it's probably not going to work too well to have the kids home schooled if you do separate from their father.  Wedding planning is by no means a stay-at-home kind of job.  Brides are demanding and they are looking to YOU to make sure that they get every last item on their wish list just PERFECT for their big day.  If they aren't happy YOU will not be happy...it's a lot of stress dealing with brides (watch the show Rich Bride, Poor Bride on Slice/Life).

Whatever you do, believe in yourself, set goals and go for them.  Nothing is impossible.