Can I still see him??

Question

My boyfriend is going to go into the air force. We know that in order for me to be able to go with him when they ship him off, we'd have to be married. He thinks we're too young for that. I'm 19 and he is 22. When he DOES get shipped off somewhere, will i still get to see him? How often? What about phone calls?

ALSO:

Basic Training...I know i wont get to see him for the whole 2 months but what about phone calls? How often can I talk to him?

Answer 1

i believe phone calls are weekly or every few days.  I think email is something more available to troops.  In regard to how often you will actually see him that could be months at a time, i'd guess 3-8 months between leaves for him.

Answer 2

don't expect any phone calls during Basic training.  you may NOT visit him while he is in training..including his follow on schooling.  

once he arrives at his duty station..well,if you can afford the trip. great.  you will just be subject to HIS duty schedule..deployments training in the field.  duty days, etc.  

Answer 3

Talk to him about it. so he can look into it

Answer 4

In Basic training you can receive phone calls, but when you do it'll be short.  It really varies.  The first few weeks you probably won't hear anything from him.

When he gets shipped off somewhere.  You can see him if he is anywhere stateside, or out of the warzone if hes in another country.

And last but not least.  You need to think long and hard about this.  It is NOT easy.  It is not a walk in the park.  There will be some days where he cannot talk to you.  You will go months without seeing him.  He will work long hours, and be really far away.   You have to have trust.  Alot more than a civi girlfriend would.    

Good luck.

Answer 5

When he does get shipped off, you should be able to visit him as long as he's not in a war zone.  His base will be somewhere in the US (assuming you mean US Air Force) and he can receive visitors, but you should be prepared to stay in a hotel while you visit him.  For Basic Training, I don't know what the Air Force's policy on phone calls is, but you probably won't be able to talk very often, if at all.  Be prepared to write letters/e-mails and stick with him through the separation.  Good luck!

Answer 6

It is very difficult to continue seeing him when he shipped off.  During his basic training the calls will be infrequent and short.  Depending on where he is sent it will be hard for you to see him, and even if you do, it will be for a short time.  

You boyfriend is right in saying you are too young to get married. He’s not ready and neither should you be.  Currently his priorities are the military, while he will miss you, he is going to be focused in the moment.

The best thing to do is break up him. Tell him you are not naïve and understand that a long distance relationship while he is in the military will not work.  Tell him you are mature enough to realize you must focus on your own life just as he is his. Tel him, if you both feel the same way when he returns, you can start over.  

Keep in mind, your soon to be ex-boyfriend is going to go through a ton of experiences. He will meet people (girls) wherever he is stationed.  He and those girls will have similar goals and interest and most likely hookup with each other.  Spare him the guilt of having to cheat on you, spare yourself the agony of waiting, breakup with him now.  

Answer 7

You will not be able to talk to him while he is in Basic Training

You need to be supportive and wright him a letter every day.  

Nice cheerful letters full of support for what he is doing and silly news from home.photos etc...

No --  if he ships out you will not be able to see him unless you are married

It sounds like he has enough pressure and things on his mind without worrying about you and what you want

If you really love each other your love will grow stronger,

wait till you are a little older and he has gotten established at a base then you can discuss getting married and starting a family

If you do not want to lose him you will need to be a patient and faithful girlfriend again send cookies photos and silly gifts to remind him of you and support him

If your love is strong he will come back if he changes to much or you change it is better not to already be married with a couple of kids to s***w up.  

19 is young and you are going to be a different person in 5 years  

Answer 8

Know this: if you plan to be with a man in the military it requires a LOT of patience and understanding. Im in the Army and one thing I have learned about the military is ANYTHING IS SUBJECT TO CHANGE. In basic, at least for me, in the first three weeks (red phase) i got  ONE phone call for about 45 seconds. After that we made phone calls about every weekend. And I dont know how the air force is, but for most of the military if your talkn bout him gettin shipped out as in a DEPLOYMENT, you are NOT going with him.

But if you are talking about him going to where he is stationed, you can most likely live on base with him, as long as you are married.

Answer 9

You should put that this is related to airforce away times in your overhead question in order to attract people who know more about military matters, you should also put your nation in your question so we know which airforce you are talking about as policies vary.  

As for the statement "We're too young for that."

Why are you too young for that, it's perfectly legal at that age in most places.  Too young strikes me as a generic excuse for uncertainty, what is it he wants to do first before he is sure?  

Answer 10

okay sooo my cousin is in the military and had gotten married just before. She didnt get too see her husband that often..depending on where hes being shipped too. dies he have a computer? she goot online and kept in contact with everyone pretty often and i think made weekly calls . hes in the air force so im sure it owuld be much easier for him to keep in contact with you. byt good luck and just stay strong. y

Answer 11

MOVE ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 12

well, you can probably consider this relationship over.  Have you checked the divorce rate for military?  Being married to a military man takes a woman with strong character as she will be subjected to lots of loneliness and so will he.  This many times leads to infidelities.  I can't see a non-married couple lasting long in this sort of life.  Especially since there are no real substances keeping it together.  There would have to be a very strong true love bond.  Which is probably not the case since he does refuse to marry you.   You probably won't see him often, I wouldn't imagine.  sorry but i don't wannt to sugar coat reality.  

Answer 13

My husband and I went through pretty much the same thing, except he went in the army. During basic he will not be able to call you or receive calls. You can write however...everyday! Now we ended up getting married right after he was done with AIT. I was 19...he was 21. We have now been married for over 4 years. When he does get shipped off, it depends where and what his MOS is in the Air Force. Sometimes wives can go, sometimes they can't. It is a big job being a military wife.... but if you love him dearly and want to be together, I say go for it. But never rush into anything, which I am sure you know.  

Answer 14

onley reading the headline part: As long as ur not blind.