Can I throw my fiance a bachelor party?

Question

My fiance and I don't have a wedding party, however one of my best friends is having a bachelorette party for me- just a few gals going out for drinks and dinner, nothing huge.

Well my fiance is feeling left out because he really wants a bachelor party, but none of his friends offered to throw one. In fact, one of them said since you don't have a wedding party, you don't get a bachelor party.

Would it be okay for me to throw him one? See, we'll have just moved into our new home, and what we could do is get some drinks, I'll make some food, and my fiance's buddies can come over to our place and they can all just hang out. I wouldn't be there, I'd be out with my gals at my bachelorette thingy.

Does this work? Or do you have any other suggestions? I feel bad my fiance doesn't get to have a real bachelor party (he's been to so many!), so I'd like to do something.. just not sure what. I'm open to suggestions. :)

Answer 1

It would seem weird for you to throw it. But I guess if there's no one else.  You mention his buddies, NONE of them will step up and just throw him a party?? No cousin, brother, etc?

Answer 2

Wow. His friends sound like jerks. Usually, a good friend offers to do it or one of the wedding party does it. Since they aren't offering, I think that your gesture sounds nice.

I would ask him what he thinks about it.

Answer 3

In this situation, I'd say go for it! You set it up but ask a somewhat willing friend to play host by coming early and being there to greet guests. Your fiance doesn't seem to have very good friends. We're having a joint bach party and we're just going to get a huge hotel room and everyone (our bridesmaids and groomsmen only) is going to stay in it with us and we're going to watch movies and then go out for an early breakfast at IHOP... Something simple and sweet. Maybe you could make reservations at a restaurant and then invite everyone...

Answer 4

Yeah, I think either you should throw him a party or you should call up one of his best friends and tell hime to do it.

Make some food or order them pizzas

Buy some beer

Make sure there is plenty of stuff for them to do (video games, movies to watch, poker if he likes to do that)

AND/OR

Does he like to golf- send him and his friends out to the course for a round

Does he like to bowl

Does he like to go fishing

Does he like to play football/basketball/baseball with the guys

Many guys are active creatures, so if he likes to do some sort of sport or outdoor activity set that up for him.

Answer 5

i would talk to his friends, maybe they're making it a suprise. if they don't have anything planned you could suggest to a friend of his that they plan something. if all else fails, you could purchase tickets to a baseball game, (if he likes baseball?) you can get nosebleed seats for cheap. invite a few of his friends and send them off. a bunch of guys watching the game and drinking beer....i'm sure they'll find something to do from there!

Answer 6

I've never heard that if you don't have a wedding party you don't get a bachelor party, I know its traditional for the best man to organise it but I've known of loads of stag dos that the groom's friends have organised without being in the wedding party. I think you should ask your fiance's friends to organise something, and if they don't want to then go with your idea so he at least has some sort of do or he could organise something himself (I've known lots of people who've organised their own hen or stag night)

I feel sorry for your fiance :(

Answer 7

The bachelor party is usually the responsibility of the best man. Since you are not having a wedding party, why not enlist his closest male friend to host it.

Answer 8

if u do it make it sound like it was one of his friends idea and let that friend in on it. mayb tell the friend u chose to tell ur man that it was a surprise. make sure they're really not going to throw him a surprise bachelor party 1st though!