Can Muslims be friends with non-believers. ?

Question

I was reading the Koran and read to bot befriend unbelievers who mock God and try to get you to leave your faith.

But what about those who don't?? I have one friend that I've had for years, and even though she is a non-believer she is totally supportive of me and encourages me to follow where my heart leads me. She has never spoke badly of Islam and never put me down for my beliefs.

Answer 1

If you were reading Quran, how come you did nt read those verses saying you can be friends to others who do not attack you.

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YUSUFALI: Allah forbids you not, with regard to those who fight you not for (your) Faith nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them: for Allah loveth those who are just.

PICKTHAL: Allah forbiddeth you not those who warred not against you on account of religion and drove you not out from your homes, that ye should show them kindness and deal justly with them. Lo! Allah loveth the just dealers.

SHAKIR: Allah does not forbid you respecting those who have not made war against you on account of (your) religion, and have not driven you forth from your homes, that you show them kindness and deal with them justly; surely Allah loves the doers of justice.

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YUSUFALI: Allah only forbids you, with regard to those who fight you for (your) Faith, and drive you out of your homes, and support (others) in driving you out, from turning to them (for friendship and protection). It is such as turn to them (in these circumstances), that do wrong.

PICKTHAL: Allah forbiddeth you only those who warred against you on account of religion and have driven you out from your homes and helped to drive you out, that ye make friends of them. Whosoever maketh friends of them - (All) such are wrong-doers.

SHAKIR: Allah only forbids you respecting those who made war upon you on account of (your) religion, and drove you forth from your homes and backed up (others) in your expulsion, that you make friends with them, and whoever makes friends with them, these are the unjust.

Answer 2

Salam, dear sister.

I personally believe it is completely okay, if they are non believers AS LONG AS they are supportive and do not say anything about ISlam or encourage you do to bad things. Your freind is a good example of people who should be hanging out with you that are non believers. It does not hurt to have more Muslim freinds, too who are closer to allah swt. Also, remember that You cant judge a person by religion, you have to judge them on who they are.

I really dont like people who say "oh shes christian, so that means shes bad and you cant hang out with her".

And also like where i live there arent many muslims, just lots of christians. I have made friends on both sides, and they are supportive alhamdulillah. So thats okay do to, too.

hanging out with non believers who are good people does not make YOU a disbeliever, so just understand that.

Salam

Answer 3

Please watch the Video.A mullah in UK gives the answer

Answer 4

Yes, on a superficial level. I would advise against visiting their homes, unless it's a group get-together from the office.

Answer 5

you didnt read that in the quran

and ofcourse muslims can be friends with non muslims

Answer 6

NO. Disbelief is a form of mocking Islam, But dont believe me, I only provide the scripture as proof ,listen to those who only offer empty opinions and loath scripture.

33:36.  

It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allâh and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allâh and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed in a plain error.

The Prohibition of Being Loyal Friends with Disbelievers

This Ayah discourages and forbids taking the enemies of Islam and its people, such as the People of the Book and the polytheists, as friends. These disbelievers mock the most important acts that any person could ever perform, the honorable, pure acts of Islam which include all types of good for this life and the Hereafter. They mock such acts and make them the subject of jest and play, because this is what these acts represent in their misguided minds and cold hearts. Allah said;

http://www.tafsir.com/default.asp?sid=5&...

The Prohibition of Supporting the Disbelievers

Allah prohibited His believing servants from becoming supporters of the disbelievers, or to take them as comrades with whom they develop friendships, rather than the believers. Allah warned against such behavior when He said,

http://www.tafsir.com/default.asp?sid=3&...

The Order to fight People of the Scriptures until They give the Jizyah

http://www.tafsir.com/default.asp?sid=9&...

Paying Jizyah is a Sign of Kufr and Disgrace

http://www.tafsir.com/default.asp?sid=9&...

Fighting the Jews and Christians is legislated because They are Idolators and Disbelievers

Allah the Exalted encourages the believers to fight the polytheists, disbelieving Jews and Christians, who uttered this terrible statement and utter lies against Allah, the Exalted. As for the Jews, they claimed that `Uzayr was the son of God, Allah is free of what they attribute to Him. As for the misguidance of Christians over `Isa, it is obvious. This is why Allah declared both groups to be liars,

http://www.tafsir.com/default.asp?sid=9&...

Answer 7

koran is a barrier to love non muslims

kill non muslims wherever you find them (Quran 2/191/2)

Answer 8

i think kaosktrl pretty much sums it up.  if you read his answer and also read the verses he cites, i believe your 'religion' is pretty hard nosed about not having friends who are 'unbelievers'.

you say in your profile you are a recent 'revert' to islam.  the word 'revert' means to 'go backwards'.  what have you gone backwards into?  it looks like a terrible step backwards from where i'm standing as an 'unbeliever'.

my suggestion would be to talk to your friend and learn more about her faith.  in my opinion, you're on a sinking ship right now and that ship's name is islam.

Answer 9

Yes. Holy Quran makes a distinction among hostile and non hostile non Muslims.

It has categorically prohibited us from making Jews and Chrisitians friends when they have formed an Alliance, because it will happen near end time when instead of hating each other Jews and Christians will join hands to destroy Muslims. To make friends of such organized Jews and Christians is not allowed. But I think you can continue your friendship with your friend if she is not hostile to Islam and Muslims.

People are basically good, but Satan and its follower priests mislead them to hate Islam .

Answer 10

Of Course....You should always in your life be good to every single person

Even if they hurt you...dont hurt them...and You are allowed to be freinds  with a non-Muslim...

And are you now Muslim....

Masha- Allah....Peace be uopn you.....May you have a very good life......Alhamdulilah...

Answer 11

yes you can-you never know, she might convert to islam by ur attitude towards her and others

Answer 12

u can be friend with non-believers. as long u believe in it it's okay. it's something personal to them. if they do not spoil our believe than u have no problem. even any race.

okay. be clear. don't follow other people's way. be your own.

reply me back for my answer. we can be friends 2

Answer 13

Ofcourse you can.  Read that in context with this verse sister:

"Allah forbids you not, with regard to those who fight you not for (your) Faith nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them: for Allah loveth those who are just."  60:8

Answer 14

Muslims can be friends with non-believers according to Quran:

60:8 (God forbids you not to turn in friendship towards) of the unbelievers as do not fight against you on account of [your] faith, and neither drive you forth from your homelands, God does not forbid you to show them kindness and to behave towards them with full equity:for, verily, God loves those who act equitably.

60:9 God only forbids you to turn in friendship towards such as fight against you because of [your] faith, and drive you forth from your homelands, or aid [others] in driving you forth: and as for those [from among you] who turn towards them in friendship; it is they, they who are truly wrongdoers!

Answer 15

Not as a friend, but as a good neighbor.

Only in the case of a Non-Muslim neighbour, it is said in Islam to be good with him. We cannot choose our neighbor and cannot change so easily. But a friend is our own choice so the burden comes on us.

I don't want to be friend of a Non-Muslim, never, they stink of impurity.

Answer 16

Look.. although you up there are posting the hadeeths where we are not to take unbelievers as friends..

I am still of the opnion that how on earth can we spread Islam if we never befriend someone of another faith.. How can we be perceived as good and kind and charitable people if we act like prudes and never be friendly to them..

I am of the idea that if we muslims, ever single one of us.. take a family of another faith into our homes and invite them to a dialog and dinner and show them our kindness and goodness, they will learn by our actions that we are generally good people..

I will be able to stand up to God on judgment day and when he asks who I propogated Islam to.. i can proudly tell him... not stand there with my head down and say "I never associated with anyone else but muslims"...

How on earth are we to spread Islam? by hiding amongst ourselves?  

Answer 17

Yes you can be friends with non muslims especially in the USA since we are in the minority. I've had non muslims as friends most of my life and you just have to be smart at choosing them because you need friends who respect your beliefs. For example my non muslim friends always ask me about islam and i explain it to them and invite them to the mesjid and some actually came. So having non muslims as friends is a form of dawa too (spreading islam). Without us befriending the non muslims how will they learn about this beautiful religion and come to accept it. We have to show the non muslims how beautiful and perfect our religion is and that's also with our actions. Like if you are a trustworthy muslim friend then you are showing a good image of Islam. Try to influence them to do good, but don't be influenced to do bad and become a non muslim too. If you see your non muslim friend affecting you in a bad way then avoid that friendship. I hope this helped you. Peace  

Answer 18

salam sister

yes you can. as long as they wont turn your brain upside down. what i mean is that they wont make you think that islam is s stupid religion and such. i have mnay friends who are non-believers. you can actually try to understand their prespective of islam and such.

salam

Answer 19

Salam for you my dear friend.Yes we muslims can be friends with non believers but Allah  as stated in the Qur'an,does not allow us to treat the unbeliever as our close friend,our protector or our advicer because we have not the same belief and faith.We should respect each other and do not be influenced by the unbeliever.

Answer 20

yeah u can be friends with non-beleivers, but i dont think u would want to be friends with someone that mocks your religion anyway..soo lol

Answer 21

yes make UN believer friend  give them dawwa and convert them into non Muslim to Muslim

Answer 22

ofcourse you can

the verse that talks about not to have them friends talks about dont team up with the non believers against muslims.

Answer 23

Yes you can be friends with non believers but not like best friends.  Your friends sounds like she is a wonderful friend.you don't have to give her up.

Answer 24

well thats a true friend you have there

she is truly a nice friend and as far as u tell us abt it, she respects u and ur religion

but in my opinion, i dont thin that you should not be friends with non-believers who mock Islam and Allah swt

Answer 25

Oh Look ! Muslims do not want to be our friends

1-Will we miss anything?

2-Why do they make us feel that they r doing us an enormous favor if ever they become or act friendly?

3-Do we give a d**n! Good riddance.

Answer 26

yes u can, but don't make them ur forever company and rather sit in the company of those who are closer to Allah swt and are on the way of piety.

Answer 27

Sister.

A disbeliever is one who denies the truth or hides it.

Its someone who knows the truth of Islam and still strives against it.

and your friend doesnt seem to be one.

Yes she is a non muslim but not neccessarily a disbeliever

However, the thing is....

As far as i know from what you say she has good character and good habits but if its not that way then u have to be careful.

Book 036, Hadith Number 4815.

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Narated By AbuHurayrah : The Prophet (pbuh) said: A man follows the religion of his friend; so each one should consider whom he makes his friend.

I also have experience and i know slowly slowly people start following what their friends do =0

However as i said she doesnt fit the character of a disbeliever.

She is just ignorant of the truth and u might wanna share it with her =) and its ok to be her friend just be careful if she has bad character or anything.

Answer 28

Sister it ok to make friends with nonbelievers. A;hiumdillah that great u have a freiend that supports u.  allah does not want to burden anyone or be unjust to those who are kind and peaceful. If please inshallah give us the exact verse from the Quran so i can explain.  

Answer 29

Prophet Muhammad's own uncle Abu Talib, who was very dear to him, was a non believer. He was his good friend. It is a good example I think that you can be friends with a non believer.