Can She Keep Me(Father) Away From Our Baby?

Question

Im 18 and Im having a baby in a couple of months by a 17 yr old. She doesn't want anything to do with me anymore for reasons unknown. I love her with all my heart but insists on treating me bad. When the baby is finally here I think she will try to keep me away from the baby and wont let me have the baby to my house. An answer would greatly be appreciated.

Answer 1

she cant keep you from the baby if you go to court and get either joint custody or visitation rights.

Answer 2

If you take her to court and order a dna test, and are willing to fight for visitation in the court system, then no she can't keep the baby from you. You'll have to have some money to pay for legal fees. I don't have any idea how much, but I'd say somewhere between at least 500-2000 dollars. (really don't know). Your best bet, is to talk to a family law attorney. Make sure your working, staying clean (in all aspects, no tickets, no charges, no alcohol, no nothing), and are able to get too and from to see the baby (vehicle, and insurace, and carseat (properly instaled lol). G'luck. If you get serious about it, with a dna test, she can't deny visitation, a court wouldn't allow her too. You will have to pay child support if you take it to court, which anyone knows it's the respectable thing to do regardless.

Answer 3

You will have to fight for the right to see your child and if you don't want it to be difficult, voluntarily contribute to the child's wellness in any way you can. It is not up to her to decide if you can have access to your child, also don't wait for her to get a lawyer for anything, initiate the process right away.

Answer 4

She can only do it w/ a court order.Get a lawyer & a DNA test to prove that the baby is yours.

Answer 5

She can't do that. it is your baby just as much as it is hers.

Answer 6

Sad to hear!!!! Check out this site as got contact for legal advice in relations to this as when the child is born she will probably fill out the Family Tax Benefit and Parenting Payment Single Form with Centrelink.  Which meanings she will probably get the baby bonus of $5000, what you need to do is get supporting letters/stat declaration from work colleagues , friends and families advising you wish to be a part of the babies life and all financial aspects but the mother wishes to have anything to do with you.  Hold until the birth and then you will get contact from various govt. depts - expect Child Support Agency will contact you.   Send copies of all letters/stat dec. to these departments.    That way it shows your a responsible father who has in no way defamed your ex (mother of your child) which can in turn allow the lines of communication to open through mediation.  Contact Legal Aid, Centrelink Social Workers who can advise you best.  

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Good luck with this!!!!!!

Answer 7

No she can't keep your baby away from you, i would deffinatly take a step back from her though.  I agree that you need to seek professional advise.  Good luck, it is great that you want to a apart of your child's life.

Answer 8

You wouldn't have to worry too much about.  But FYI, if your girlfriend splits up with you in most parts she automatically gets custody of the child.  Of course, its better if you agree about when you can see your child out of court, but if it goes to court, heres a bit of info:

If the court doesn't see you as harmful, it should be easy to get visitation rights through the courts.  This takes away your girlfriends power to keep you from your child, so long as your visits are reasonable.

Joint custody of the child can also be requested, but full custody of the child is rarely given if the mother is a good parent.

Answer 9

No not really do you work because i have a feeling she is going to go for child support which she can do and thats probley her intentions i would take it to court but you are the baby's farther this women has more rights over you the judge can say you can't keep the baby from it's farther i wil prey for you don't go back just take care of the little one

Answer 10

no she cant. you have the exact same rights she does.

get a lawyer because then she has to give u visitation time of your own for a set amount of time.

she should be thankful u arent trying to be a deadbeat.

Answer 11

i believe she has someone else pissing in her ear about not  having you around

but once this baby is here she is going to want you so you do your best to fight for this baby

im a mother of a 14month old and her father doesnt fight or doesnt want to see her or hasnt put any effort into seeingher and i just wish he would fight for her..

so for your sake and that babies sake and maybe a little for the mothers sake fight all you can for her

support this child no matter if your there or not because when its time to go to court if you have to then you have every chance in having some custody

goodluck

Answer 12

Get a lawyer, until you have a courtorder for visitations you won't have rights to the baby but if you get a courtorder with visitations then she will have to allow you to be a part of the baby's life.

Answer 13

Talk to a lawyer NOW.  Don't wait for your child to be born.  Unless you are some drug using, abusive scumbag, you have EVERY right to see your child!!

Answer 14

only with a court order.

Answer 15

You need to get a lawyer now so that the court will see that you've taken steps to be a good father to your child. If you wait until a few months after the baby's born, the courts will see you as not being interested in your child from birth. Make sure your name gets on that birth certificate and get a DNA test so that there is no confusion from anyone else. As long as you don't have any kind of record with the law and you have a stable job, or your parents are willing to help you out, then there is no reason why you can't have partial custody of the baby. I'd get a crib, car seat, etc. now, so you look responsible in the eyes of the court.

Answer 16

She cant keep the baby from you unless she has a restraining order etc from the court. If none of these are present, then you should be able to see your baby anytime you wish. Have you spoken to her parents about your situation? Maybe they will be able to help assist you in this. Let them know how you feel and hopefully everything will turn around for you.

CONGRATULATIONS and all the best!

Answer 17

she is thinking only off her self and not ur unborn child. maybe try writting her a letter explaining how u feel, not about her but about wanting to b part of youre childs life, keep a copy off the letter incase she still refusses to letting u see ur child and if it goes to court you can show them the letter. fight with every thing cause sooner or later u willb aloud 2 c ur child and atleast ul no and ur child will no u fought for him/her.  good luck x

Answer 18

unfortunately it is immature girls like this that give young mums a bad name. she has no right to say if you can see your child or not. talk to a lawyer and try mediation first,if that doesnt work then you may have to take her to court. dont just give up and do nothing your child needs both its parents so do whatever you can

Answer 19

No..she can't.  You have rights too but you will have to go to court to get visitation enforced.  This may be risky though because you had s*x with a minor and you are 18.  That's against the law.