Can We Sort Out The Different Things We Want?

Question

Been with my boyfriend for a year, living togther for 9 months, both of us have a child each from previous relationships. We've been so busy sorting out other things that we never actually discussed what we wanted in the future, so i asked him last night. I always thought I'd have more kids, get married etc, but when i asked him what he could see in our future, and he said "nothing", so i asked him about kids, he really doesnt want anymore, and he knew from the beginning i did. when i said i felt led on because he never told me he felt that way he said he was being selfish because he knew i wanted kids, but he hoped he'd change his mind, but obv hasn't. I'm only 21, and hes 25, and i dont think im willing to give up the fact of having more kids of my own, because if i did i'd maybe end up resenting him for it. I love him so much, and my heart is breaking, i need good advice, can't let this go on much longer, what do I say to him now?

Answer 1

GUT FEELING

Children are a major issue like money and s*x.

You CANNOT just hope it will work out on this one because of his mindset.

Heart breaks are what you want to avoid now....I said heart breaks with an S because you are broken Now, and you need to avoid more damage.

Love can keep you together but will there be HAPPINESS with the commitment!.

Actually neither of you are selfish, you just want different things.

BE HONEST AND GO WITH YOUR GUT FEELINGS, YOU CAN"T AVOID This issue!

Today or Tomorrow it will be an issue!

Answer 2

1You each have two kids. Each of you were born from parents born in the baby boom era. When your old your two kids are going may have kids, about the time you die they'll have kids. You see how many people that is. How many cars driving waste built up money inflated.

2Your still young have two kids and it's probably expensive How your paying for this i don't know but at least you should think about what kind of life you can give your kids.