Can You Get Emotionally Attached To The Person You Loose Your Virginty To?

Question

I lost my virginity around 2 months ago to a boy i barely even knew,, i had seen him around a few times down the pub and he was trying to get my number for ages,, i ended up having a party and he turned up,, so i let him in and i did have a lot to drink,, before you know it we was upstairs and having s*x,, i started seeing him for a little while afterwards and continued to have s*x with him for a few times,, after a few weeks i found out he was having it with everyone! we didnt end up talking again for a few weeks,, its complicated as he said he loved me etc,, i think im emotionally attached to him as i cant stop thinking about him and crying even after all the other stuff he has done to me,, everytime i see him i just wish i was with him etc,, ive had s*x with 2 other people and i really dont care about them,, im only 15,, help,, i cant take being upset any more!

Answer 1

yep....you can get attached to him.....but he's proved he doesn't have to get attached to you.....And if you're 15 and slept with 3 guys....why should he ? ....He probably has already written you off as a slag.

Answer 2

That is why s*x should be saved for marriage.  You are giving part of yourself to that person, it should be a special act saved for the man you will spend the rest of your life with.  Now, what's done is done.  You can't go back and change the past, but you can prevent future emotional trauma by waiting for that person you want to spend the rest of your life with.  You're so young and have so much more to do with your life.  Please know you are worth waiting for, and if the guy won't wait then he is not worth keeping around!

Answer 3

Because your 15 its hard to understand what love really means, he says he loves you, but is it real? The boy you lost your virginity to obviously isn't the same boy any more, he has hurt alot and isnt worth thinking about.  Even though you lost your virginity to him their will be lots more other people that actually love you and want to be with, if he actually loved you he wouldnt of hurt you so many times, and you know when somone loves you when he always wants to be around you and makes sarifices to be with you. This boy is not worth your tears, i know how you feel, i really like this person and wish to be with him but stuff complicates it. So calm down and find someone else that deserves your love and you. Good luck :)