Can You Trust Them? 10 points on offer?

Question

I have a very close cousin who is 6 years older than me, and is a very close relation to all my family including my parents. so its two families who are so close it seems to be one. So about 7 years ago i kept a big secret for my cousin and told no one, so now they very much trust me. but now i want to tell them a very big life changing secret about me (marriage basically to another person) so they can help me in making the marriage possible.

Can i trust them to not tell my parents or anyone else in this family, because if they do it will crush me, I did them a favour but can they pay me back and not tell anyone. and this is the only person i can trust right now and this is my only hope, i cant tell my parents for various reasons

So Should I trust them, and how do i tell them privately and how do i make a cover story just in case they tell someone?

Thank you very much

Answer 1

If you just want to talk to someone and get it all out, then I would suggest a therapist. But if you want your family present during your wedding and that is why you are telling the cousin, then it is a risky proposition. If you are old enough to be married, you should be old enough to face the reactions of your family. So tell your cousin if you must, but don't count on it that your secret will be safe.

Answer 2

It is completely up to you, but wud u not prefer to maybe release the burden to a therapist or someone like that? At least they are sworn to secrecy. With someone like your cousin, you could never be sure whether they would let your secret slip or not. All it takes is for them to tell one other person and its out in the open. However, if you're willing to take a chance on your cousin, by all means do, but remember that it could backfire at any time!!! Good luck!!

Answer 3

In my lifetime, and it's a long life, it never fails but secrets are seldom withheld.  There are excuses that people use such as "I felt like you needed support," or "It was a slip of a tongue," or "You should keep it in the open."  I believe it would get around to your parents, and it's better it come from you than anyone else.  In my hearts of heart, I go by that gut feeling and what happens, happens.

Answer 4

jeeez honey that depends who u telling, how will the person react, whats the worse that could happen. tell u honestly no much of details to make any sence. If this is not a good new to ur family and others think twice before u say anything. Does it really worth telling everyone?

Answer 5

All you can do is ask your cousin specifically if you can trust them not to disclose your secret to your family. Also, I understand that you don't want your parents to know, but maybe you'll feel better in a way if they find out rather than you sneaking around and hiding things from them. It will all work out though, I promise. Just ask your cousin to promise to keep your secret..

Answer 6

Megafunk's idea is a good one...