Can a baby bring to people back together?

Question

I have just splitt up with my boyfriend of a year and 4 months. Ive just found out im 7 weeks pregnant and want to keep the baby as I dont believe in abortion. Me and my ex loved each other very much and when we had arguments we always found a way to work stuff out. I want my baby to have a dad and I know he would be a great one, and im still very much in love with him. But Im wondering will he come round to the idea?

What do you think

Answer 1

dont use your baby as a weapon in your relationship!

Answer 2

A baby won't save your relationship.

Even if you were still together, it could be enough to split you because of the pressure and responsibilities.

Answer 3

It is entirely possible, though you should not bet on a baby to save your relationship.  Fact of the matter is you are pregnant and kudos for not believing in abortion.  So you need to talk it out with your ex because you will have contact for the rest of your lives now.  My marriage has grown stronger since our daughter was born, so a child is capable of having a positive effect!

Answer 4

The answer to your question is Yes, the birth of a child can do many things. Congrats to you and I wish you the best

Answer 5

No, I believe it does not bring them back together and it works out more stress full for the child being raised by parents who are only living together because of the child.  It is not nice hearing arguments or seeing the tension with the two parents.  It may be better but it does not always work in life.

Tell him and leave it at that, if he likes the idea start the relationship from scratch and try iron out what caused you to break up in the first place.   Don't listen to people who say it is important for the child to have a family together, it does not always work out that way and a child will not become bad because of a broken home, it all has to do with how you raise and guide your child into adulthood that is important, many single parents have achieved raising good behavioured children.

It was not good for my little sister and myself to hear my parents argue because they did not want to stay with each other only doing it for the kids, we always wanted them to brake up so it would be less stress full.  my mum has done well raising both of us.

Answer 6

well i dont know the reason you and your boyfriend split up, but f you still love him and he still loves you, then theres a good chance of you two getting back together and trying to work things out.

you need to sit down and have a chat with him, and tell him exactly how your feeling, and then you will o exctly how he feels about you.

good luck xx

Answer 7

you can't make something work if it just doesn't. don't force him into anything, and don't use the baby as a bargaining issue.

Answer 8

dont worry about your relationship with the babies father. If its ment to be you will be brought back together. Just remember you and your unborn baby and their dad dont have a relationship built dont ruin it for them, because of whatever issues you and him have. Dont force him to do anything, if he wants to he will come around in time.

Answer 9

Ever hear of wishful thinking?  That is what this is.  It never works.  

I know from experience.

Answer 10

Best thing to do is talk to him about it and see if he is willing to make this work for the child. And if he is still in love with you. But let me be very clear on one thing.. A child is no reason to stay in a relationship. If either party is unhappy a child shouldn't be the ONLY reaason you stay together. Because eventually the problems at hand will come out of the woodwork and then you both are left with this feeling of "why did i waste my time". It is healthier for the child if two parents dispise eachother for them to stay apart. Now if he doesn't want you to have the baby then tell him to go to h**l and get child support. But from the way it sounds if you both loved eachother so much i don't see him being upset with the fact you chose to keep the child. Why exactly did you break up? was it serious or something you both can overcome. And if it is something you could overcome why did you both go as far as to call it quits?My personal expierence is my childs father wept when he saw him for the first time and he gets such joy out of seing himself in our son..So good luck honey and congrats on your unborn angel

Answer 11

No, no, no!

Answer 12

Babies generally make relationships harder to sustain. They're stressful and they give you more things to fight about. Don't count on the baby saving anything. If it works between the two of you it will be because you both work really hard to stay together.

Answer 13

He might want a place in the child's life, but that doesn't mean he is going to want to get back with you. Don't have any expectations for a rekindled romance, and you'll probably save yourself from having your heart broken a second time.

Good luck