Can a daycare tell me to take my child out in two weeks b/c of a personality conflict?

Question

I've been involved w/ this daycare for 3 of my children & 9 years all together. I've had ups & down w/ the director who has been extremely unprofessional in the past. I've learned to to ignore her when she's in a bad mood. However, I called to advise them that as of next week my 5 year old child will no longer be attending the daycare b/c he is entering kindergarden starting Monday, after the assistant director told me to submit a letter etc.. she asked would I like to be transferred to my 7 mo.daughter to check up on her as I do daily, I said "yes" she put me on hold, that's when the director picked up & said. Your a week behind on your co pay fee are you calling to make a payment? I explain to her the check was already dropped in their box on friday (which she hadn't checked yet) I then proceeded to ask her could I switch to monthly payments b/c I know that's an option. She cut me off & said "look im just letting you know how much you owe, no need to get an attitude" I was only asking a question I said, but you seem to be short w/ me is everything ok? Her response was "I'm done talking w/ u, Im transferring to your daughter b/c god forbid if I have to call & ask for a payment! Not to mention the payment was there & she never called me I called about a different subject. I was really disturbed & contacted corporate & as I expected corporate was only concerned about the payment & not how unprofessional & rude her director was. Not satisfied I was generating a letter to send to the president of the company. My goal was to gather my thoughts & send a letter out by next week Wednesday. Than the issue today occured I walked into the daycare proceeded to get my child from his class, the director was walking towards me & she must of said "hi " and I didn't hear her, she than shouted out "hi" making direct eye contact. I was very startled & before I can response she she said I need to have a word w/u. She said "since your going to be like that, you have two weeks to remove your children", my response was I'll be writing the president, she reminded me again I have to weeks. So upset I immediately called corporate again & explained what happened even she agreed you cant make someone leave b/c they didn't speak. She said she will get back to me. When she did, she expained to me, it's hard to see exactly what's happening when she's not there & how she understands my concerns w/ the director but feels the director is doing her job and she feels it's in our best interest if I do take two weeks to find another daycare. At that point I requested a meeting w/ the president. The lady from corporate said he was unavailable but she will get back to me in the morning. Either way my intentions will be to remove my daughter but WHAT ARE MY RIGHTS? I know I have the right for freedom of speech & my payments are up to date. Someone/ anyone please give me advise on what I should do next.

Answer 1

I woul find another daycare anyways because I would never leave my children with someone that negative and rude.  

Answer 2

Do a poll of other parents and find out if anyone else is unhappy...take it to the State controllers of daycare...there will be a body that is in charge of daycare licences...people like that should NOT be in charge of kids....take it higher than the president of the daycare....dont let them get the best of you.

Answer 3

I wouldn't want my child there anyway after that but typically daycares have the right to refuse any child but they must list reasons.  

I would find another daycare for my child and let this one go.

Answer 4

wow - that sound awful! They can't make you remove your child you haven't done anything wrong.  

But that lady sounds like a b*tch and you'd be better off not having to go there anymore anyway - it's just sad that it would have to end on such a bad note.

Good luck :)  

Answer 5

I'll try to make this short, take your kids out of that day care before the two weeks are up and be done with it. Oh and before you leave tell that lady that she is a major you know what and she can kiss where the sun don't shine! I know that woman is in the wrong and being a  *itch and totally unfair to you, but don't drag it out more than it needs to be. I worked at a daycare for 5 years and our director was a *itch too! So I can relate. It all depended on what mood she was in that day, but it shouldn't have to be like that. I'm sure that they cant kick you out b/c of both of yall's communication problems but I'm sure that lady will make up some other reason for her wanting you to leave. Some people are just like that, and theres nothing you can do. Plus if I where you I wouldn't want my children going to a daycare where your having constant problems with the director like that. Take your kids out immediately so she will not benefit from your hard earned money any longer.  

Answer 6

Document everything that happened, and be honest - talk to the president and explain the situation.  They have a right to terminate care giving, but obviously you have a case that it was arbitrary instead of based on merit.  Perhaps she has a folder with documentation of your behavior, but she may simply be unprofessional.

I know it puts you in a bind but maybe this is a good thing?  In my local area in the past year a director was caught with crack cocaine and meth in a neighboring town - she was unprofessional at work (according to ex-employees) and been going downhill for a while, although she could keep it together for the clients in appearance.  What I am saying is perhaps you don't want your kids in her care!  I know several instances of highly questionable conduct on the part of directors, everything from cocaine use to stealing outright.  If she acts this way with you she may be doing other things, pack your kids up and find someone who isn't nuts.

Answer 7

I work at a day care and we would never do that! we have parents that dont actually pay and we never treat them like that.. and you seem like a very nice lady.. and i deal with parents who seem to think when i say have a good night or bring up an issue about there child i am being rude... but either way i do believe they can do that also i would file a complaint with the better business bearu and recommened your friends never to go there because there is going to be another place that will treat you and your children with more respect good luck i hope everything works out for u  

Answer 8

I would take my kids out beacause they may try to hurt them because of the problems you are having with the director of the daycare. I would still send the letter off to corporate.

Answer 9

They're within their rights as a private facility to ask you to leave for any reason.

They're may be some regulation in your state that says they have to give you notice of a certain length of time, but they can tell you to leave for virtually any non-discriminatory reason.

Maybe you should google "daycare laws" and your state name to see if you can find out more?

EDIT: Oh, and yes, I wouldn't stay with that company either.