Can a friendship work after a relationship?

Question

We were best friends.

And we fell in love with eachother and so we started dating.

After a while, he started to make less of an effort with everything because he no longer had to make the effort to win my heart kinda thing. He'd always be late when we would arrange to meet up and whenever I would say shall we go out, he always wanted to be lazy.

Even though this was over 4 weeks ago that I broke up with him, he still tells me he loves me. I asked him if he needs to be away from me for some time before we can be friends again, and he says no. He says I'm still his best friend and he wants to spend time with me but his heart is crying out for my love.

I still love him, but if I wasn't happy being his girlfriend, I can't go back out with him and don't want to put myself through it again. What can I do?

Answer 1

no will never work to many feelings

Answer 2

it looks like he's trying to make an effort now and if you say you still love him then give him another chance he probably wants to make up for lost time!

Answer 3

You've actually just answered your own question here. " I can't go back with him and I don't want to put myself through it again". There you go, sweetie!  Trying to be 'friends' after a break-up usually doesn't work. Good luck and remember...men are like buses and trains...they come along one after the other!!

Answer 4

Georgie, what i believe you can do, since he claims to still love you it to sit him down & have a heart to heart talt on the issue, but try as much as possible to read between the lines in his answers & try not to get carried away, if at the end you still feel you cannot continue wiyh the relationship, BOLDLY tell him to let you people be FRIENDS, but if you are not comfortable with his reactions, MY SINCERE ADVISE IS THAT YOU SHOULD SUMMON COURAGE TO PACK UP THE RELATIONSHIP, SO THAT YOU CAN MOVE AHEAD WITH YOUR LIFE. LOVING SOMEONE SHOULD NOT RESULT IN STAGNATION IOF YOUR LIFE. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 5

you should believe on him.

my openion is this that now he is aware of his mistake and wants to apologise frm you,

after that he will give you a lot of time

goo luck and plz give him a chance

Answer 6

Yes you can be friends but you have to allow a little distance for a while before being able to resume just being friends again.

Answer 7

I'm sorry it worked out this way for you. It's a tough one to be friends afterward if one in the relationship still has feelings for the other then it just gets harder. Believe me I've tried and it took at year before i could be friends with my ex. I understand how it sucked that he wasn't tryin to make it work, that's what my guy has been like lately. take care and tell him you guys need space

Answer 8

im sure u care about him.. and it seems he is ok.. i think he jsut wants ur companionship... u dont say that either of you want the other back.. so keep in touch and hang out.. but make new friends and meet new people.. dont ever let him get the idea that he has a chance again cos u may brea his heart.. ofcourse friendship can work after a realtionship but i suggets u distance urself a bit at the start.. it sounds like ur kinda over him so strat moving on and finding sum1 new....  

Answer 9

I would let HIM know that YOU need some time to be away from HIM so that you two can be FRIENDS again.  Tell him exactly what you're telling everyone...  I wasn't happy dating you, but we are really great friends, if you want me to be in your life at all, give me a little bit of space.  And don't let him suck you in or you will get hurt!