Can a (second) marriage between a 23 year old and 41 year old work?

Question

I started seeing her while I was still married, yes, I realize what kind of guy that makes me. However, I love her and she loves me so I went through the whole divorce process, came clean with everybody and proposed to my girl. She said yes. I know how many things are working against us here, but what do you think the odds of it working out are? Her and I are moving across country to get some land and work with animals (something both of us have always wanted to do), we both already have jobs there. We don't plan on having any children, but I just bought her a puppy (she works with animals and prefers them to kids). Any chance?

Answer 1

Yup. as long as you're honest with each other, communicate, compromise, treat each other with love and respect.

Good luck

Answer 2

There is always a chance, though there are warning signs.  The first being that YOU cheated.  You allowed yourself to fall out of love, you gave into temptation & you made yourself emotionally / physically available to someone besides your wife.  What is to stop you from doing it a second or third time?  Obviously your self control / wisdom is in doubt.  In the future, don't develop "friendships" with other women at the work place (keep it professional and if you want a friend hang out with a guy buddy).

The second issue is age and how it relates to the relationship.  The big problem is that as humans age we enter into a new stage of our lives.  When your spouse is at a different "stage" in life, it can create friction in the marriage and the two peoples wants / needs can be drastically different.  Imagine in 20 - 30 years..your wife is 53 and is STILL capable of going strong, but you are now 71 years of age and slowing down.  There may come a time when she resents not being able to do "x" because you are physically incapable of it.  

Answer 3

it can for sure

Answer 4

With LOVE anything works..... :)

Answer 5

Considering the fact your asking, you obviously have doubts. It will work if you make it.

Answer 6

where did you meet and how long have you known each other?

does she know she'l way out live you. There are huge differences in what these two generations see things

I give it a 50 :50 , because i need more details. If it's all based on sexual attraction, I give a less chance.

Answer 7

If you both love each other, than it works

Answer 8

Just remember that she will change a lot in the next few years, because she is not truly a woman get.  Woman mature a great deal in their early to mid twenties.  I hope that you realize that you may not be married to the same person several years from now.  My husband and i had to admit it.  I was 28 and he was 42.  When we had to split.  I had grown into a person he did not even recognize.  

That is great for kids that are developing together, but you are already the person that you will be for life.  You will not be doing major changes in your personality, but she will.  She may even decide she has a need to have children.  She is way too young to make a definitive decision on that right now.

Just food for thought.

Answer 9

You once loved your first wife and when you had problems in the marriage you had an affair. Every marriage has it's ups and downs. What makes you think you won't cheat on this woman, when there are problems in this marriage?

What about this woman you are with now? She is the kind of woman who not only would, but did have an affair with a married man. I don't see how the two of you can trust each other and be sure the other one won't cheat when you run into problems in your marriage. Then add on top of that there is 18 years difference in your age.

I'm not saying you two can't make a go of it, but you will have to over come a lot of problems you have.

Why not try living together for one year and at the end of that year decide if you think the two of you could make a go of marriage.

Answer 10

There is always a chance.  How big of a chance depends on the two of you and how much effort you put into each other.

Answer 11

Nothing's impossible as long as you two both inlove. Follow your heart and why listen to others who are just jealous coz you happy of your life don't bother what people say they just want to ruin your life same as them.

Goodluck.