Can a transvestite be a bridesmaid?

Question

My best friend, Bronson, is getting married, and I am the best man. Bronson wants one of our other friends, Joey, to be an usher. The issue is that when Joey goes out, he likes to dress up in drag, which means as a woman. So, Joey said he would rather participate in the wedding as a bridesmaid than as an usher. He can pass as a woman, and no one would know the difference (except for those of us who know him). And, Joey says he would have a lot more fun dressed up in drag, than attending as a man. He loves flirting with and dancing with the older men, and that is about all he does. Do you think it would be okay for him to be a bridesmaid? If he is not a bridesmaid, then he would just be an invited guest, and probably would come dressed as a woman anyways.

Answer 1

Sounds like a interesting wedding!

I love the idea, why not? :P

Answer 2

I love the idea, why not? But make sure the focus will stay on the bride and the groom.

Answer 3

Yeah sure if thats what they want then it cant hurt even if cristianty frowns upon things like that it fine no one will stiop them.

Answer 4

Hm, tough one.  If he was my friend I would be wanting him to be a bridesmaid.  But I am not sure how older family members would feel. As long as he was on his best behaviour and did not go around flirting with the older men guests, I think I would let him, especially if he will be in drag if only coming as a guest.  But think this is something the wedding party need to discuss.

Answer 5

If the Bride and Groom are ok, it's perfectly acceptable, it's their wedding and I'm sure Joey would revel in the fact that he is accepted "just as he is" and will love them for it!  Enjoy yourself!!!

Answer 6

I think as long as the bride and groom are ok with it, it should be fine.  I know I had all my bridesmaids chosen so wouldn't have necessarily wanted to add another one I hadn't planned on.  Also, you could have him dress up as a woman and still stand on the grooms side since he is the groom's friend.  One of my friends' husbands had his siblings (2 sisters and a brother) stand on his side.  

Answer 7

How Joey attends ( as a man or a woman) is up to him.

The question of should he be a bridesmaid is up to the couple. If they feel he is a close enough friend, he could be. Typically the man chooses his groomsmen, and the woman chooses the bridesmaids.

But if both the bride and the groom are friends with Joey, it would be fine.  

Answer 8

This is really up to Bronson and his lovely lady. If they choose to include Joey in the wedding party and celebrate his friendship by accepting him (and his sexual and clothing preferences) as is, more power to them. I think it's a lovely idea. I can't think of a single reason why he shouldn't be a bridesmaid, and moreover, it isn't your call to make.

Answer 9

If he doesn't feel comfortable wearing a suit then he should decline the offer of being an usher. Its really up to Bronson's fiancee who the bridesmaids are so if its ok with her to have him as a bridesmaid then I see no problem in him doing that job. Otherwise he'll just have to come as a guest if he wants to wear a dress. Although he could always wear a dress similar to the ushers suits and still be an usher, thats an option he could bring up with your friend.