Can a woman use s*x to encourage a man to improve himself? Would a woman ever do such a thing?

Question

For example a you meet a man who you aren't too interested in, but he asks you out and you look at him and think he could lose a few pounds so you tell him, "If you lose 50 lbs, call me and I'll have s*x with you." Or maybe even just offering to date him after such an improvement would be encouragement enough? If this might work, at least with some desperate, lonely men, why aren't more women doing this, improving society one person at a time, using the most basic incentive to encourage self improvement. It's almost like Tyler Durden telling the store clerk to go back to school or he'd hunt him down and kill him.

Answer 1

no. men are not that easy. you wont get him to change all that will happen is that you will have s*x with him because he said that he would do something, besides this is as bad as saying will a woman do any thing for money, as long as he gives you clothes, trips etc.

Answer 2

Uh, yeah, I didn't even read your entire statement there.

But, just keep in mind that if you exchange s*x for ANYTHING then you're a prostitute.

Answer 3

Women will stoop to lower standards.

Answer 4

Let's look at it from a Nashian Game Theory perspective.

Basic rule: Nobody is willing to put in the effort to make changes unless the perceived incentive for making the changes is greater than the effort it takes to make the change.

Men can't know if the perceived incentive (potential gain of s*x) they offer is equivalent or greater than the effort required. For that matter, men don't even know if the offer is 'redeemable' when the efforts are made.

So, no, it wouldn't work.

Answer 5

It never works....

A)  You can't change a man, take him as he is or leave him alone.

B)   Giving him more s*x just leads him to expect... more s*x, and then when you stop, they go on strike, so actually making things worse!

It might sound cynical, but this is my honest opinion after 10 years of relationships - if you don't like him to begin with, just don't bother lol  :-)

Answer 6

Some women can, I doubt you could you Moose!

Answer 7

No, won't work. You can't force someone to change drastically.

Answer 8

Many women do in fact use s*x to incentivize men to improve themselves, and they have been doing this since the beginning of humankind. I think that women already have so much sexual power compared to men, that for them to make men do things in order to get s*x is a cruel abuse of power.

What I don't understand is why many women don't choose better men for themselves to begin with so that they don't wind up dating and marrying losers and having children with them.

Answer 9

lol change the world the feminist way. lol I cant stop laughing at you. That is so sexist and wrong. Just look in the mirror, that should keep you busy long enough to leave men alone entirely.

Answer 10

As a man, this has possibilities, but instead of giving it to him as part of asking him to change, you should do it whenever he takes a step in the optimal direction. To make it count, the activity should be outside of routine. If you do it any other way, both parties will be hurt. You will be hurt when you please him and he does not change, and he will be hurt because he could no longer fully enjoy the experience because he will always look for strings. Also, do yourself a favor and only do this with someone you are in a serious relationship with (preferably, a marriage partner).

Answer 11

I think most of what we do is partly for the acknowledgement of others. I mean, why else do we spends thousands on clothes, make-up, other beauty products... why else are we so interested more in the superficial people of Hollywood than our very own neighbors? We have been engineered to think that fitting into society is far more important than any individuality. Sure we have some free spirits but they are always of the same kind, no? So sure, men already know that they need to look a certain way if they want to get a "certain kind of woman". So they DO try to "clean themselves up". But after enough rejection, ANYONE can just give up and label themselves as losers. So if a beautiful woman did come along, why wouldn't they try to do anything they can to stop being "losers" and become accepted by society again. Nobody wants to be alone and we change our standards all the time to make sure that never ever happens.