Can adopted child have psychology characteristic from their birth parents, like habbits..?

Question

what they like or not, or felling like: sorrow, pain, joy ctr. in the way their birth parents felt! I have noticted that adopted children look very alike to their parents in their who have adopted them, like habbits, perspectives...!

Answer 1

I think this is a silly question!

Of course, medical science has demonstrated over and over that many psychological issues have genetic links...

Personality characteristics as well as many other things.

All people are a combination of genetics, personality, experience, nature and nurture I think it is narrow minded for any of us to claim anything does or does not affect the make-up of a person.

My sister-in-law is adopted and she sounds JUST exactly like her adoptive mother on the phone so much so that it can be difficult to tell them apart even after knowing them over 30 years! Her tone of voice, inflection, word choice all of it... Her hand motions, body movements and everything are nearly exact to her ADOPTIVE Mother.

My ex husband found his birth parents who have been married to each other over 45 years... My ex doesn't look, act or sound like either birth parent... He is So completely different from them in fact that they want to meet me in order to figure out how I raised children that are more like them then their own birth son is!

My cousin Julie has been in reunion for over 10 years and has Nothing in common with her birth mother or 5 of her  6 biological siblings. She is connected with one sibling and they have more in common with each other.

My brother-in-law was an attorney, a civil rights attorney--ethical and totally about the small guy. He reunited with his birth family and after about 10 years was nearly swindled out of every dime he had due to his biological families Unethical illegal behaviors... He was nothing like his biological family.

My mother used to joke that she thought my ex husband had to be genetically related to MY Father because they were both so much alike and had so many of the same bad habbits and attitudes... you would have thought my father was his father.... It was soooo bad we almost had DNA testing because there have been stories of siblings getting married and it was freaky how much he and my father were the same...

He is still more like my dad then his adoptive father or biological father....

My biological Daughter is NOTHING like me we don't look alike, we don't like the same things--we don't share any common values she is everything I am not.... My adopted daughter is so much like me that I have to stop myself from assuming I know what she is thinking and feeling and even when I stop myself it turns out she was thinking exactly what I thought.... If anyone looked at me with both of my girls they would think I was the biological mother of the youngest and not the oldest and that would be wrong!

And the number one funniest things that has ever happened was: I took a job in an office and later found out that one of our clients was my ex-husbands cousin (because my ex was adopted he was not in any way genetically related to the cousin) One day my oldest son stopped by the office during the same time his dad's cousin was there for a meeting... When everyone walked out of the meeting they were making remarks about how much my Son looked just like Cousin Richard... My son and Richard ended up in hysterical laughter because that isn't possible.... but, later started asking family members questions about "IF" anyone in the family had actually been my ex's birth mother because when my son and his fathers cousin looked at each other they could see the resemblance too...

***Added*** We had to wait an additional 6 months for the state to check with every native american tribe and be sure our children were not Native American... When my ex reunited with his biological parents we found out that my biological children are OVER 1/4 Native American! My children who appear to be native amereican are NOT and my children with a Scotish last name ARE....

I have an adopted uncle, 7 adopted cousins, an adopted ex husband, sister-in-law and brother-in-law and two adopted children....

All of the adopted people are Alike and Not Alike each other in Many Ways...All of the adopted people I know who have reunited FEEL they are more like their biological families for the first year or so....until they get to know each other and realize that they are just as alike the biological family as they are they are like members of their spouses family, or adoptive family or the family down the street.

People are Individuals.

I think People are People and we can attribute anything to anything we want if we look hard enough....I still think I have Elizabeth Taylors eyes....

Answer 2

only the bad traits... but the good traits all come from the aparents. </sarcasm>

there are many who believe in the "bad seed" theory. which means that kids are only linked genetically with their biological parents when they exhibit deviant behaviors.

yet it's more common that people discount the biological parents' contribution for anything to do the child's temperment, intellect, propensity for certain behaviors...et al.

personally, i believe personality, habits, likes, dislikes, good habits and bad et al, are as much genetic as enviormental.

Answer 3

i was adopted from birth and i just found my mother last week.

when i was younger i was a shampoo tech. (for those that do not know what this is i put in relaxers, did weaves, washed hair, basically did everything but curl the clients hair)

when i turned 18 i went to school for computer graphics i learned 3d animation and 2d graphics.

I also love everything that has to do with art other than arts and crafts. you may as well have turned my skin completely inside out.

My mother loves art museums, my brother does graphics and one of my sisters is a beautician. my mouth dropped.

I always hated the activities and the clothes my adoptive family tried to put me in. they would buy junk jewlery and make earings and stuff out of the beads and have loads of fun. i on the other hand would have been happy to kick rocks lol and i hated the shirts with the christmas trees and animals and stuff they managed to find EVERYWHERE.

i look like my family i always expected that but i act like them too which was really suprising to me. I have been so happy though. it's nice to know who i look like and where i came from.

Answer 4

A person's personality, habits, etc are a combination of their heredity and environment.

In fact, in most of the studies I've read, if the environment is adequate, then heredity is the stronger force. That is, if someone lives in a truly inadequate environment where basic needs aren't met, he won't reach his full potential. But assuming his basic needs are met, then his biological influences are likely stronger than his environmental ones.

But I do think we pick up some mannerisms, traits, etc. based on the people we're around. DS kicks his shoes off just like I do -- but my long-time roommate and I used to do things the same way sometimes too. When you're around someone a lot you kind of "rub off" on each other.

Answer 5

thats the old gentics and envirement.. yes children will have some of there bioparents in them

like say there is 3 girls... 13, 10 and 3, two old just got diagnoised with the some mental defeat they that there parents had.. guess what? the 3 year old will probably inherent it.

But has for things not gentic  and things learned.. no it's completely what there adoptive parents are like

but then there's always a kid is a kid. and has there own traits too

Answer 6

A person's traits and characteristics are a combination of both genetics and of their upbringing.

I have noticed this in my brother.  He and I share the same mother, but he was raised by his father (who is not my father) and my mother has not seen him since he was a toddler.  He shares a lot with her, even though she did not raise him-certain things he will say or just the way he does some things.  It is hard to explain, but you can definitely tell that those habits must be genetic since she did not influence him as he grew up.  

Of course, some of his habits came from how he was raised as well.  Biology does not completely make a person who they are, but neither does upbringing-it is a combination.

Answer 7

My adopted kids certainly do! I have 4 adopted siblings who were all in separate foster homes prior to coming to live with us. It is so weird, but they ALL share identical habits and mannerisms! (EX: they all bite their nails...but only the thumbs and index fingers! They also all hide their eyes when they are in trouble) I've never seen anything like it, but apparently there is definitely something to genetics!

Answer 8

Really?  I've known hundreds of adoptees, and never known one who has habits, traits, or perspectives like their aparents.

Babies are 'hard-wired' when sperm meets egg.  The parents who raise children actually contribute very little.  I have three of my own children, and I can tell you that from BIRTH, they are who they are.

The only 'traits' I share from my adopters are environmental, like a deep fear of having no money, and dying poor.  But growing up poor will do that to you.

ETA: I misunderstood the question--I thought you meant adoptees were 'like' their APs.

Answer 9

Oh, yeah. When choosing aparents for our son, my husband and I did our best to choose people who were similar to us. Also, the adoption agency strongly encouraged us both to fill out a loooooong survey about favorite foods, school subjects, and activities, whether we got acne or late growth spurts or whatever, career choices, etc., etc., since so much of that stuff seems to be strongly influenced by genetics, and it helps adoptees to know they "come by it honestly" when they don't match their a-families. I apparently should have put on my survey that my whole family goes around making up dumb songs about whatever they're doing - since my son seems to have inherited that, plus my happy dance technique and my goofy grin.

Answer 10

My children are not adopted. The father of my children chose to walked out of their lives when they were too young to remember him. My son has many of his personality traits, walks like him, has many of the same likes and dislikes. My daughters-not as many.

Answer 11

Most certainly they can.  More and more science finds that personality has genetic links to it.  Environment can play on the personality traits that are inherently there, but the genetics for those traits come with a person.  They may have the personality similar to a grandparent or great-aunt or whatever, but those traits come from somewhere in the gene pool.

My whole natural family is amazed at how much many of my traits are like my natural father.  I have a lot of my natural mother's traits, too.  My natural dad comments on it.  My natural grandfather (her dad) once commented that talking on the phone with me was just like talking to her because of my inflections, phrasing, etc.  He said, "Well, there's no doubt who YOUR mama is!"  I didn't get to see the comparison with her,  however, as my natural mother died prior to my locating her.

Answer 12

I am pretty much nothing like my adoptive parents.  However, upon meeting my birth family, I discovered that I am my birth father's twin...we have the same personalities, the same interests, the same everything...right down to a love of public radio, Tolkien and cats.  

And everyone remarks at how my full brother and I look almost identical (even though we are 8 years apart).

Not all adoptees experience this, obviously, but this is how it is with me.

Answer 13

Without going into great detail and out of personal privacy and respect for my daughter and her bio mom.......Yes they can.

Answer 14

I heard it said that genetics can show a lot from birth parents. I personally believe it to be true.

Answer 15

of course !! I am a perfect example. I never met my bmom until I was twenty. But suddenly I "fit" somewhere. I could suddenly understand why I was the way I was, and I've heard many adoptees talk of the square peg - round hole type feelings that I had too

Answer 16

We hope so.

Answer 17

I think they can  personality and mannerisms etc.  That said I don’t think what a person likes has everything do with genetics.  I do have many common interests with my parents who are not bloodkin to me. A few things are Me and my mom both love going to museums , Dad does too but mom likes to read every little detail. When i was younger i was more like dad in that aspect but when i got older i enjoyed reading more of the details. Mom and I both love going to plays and theater productions.  Dad and I share a passion for spicy food and love to try different hot sauces. I like Olives so does Dad.  We are all pretty much open minded and accepting of all kinds of people, were independents when it comes to politics. Those are things I definitely got from be raised by them.

I enjoy the type of music they listen too, I’ve always listen to a wide variety of music. All of us are not to fond of most country.  I love to read probably a bit more then them, but they do enjoy reading to. In fact I’ve read all 7 books of HP to them and they loved it just as much as I do

That said we do have differences but that’s the way with most people.  We accept and embrace those differences as it would be a dull dull world if everyone liked the exact same things, acted the same way.

Answer 18

Their have been huge numbers of studies done of adopted children following up their birth parents and comparisons with brothers or sisters that they may never have even known existed.

The similarities in both appearance and behaviour are startling - between people who have never even met.  They will share personalities, incuding social skills, sense of humour and even behaviour.  I think this is why some adopted people say later in their lives that they never quite fitted in with their adopted families, they sometimes felt like the odd one out, that it was nothing specific and nothing to make them feel uncomfortable just slightly different.

Nature v nurture - the research and the debate will go on for ever.

Answer 19

My daughter NEVER sleeps, but my son sleeps like 15 hours a day (checked with the doc and she said to let him sleep), But after speaking with his first mom about this, she told me that both of his bio siblings sleep like that too.

Answer 20

you mean like not eating salad dressing, owning the same shower curtain, liking the same beer, liking the same music, making the same facial expressions, same tone of voice, answering a question with the same answer when the other isnt around?

stuffl like that?

yea, it can happen. lori and i share a brain, i have said it before. its like talking to myself on the phone. my daughter has tested this before, ask lori something, then ask me. i gave the exact same answer with the same amount of sarcasim. she was floored.

Answer 21

I guess so.  :)