Can adoptive kids considered as your own kids?

Question

Can adoptive kids considered as your own kids?

Answer 1

yes if you want them to

Answer 2

Absolutely!  My son is every bit my son in every way.  The only difference is that he did not come out of my belly!

Answer 3

Do you mean emotionally or legally? I say yes to both. I adopted my son when he was 2-1/2 years old and he is definitely my son in my heart and mind and in the eyes of the law.

Answer 4

Language is a problematic thing.  

We use words like 'parents' and 'children' to stand for one concept.  But the problem is, there are many kinds of relationships covered by those words.  

In as much as we mean something like 'someone who loves and takes care of a child' by the word 'parent,' then adopted children are the children of their adoptive parents.  

But things are never that simple.  Because, of course, the word parent typically also means that the person who is a parent either gave birth to or sired the child.  

In the case of the adoptive child, these roles may be fulfilled by two different people, rather than the same person (as is more typical).  We can ignore one element, or the other, and thus refer to either the adoptive parent or the biological parent as the parent of the child.  But we are describing a relationship which differs, in some ways, from what the word typically means.  We are, in effect, making the language stretch farther than it was originally intended.  

If we stretch it too far, then words become meaningless.  For instance, focusing only on the caretaker role, means that many different people could be considered parents to a child.  A grandparent, perhaps?  Or an aunt.  Or even a nanny (depending on how far we stretch the words).

The relationship of an adoptive parent to the adoptee can be roughly similar to that of the person to its biological child, but it's only by analogy.  The real problem is that we don't have the proper language to describe these, often complex relationships, and we let the closest similar familiar word stand in.  

NONE of this is mean to denigrate the relationship between an adoptive parent and the adoptee.  These can be wonderful, deep relationships.  They are meaningful to both parties.  And the word child may even be appropriate (for lack of a better term).  But it is a mistake to let language fool us into thinking the relationships are identical to those of a biological parent to its child.  In some cases, they may be better, but they are not the same.  

(Compare, for instance, when someone says "you have been like a father to me."  We understand that it's an analogous use of the term 'father.'  But we lose sight of the analogous use in the case of adoption.)

Adoptive parents can care for the adoptee as much as biological parents care for their children.  And if that's all you meant to ask, then the answer is yes.  But even then, the answer is so much more complicated because of the difficulties inherent in our limited language.  

Some may take offense at this, but I mean it when I say none was meant.  I find the language problematic here, because 'parent' and 'child' have been forced to play broader roles than they are strictly intended to play.  It suggests the limits of our language.  (Compare, for instance, how to refer to spouses in marriages where both are the same gender.  'Husband' and 'wife' are inadequate terms.  None of that means that the relationship isn't one of deep love and commitment.  Just that language fails us.)

I have no doubt that many adoptive parents have deep, meaningful relationships with their adoptees.  (I believe I have that with my adoptive parents.)  Indeed, these relationships may be deeper than some relationships between biological parents and their children.  But the important point is that they are not the SAME.  They bring with them their own unique challenges and pitfalls.  And, likely, their own unique rewards.

Sorry, I've gone on longer than I intended, but I hope that this was helpful.

Answer 5

We have 2 adopted children and they are definately mine! Our son is proud to say that he is adopted and our daughter is only two. There is no diffrence besides the fact that you didn't carry them.

Answer 6

Of course, adoptive children are as much your children as your natural children.

Answer 7

YES ! they might not be your by blood, but if you love them enough it will seem like they were truly your own blood.