Can an ex wife get a copy of her ex's text message contents if the phones in her name? She is PSYCHO! ?

Question

I met someone about two months ago. He was great until I found out he has a crazy ex. She has been harassing me since she discovered that we have been talking. She has even been to my house threatening to burn it down. This female has serious issues. She said she is going to get a copy of his text messages. When she does I know she will be irate. He and I have had some pretty flirty conversations. I have not text him in over 4 weeks. Does anyone know if this girl can actually get the message content from the cell phone carrier. I called them myself and they said that they only store them for 72 hours. She told him they store them for 18 mos. Does anyone know about this. She also said that she was going to have to subpoena the contents, but is willing to do whatever it takes to see what he and I talked about. I thought there had to be a case in order to subpoena such documents. I sure hope someone is knows something about this.

Answer 1

Sounds like your new guy is MARRIED...????  Seriously, no ex is going to go through all that unless she is married and wants proof that the ex is messing around.

She does have a right to get them...I tried on my ex's but his cell was work issued and I would have had to subpeona them...which I almost did...but had enough other proof.

So you might want to take a step back from this relationship and wait until he's really single to date him.

Answer 2

First, it's always possible. Second, if it's his ex and he wants his privacy, why does he still have a phone that's in her name? I'd be wary of what his intentions are and why he's not independent if he truly is divorced from this other woman.

Answer 3

Sure can, I can call and pretty much get the history of anything since we've had our account.

Great for me.... sucks for you.

I sure hope you weren't texting like that while they were married! That might be why she is so irate... Who really knows.

Answer 4

why is the phone in her name? She might be ceazy but there has to be more to the story than just what he is saying. Because if she is doing all this sounds like they are still together in some way and she is trying to make a point that something is going on with you and him.

Answer 5

Are they in the middle of a custody battle?  If not, are they legally divorced?

She can't get a subpoena unless there is an active case.  What would she need the records for otherwise?

You don't have the whole story here.  And let this be a lesson to you -

Don't put ANYTHING in writing that you don't want someone else to read!  The Internet, text messages, even good ol' fashioned pen and paper can be used against you.  I know, my ex's 2nd girlfriend gave me some of his emails to her after he broke it off with her and she got p.o.'ed.

She should not be coming to your house making threats, without a doubt.  There is more going on here than you know about.  I would either stop all contact with this guy until he has his life straightened out or confront him for "the rest of the story".

Answer 6

sounds to me like she is not quite the "ex" wife yet.but if the phone is in her name it is technically her phone.  

Answer 7

she can get phone numbers and times of texts, where they were sent to and from but not content.

Answer 8

Why is the phone still in her name? I would be seriously questioning his intentions in this relationship because of that. As far as her getting the records....talk to the phone company about switching the number into his name or just get a new number.

Answer 9

To contradict almost every other post...NO she can't get the content, only the date, time, and the other party's phone number.  I worked as a customer service rep for T-mobile for years and I know that even the company doesn't have the contents of text messages (I wish we did it would have been interesting reading).  She's lying, that information doesn't come on the statement, the internet, and she cannot get that information over the phone or even mailed to her.  

If she wanted to subpoena the documents it would take a court order, she would have to file a civil suit against whomever to even have a case to get a subpoena, which would cost LOTS of money for an attorney and court fees.  She would also need a legal reason to to file a civil suit....

That's too many strikes for her.  No civil case (or criminal), no lawyer, no subpoena, no way to get the texts from the company without the subpoena (and even then I do not believe that we store text content, if we do it's protected by the bigwigs).  She's bluffing and trying to get you guys all pissed.  Tell her to try it, and MAYBE after a few thousand dollars and a couple of years, she might possibly have a tiny chance of getting that information.

Answer 10

broken hearted is right.  They can get numbers and dates but no context.  Is this his ex wife or ex gf?  Why not put a restraining order on her?  Those work wonders I had gotten one against my ex husband.  They really are not hard to get you usually can get an emergency one for 30 days and if she calls or even comes by have her arrested.  He needs to get a new phone and cancel this one.  Sweetie if she is the ex unless they have kids he should cut off all contact from her and it doesn't matter if they are still married and separated you cannot get in trouble for seeing him,  she is an idiot I would restrain her so you don't give her the chance to hurt either of you.  

Answer 11

Nah, The phone CO. do not keep tract of text message they don't have nor have enough manpower for that, she can get the phone #and when the called were take place"when and what #.that is.the reason I knew this because I has my's children on my phone plan and I had to called phone CO. every mount to asked them why my' bill  so high.

At far as your house are leasing or you own it, if you own it you must have home owner INS.let her burn it down you claim on Ins,and you have the proves that she did it and ***** can go to jail. most dog that barked they don't bike, hopefully  this will ease your mind.

I hope you live happily ever after.

Answer 12

If she is an "X" what is her problem?  You can get a restraining order against her, she will have to stay away from you or go to jail.  If the divorce isn't final then you have been messing around with a still married man!

Answer 13

U should get an order of harassment filled out, filed & served on her NOW. then let him know that when he can get his own phone account 2 call u with his new #. then move on man.

Answer 14

You know, if a woman is in need of a particular man THAT much, you should really just let her have him.