Can an sexless marriage be saved by having an affair?

Question

Can an sexless marriage be saved by having an affair?

Answer 1

Cheating isn't going to save a marriage just destroyed it most likely.

Answer 2

No.  Obviously there's issues within the marriage.  Talk about your concerns w/ your partner.  Better than walking on eggshells.

Answer 3

Your marriage is sexless?

Guess why? Cause you're likely very lousy in bed.

No woman will refuse s*x if it's good.

The reason a woman would refuse is cause it's boring, so IF this question is about you then you may aswell scream out "Im totally c**p in bed!!" cause it's pretty obvious..

Nobody is going to refuse something that feels good, simple as that. So it mustn't feel good to her, and that is your own fault.

I wouldn't say no to my husband cause he knows what he's doing and he satisfies me, pity you're only thinking about your self and your OWN s*x needs eh?

Answer 4

definately not.. it will make it worse, unless both the husband and wife are aware and ok with going outside, then, maybe

Answer 5

A threesome, maybe, but not a secret affair.

Answer 6

Noooooo~! That would not help at all! I don't know your spouse don't want to have s*x with you while you are married but if it's a good enough reason don't push it. I'm sure eventually she would. I suggest you sit her down and talk to her about it!! Tell her how much it is bothering you and that you are human and desire pleasure and needs! Having an affair would not help and only lead to a divorce. You would be pleasured but she would be hurt and that's not what you want to do with someone you love and someone who you are married to.

Good luck.

Answer 7

No.

Answer 8

A sexless marriage can be saved by an open discussion with your wife.  Some people do take care of disparities in their s*x life by agreeing to alternative lifestyles, such as an open marriage.  Not everyone can live with that.  You can also go to a marriage counselor to work on this.  There are so many reasons why s*x disappears.  Some people just believe that is the way it goes.  I did.  And then I got tired of it, tried to work it out and finally decided on a divorce, not just because of the s*x but because the lack of s*x was a symptom of a bigger problem, a lack of connection and intimacy with my husband.  If you really want to save your marriage and your sanity, you need to go to a counselor and open your heart to your wife and see what can be done.

Answer 9

No. It can be broken, though.

Answer 10

No, it will just bring more pain and more damage.  

It is never helpful to betray the trust of your spouse.  

Put that energy into working on the problems that already exist.  Get in to counseling, find some help.  Work on meeting each others emotional needs, it might really help in the physical department!

It's also not fair to the spouse, or even to the other person.  If you don't plan on leaving the marriage, don't drag some other person into your mess.

Answer 11

Gee let's see... NO! Use your head, not your co**!

Answer 12

How would that save it???

Answer 13

Not usually but there are exceptions.  talk to her about this.  the worst part is the deception.  So ask her/him what it will take to straighten out this problem.  The big thing is giving each the kind of attention they want.

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Answer 14

I know your s*x organ won't be saved once your wife Loranna finds out.

Answer 15

I sorta see your reasoning. It would bring drama, emotions and feelings into a lackluster marriage.  But it might backfire and just cause breakup.  Use something else to bring some excitement.

Answer 16

No, use your hand & quit your bellyaching.

Answer 17

No. You never solve a problem in a marriage by turning to someone outside of it.