Can any fellow Muslim help me with this question?

Question

I was asked this question and dont know how to answer it, its regarding the Islam i am wondering if anyone can help me please!

Ok well heres the question "What if a muslim does something wrong knowing that its wrong but afterward literally breaks down inside because she feel so bad that she did something that Allah will definatlly not want us to do she break down and dont know what to do so she repents but she cant control herself and find herself do it again and the same process happens and inside she is truly sorry but she keeps doing this wrong thing and then noticing afterward she feels so stupid it almost as if she can't control herself for a minute but then when shes done she realizes that it was really wrong And this thing keeps happening to her like she'd stop for a while then suddenly do it again and hate herself and keep wishing shed never done it. ok what should she do b/c this happened many times to her she thinks Allah will not forgive her. What should I tell her to do?

Answer 1

Most of sins are like this, we know we are doing sin but we still do it and we are ashamed. We have to be stronger and ask God to help us to get out of this.

Answer 2

God said in hadith Quodsi :

" ما غضبت على أحد كغضبي على عبد أتى معصية فتعاظمت عليه في جنب عفوي "

my translation:

"i never get angrier on someone than someone who did a bad deed and thought that it (the bad deed) is greater than my clemency / forgiveness"

and God says in the holy Quran:

"النساء (آية:48): ان الله لا يغفر ان يشرك به ويغفر ما دون ذلك لمن يشاء ومن يشرك بالله فقد افترى اثما عظيما"  

translation :

"Allah forgiveth not that partners should be set up with Him; but He forgiveth anything else, to whom He pleaseth; to set up partners with Allah is to devise a sin Most heinous indeed. "

Answer 3

I agree with Sami and will add :

إنما التوبة للذين يعملون السوء بجهالة ثم يتوبون من قريب فأولئك أتوب عليهم وأنا التواب الرحيم ، وليس التوبة للذين للذين يعملون السيئات حتى إذا حضر أحدهم الموت

قال إني تبت الآن ولا الذين يموتون وهم كفار

so the door is open till your last moment. fight shaitan and ask hedayah from Allah and seek protection from him. and  be wear from all those things which make U break ur intention to not do it again . then be sure that Allah is most kind and will forgive U

Answer 4

[2:160] As for those who repent, reform, and proclaim, I redeem them. I am the Redeemer, Most Merciful.

[3:89] Exempted are those who repent thereafter, and reform. GOD is Forgiver, Most Merciful.

[4:17] Repentance is acceptable by GOD from those who fall in sin out of ignorance, then repent immediately thereafter. GOD redeems them. GOD is Omniscient, Most Wise.

[4:18] Not acceptable is the repentance of those who commit sins until death comes to them, then say, "Now I repent." Nor is it acceptable from those who die as disbelievers. For these, we have prepared a painful retribution.

[4:146] Only those who repent, reform, hold fast to GOD, and devote their religion absolutely to GOD alone, will be counted with the believers. GOD will bless the believers with a great recompense.

[5:39] If one repents after committing this crime, and reforms, GOD redeems him. GOD is Forgiver, Most Merciful.

[5:40] Do you not know that GOD possesses the sovereignty of the heavens and the earth? He punishes whomever He wills, and forgives whomever He wills. GOD is Omnipotent.

[9:104] Do they not realize that GOD accepts the repentance of His worshipers, and takes the charities, and that GOD is the Redeemer, Most Merciful?

[9:105] Say, "Work righteousness; GOD will see your work, and so will His messenger and the believers. Ultimately, you will be returned to the Knower of all secrets and declarations, then He will inform you of everything you had done."

[11:3] "You shall seek your Lord's forgiveness, then repent to Him. He will then bless you generously for a predetermined period, and bestow His grace upon those who deserve it. If you turn away, then I fear for you the retribution of an awesome day."

[11:90] "You shall implore your Lord for forgiveness, then repent to Him. My Lord is Most Merciful, Kind."

just sorry is not enough,Allah Allmighty has given her ears ,eyes,and brain...she must use them to save her self from retribution on the day of judgement.whats the use of crying and feeling ashamed again and again and again and again..she is responsible for her own deeds.

repentance means to turn back "Taubah". the problem here ,it seems is that she has no control over herself,her need or want is her god which she is obeying..any way Allah Allmighty is Forgiver.The Merciful,The Compassionate,The redeemer

Answer 5

tell her to pray and repent and to have hope

Answer 6

every one has something that he keeps doing and repent it then he does it again , then repent , then again , then repent . i personally have that . i haven't done it for a long time though (thank to Allah) and am not willing to , at a certain point i felt that God will not forgive me , i keep going back and forth back and forth , and every time i promise to do  things that i don't eventually do . i got to the point that i had no guts to ask for forgiveness after all that .

but then i heard a hadith about how forgiving is allah , even if you come to him with the earth and heaven weigh of sins he will forgive you and he wouldn't mind. i don't remember the context of the hadith , but i hope someone here get it for you .

and i read in qur'an that allah (swt) said that he forgives all sins except associating partners with him.

what i did was (tell now) every time i think of doing it i try to remember that Allah is actually looking at me at this moment , i just stop thinking about doing it and leave where ever i am , that's working till now

Answer 7

We are to love Allah and fear Allah (taqwa).

When the love of Allah exceeds the fear, in situations like these, that moment the feeling of sinful choice is stronger, because they think Allah is the Most Forgiving, and its not such a big deal, so there is a way out for me even if I do it.

When the fear would exceed or find a balance, one makes a very thoughtful decision because they know, they might not have the chance to be forgiven.. or no way out... already their sins is hard enough.

So it helps to learn more about why it is wrong, what are the consiquences(in this world and in the hereafter), to remember death, know about the punishments of the grave and h**l-fire.  And look for ways that'd help solve the problem, if any.

The diseases of the heart heals by fearing Allah, and repenting to Him sincerely.

And ofcourse, self restraint follows....

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yes and she SHOULD worry about if Allah will forgive her or not and quit it.

and after she quits and repents sincerily... not to worry because Allah said:

Allah's Messenger (sallAllaahu `alaihi wasallam) said:Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, stretches out His Hand during the night so that the people repent for the fault committed from dawn till dusk and He stretches out His Hand during the day so that the people may repent for the fault committed from dusk to dawn (He would accept repentance) before the sun rises in the west (before the Day of Resurrection). Sahih Muslim Number 6664

Allah's Messenger (sallAllaahu `alaihi wasallam) said that Allah thus stated: When My servant draws close to Me by the span of a palm, I draw close to him by the space of a cubit, and when he draws close to Me by the space of a cubit, I draw close to him by the space (covered) by two hands, and when he draws close to Me by the space (covered) by two hands, I go in hurry towards him. Sahih Muslim Number 6473

Hadith - Qudsi 34

O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. O son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great at it.

but don't make this the reason to not quit... its a trickery of Satan to decieve a believer at that moment of sin, when he thinks the sin isn't a sin, or the sin isn't a big sin, or it's okay if its a big sin, you won't do it again, etc.

Answer 8

Remind her of the mercy of Allah.

Remind her that the moment there is regret, that feeling in your heart is Allah washing it clean for you.

Remind that Allah did not create perfect.

And reminder her that she is human.

Answer 9

Remembering of Allah (SWT) whenever that 'thing' happens to her.. Do your prayers, Surrounding oneself with positive things is healthy, practice that.. It could be was was or nafs.. Her faith is not strong enough.. Something down the line that happens affected her to suddenly go weak perhaps?

Answer 10

to be honest if a person keeps repeating a sin, then they are really not truly sorry for it, nor do they regret it.   They may have a guilty conscience but that in and of itself is not enough for some people.  True repentance is not just about feeling bad.  It is about actively making changes and sincere efforts not to repeat the sin.  otherwise its just like a hamster in a wheel, getting nowhere.

Answer 11

I asked this question before here's the answer

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 12

This is what we call a sinful habit.

Eventually, just like your good deeds have to over balance your bad deeds, your repentances have to REALLY over balance your sins. Allah says hundreds of time that He is All-Forgiving, Most-Merciful. No human being is perfect, multiple sins will happen, but u have to truly believe inside and Allah All-Mighty will forgive. He easily forgives those who do righteous and believe in Him.

But in the end, only Allah knows.

Answer 13

My dear Al Noor salam for you Just tell to your friend that he/she must make a taubatan nasuha salat. for asking Allah's forgiveness.But he/she should stop to make the same mistake. as an evidence that he./she repents. Wrong doing should be avoided and do not be silly to do the similar wrong doing again and again as a habit..He/she has a weak faith so he/she is easily tempted by satans ..Allah will not forgive someone who had not strong intention to stop  the same wrong doing because he/she is not seriously  asking for Allah's forgiveness.Repenting is useless if he/she repeats again the similar wrong doing.Insya allah with strong intention

and strong faith and doing mandatory salat on time plus sunnah salat,she will conquer satans'temptation and she will be the winner...

Answer 14

Allah is the most merciful and Allah will forgive you. You have to stop whatever it is your doing and ask God for forgiveness. You need to realize what ever it is your doing is haram and is forbidden. May allah be with you and i hope what it is you get passed it...