Can anybody relate?

Question

so my friend came over today to hang out. it was a surprised visit. i havent' seen him for like 4 months. i stopped hanging around him b/c he smoked weed and i just felt like he was some loser.ever since i've known him he's smoked and i finally just got tired of it. i wasn't real excited to see him. he said he's stopped smoking weed, but still smokes cigs and drinks, but i don't mind that. he's going to boot camp in 4 months. since i haven't see him in a while, its awkward and i just don't really care to be his friend anymore. i just don't feel like making the effort. should i try to be his friend again? also if u can relate thad be good.

Answer 1

I D3f. CAN R3LATE 2 THIS.... I JUST TRY 2 B A TRU FRIEND AND HELP W/ THE SITUATION. BUT IF ALL ELSE FELLS I GOT 2 GO MY OWN WAY!

Answer 2

if you're comfortable around him...be his friend

if you're not comfortable around him...don't be his friend

Answer 3

ummm...i don't think its worth being friends with someone like that. especially when you guys stopped talking to each other and you don't think you want to be his friend. if i were you i wouldn't be his friend.

Answer 4

You don't have to be best friends with the fellow, but you should at least put up an effort to be his friend. If he claims he has changed, give him a chance! You should talk to him and say "I really want to be your friend, but if you do drugs I don't want anything to do with you." Be very straight forward with him, and tell him that as long as he does drugs he will not be concidered your friend.  Of course you should make the effort to be his friend! How would you feel if someone told you that they were "to lazy to invite you to their party", or "they didn't feel like using all that energy to tell you that no one else is going to wear a costume to the Halloween party." It doesn't take that much effort to smile, and offer a helping hand. This guy obviously needs a litle help getting back on his feet, and he came to you. Don't turn him away.

Havn't you ever heard this story: Bob was walking home from school one day, and he heard a few yells across the road. He turned his head to see a bully picking on a kid. This kid was concidered a dork. He was holding at least 10 books, and was wearing clothes that were so not "in style." Bob didn't really want to help, and would never want to ruin his "cool kid" status by being seen with the dork, but he figured this dork needed help. So he ran over to him, and helped him pick up his books. Bob noticed that he was carrying an awful lot of books for one person, so he took half the load and walked them over to the dorks house. The two talked on the way to the dorks house, and became very close friends. It turns out that the dork had planned to kill himself that night. He had gotten everything out of his locker so that his mom wouldn't have to clean it out for him- that is all the books he was carrying. IF it wasn't for Bob who made the effort to make friends, that dork would have ended his life.

You should always make the effort to be friends. Even the smallest things, such as  carrying a few books, can have the biggest impacts

Answer 5

i haven't been in a situation, but tons of my friends have. just see how it goes and if u don't want to rebefriend him be neutral. if ur uncomfortable with him, just forget about it. you shouldn't go out of your way to befriend someone who makes you feel uncomfy.

Answer 6

asdf said it...if you want to then fine, if not then don't.