Can anybody tell me,what should the child's age ideally be during adoption?

Question

Can anybody tell me,what should the child's age ideally be during adoption?

Answer 1

I think it is up to you.  We adopted a 6 year old and yes he remembers going to court and, we made it a very special day and the judge did also.  We have had no troubles with him knowing we are still Mom and Dad and we are a family.

Answer 2

that's a personal decision.

Answer 3

I don't think age matters.  It is the stable, loving and secure home-life and a legal surname that matters.

Answer 4

to the two clowns that answered this question first. that is straight c**p. it's not about remembering it's about having this feeling your not with the right people. the day after i was adopted(adopted 2 hours old) I had stomach problems and to this day when i get stressed out i still have stomach problems. I get muscle spasms in my stomach that feel like i'm having a heart attack. research is c**p because they never actually talk to the kids they just base it of of every normal child and say in general none of them can remember anything or feel anything. that's why alot of us adopted kids have alot of problems cause once we reach a certain age. they forget about us and that's usually when we need the theropy the most. if you want to adopt a kid then do it if you don't want to adopt a kid then don't but don't try to pick a kid based on weather or not your ride is gonna be easier or harder because all of us have problems at some point or another.

Answer 5

It should be right after they are born. Ya know, zero years old. Don't ya think?

Answer 6

i was adopted then removed from the abusive home into foster care, i was adopted out when i was 4 months old and i remember being taken from my foster carer and being extremely upset...you can remember earlier than 3 years old i am proof...no time is best, its how the transition occurs thats important, if it is smooth and the child is given honest answers and the opportunity to discover something about their past which might be a photo or medical history makes life much easier for the child than lies and secrecy.

Answer 7

You should meat a child that want so be adopted!

Answer 8

it depends on what you but when i adopt im geting a older child because they need a faimly to and the older they gewt the less likley there adopted

Answer 9

I like. Dawacky L's  answer.

I remember things when i was one or two. Adoption got started for me when i was 5. All done wrong.....tons of lies.

Only an abusive father was the reason i wanted to go into a 'home' where he would not hurt me anymore. (long story).  As i have worked with children for many many years, there should be no age limit but there is. There is a choice of age because of certain reasons in people's  lives. Maybe this person needs to think about adoption very carefully before they take the steps in doing so.

Maybe they should do a certain age child for foster care first.

This way, they will learn about themselves of what they can handle to give a child the proper care.  Do foster care first, then adopt...........best of luck

Answer 10

It should'nt matter all kids need a home and love no matter what age

Answer 11

For the childs sake, ANY age would be ideal

Answer 12

they can be newborn up to 17 yrs old.  why did u ask this.  any age of a child is ideal to adopt....

Answer 13

newborn

Answer 14

It depends on you & your family.

When the girls joined our family, our biological sons were 13 & 15.  The girls were 7 & 10.

I think ideally, the adopted children should be younger than any other children living in the home.  They should at least be younger than the oldest already living in the home...and if it's a sibling group, the youngest of them should be younger than the youngest currently living in the home (example of my convoluted sentence...currently living in the home might be children age 16, 10, & 7...this family might adopt a sibling group of kids age 13 & 5).

I think it's good for the oldest to stay the oldest & ideal for the youngest to not stay the youngest.

One thing we didn't even consider, though, that seems so common sense now...adoption by its very nature disrupts the birth order of someone.  In our situation, we didn't disrupt the birth order of our biological kids, but our oldest adopted daughter was no longer the oldest & this took some adjustment for her!

My advice to you is to consider any children currently living in the home.  Also take into account what you can truly handle.  Most of our foster kids have been teens & that has worked beautifully for us...we had a 3 year old that ran us ragged (we love her & loved having her, but we were wiped by the time she left).  In our family, we'd do better with older kids.  In a friend's family (she has two boys 5 & 9), they'd opt for younger kids -- younger than their youngest.

Take into account your energy level, your mindset (since our kids are older, we find it easier to deal with older kids), your place in life (how much ruckus you can handle, etc) and make a decision that will work for you.  If it won't work for you, it won't be an ideal situation for the new child(ren).

Read as much as you can on adoption & adopting kids at different ages.  Go to http://www.tapestrybooks.com to get a bead on a reading list. See what you can borrow from the library & begin your journey!

Answer 15

Younger than 18.

Ideal for whom? For the parent? Or for the kid? Consider the difference feeling wanted and loved would make to a troubled 16-year-old ward of the state who never gets hugs or hears "I love you."

Any aged child who needs a home is at the ideal age for adoption.

Answer 16

You shouldnt judge the eligibility of adoption by a child's age. They all deserve a fair chance. Babies however won't give you any problems until they get older and understand that they were adopted. Children that are older will give you more problems in the beginning cause they will want their parents, but they will come to love you over time, and your less likely to have problems out of them as teens. Older children that are already in their teens will be unruly and probably not calm and warm up to you until they are grown. So either way you will have problems. But don't let that affect your decision. You should meet with them and if you get a good feeling you should go for it.

Answer 17

What, now we want to parent only children who do not have a memory??  This is what many posters are saying.  That is cold.

ALL children deserve and need a permanent family who love and cherish them.  There is no "ideal age".  It is the age the parents feel qualified to parent that most matters.  People should make informed decisions, and learn everything they can about every age they are considering.  There are many forums and adoptive groups who can give first hand information on their experiences.  Parents should do their homework by researching the various issues for each age group.  Each age has its immense benefits, and draw backs.  We simply cannot look at children only in one way.

Answer 18

10 is good because the child knows about his/her orgin and backgroudn and will turn out to be a good child.

Answer 19

is your curiousity for the childs well being or trying to avoid trouble for yourself? think hard. adopting a child is different and more difficult than having one yourself. i'm not talking about love for the child- i'm talking about issues- and there are always issues. if its about your own convenience- get a pet.

Answer 20

18 year

Answer 21

3-4,at that time the boy starts learning to remeber and it will do him good if you adopt him around that age.

Answer 22

any age above 3

Answer 23

Everyone looks for the young child, the children above the age of 5 are the ones that might not ever get a family.  If you are looking to adopt, do life a favor and take an older child and give them a chance for a real life.  Good luck, good bless.

Answer 24

never

Answer 25

there's research that says you can't remember anything below 3yrs old. but every child needs a good home and shouldn't have any restrictions regarding their adoption. be it s*x age or nationality.

Answer 26

newborn ;  arrange with a pregnant woman who is willing to have you adopt

Answer 27

I think it depends on what you feel  you could handle.  Ideally?  There is no answer.  Most people adopt infants because it is easiest for the infants to go through the adoption process, and they are less likely to have an attachment problem.  It can be harder to adopt older children, because they may have attachment problems.  Also, fewer people adopt older children.  You can still find a wonderful child that is, say, 5, but it may take them  a long time to fully trust you.  

Hope this helps. :)

Answer 28

As young as it could be. Never more than 2

Answer 29

the younger the easier,but everyone needs a home.

Answer 30

for me i think he should be a new born(but should have finish with breast feeding) so that u can have each of his first smile, teeth, step all that...to be able to keep them im memory...