Can anyone direct me to a good website or group that helps depressed messy people?

Question

I am 36, widowed twice, moved 32 times with 5 kids. My house is a wreck. I tried taking ant-depressants, but they made me feel suicidal (which I never had felt before or after discontinuing) I've spent countless hours rehashing c**p I just want to get past with counselors who told me I was well enough to move on, when I really wasn't. I love people, and I would love to be that person that always has an extra place at the table for anyone who might happen to pop by. My fiance' and I bought a home almost 2 years ago and most of my things are still in boxes or scattered about the storage room due to my boys going through them. There are cupboards in this house with the previous owner's things that I still have not even gone through. I am a stay at home mom with a 18 month old daughter and I wander around here like an 80 year old senile woman. Not doing much of anything. I don't go out and do fun things because I know I do not deserve to with the mess I have at home. Piles of clean laundry not put away, piles of dirty, piles of dishes I battle with my son to wash..but how can I expect them to do their part when I barely do the minimum of mine? Life feels pointless, except I love my kids..though obviously not enough to knock it off. We have no insurance so I can't go back to therapy. I have no mom, dad, brothers, sisters, cousins, aunts, uncles or grandparents etc.. surprisingly, I have many friends..most of whom I've known since childhood. They are supportive to listen, but have busy lives of their own with work and family. My fiance is a workaholic and amazingly patient with my lack of ambition. He says I'm not lazy, because if you ask me to help with something, I'll dig right in an be the last to quit..yet on my own, I just get lost in blank thought and before you know it, the day is gone. Can someone point me somewhere without being sarcastic please? thank you.

Answer 1

I found so much help from the Flylady. www.flylady.net

I too am like you I don't have much motivation and I get so easily overwhelmed with all that has to be done. I have learned over time that I can do anything for 15 minutes and if I do that there is a little less to do next time. It also helps because the daily missions that are sent via e-mail provide a real sense of accomplishment. All she asks for is progress not perfection. That is doable. In the process you may be able to do a little self therapy like I did.

I too have been in my home for well over 1 year and I just now hung pictures on the walls a few weeks ago and still have some unattended boxes. This month I am working on the laundry monster though. Let me know if I can help you any further. I too am prone to depression.

Answer 2

I am a mess as well...and I am on antidepressants..they help but I am not fast enough thinker as i would like...I space out a lot...waiting to think of something useful or anything...I don't know who to recommend to you other than a counselor or the clergy...I ahve similar problems myself as I said.

Answer 3

wow you need to go to a pshcologist you have 5 kids to think about

Answer 4

Aw! Try not to worry too much about your lack of ambition, with 5 kids and a fiance... that's a lot to have to clean up after! Just remember it will be ok!

Even though it says "kids help phone" they will talk to and help out anyone of any age.

1-866-668-6868

Answer 5

http://www.webmd.com/depression/depressi...

http://www.thehelpline.net/depression.ht...

Answer 6

try a church

they got people to talk to

Answer 7

You should write a book about your life it could be a non fiction or fictional story. You have gone through alot in life.