Can anyone else relate?

Question

My family is splitting apart. Not literally, like a divorce, but emotionally. I feel as if I try my hardest to try and help any way I can, but it always ends with failure. I'm 17, and I have only 4 months until I turn 18. I'm at the point where I never want to come home. My dad is working 2 jobs and I never see him anymore, but when he's home he's so fed up with my family that he goes on about him never wanting to come home either. I have younger twin brothers, who are 15 (I will call them Bill and Joe for now). One in particular, Bill is pushing my mom's wits end. They are constantly at one another's throats and the mood carries for multiple days. I just don’t know what to do anymore. As I got older, I started to better understand my mom and her reasons for doing things the way she did. Granted she didn’t have the best role model for a mother (her mother abused her), but she tries her best. Being so close to becoming a woman myself I feel as if I am getting closer to my parents, my mother in particular; yet it seems as my brother-Bill-grows older, my family is tearing at the seams. I’m sorry to be rattling on like a blubbering idiot, but it seems as if I am always the one listening, yet when I need to talk, no one is left to listen to me. So really, all I wanted to know is if anyone else can relate to this, and if perhaps you have any advice as to how to deal with this. Thanks.

Answer 1

no   i  hope  get  better

Answer 2

Been there done that and I am in my 40's and it still goes on.  My brother and sis say they hate me cause I am the one always trying to do the right thing.  Brother stays in & out of prison.  Sis is pill head so you cant make any sense with her.  Dad has diabeties, alzheimers, cirrhosis of liver and stays aggitated constantly.  Calls me a B**** and says f*** You in my face for whatever reason he likes.  My mom & dad arent married but live together cause momfeels bad he is sick.  Mom still works and is it always arguments if we are all together.  I try and stay away if brother and sis are there.  But I see my mom daily to help her as she just broke her leg.  Our family is dyfunctional as they get

Answer 3

Ok so it sounds like the problem is your brother Bill and that he is making it difficult for everyone, right? You need to talk to your mum and dad about this as I'm sure they're also finding it hard to cope too and perhaps aren't sure what to do. Maybe one or both of them needs to sit down with Bill and find out why he is so unhappy or maybe someone needs to talk to Joe to see if he knows anything. Maybe Bill needs to spend some quality time with your Dad as he is probably missing him but wouldn't ever say so.

15 year old boys are a trial but the good thing is, they do (mostly) grow out of it. My brother was absolute h**l to live with but we found out the problem was that he had ADHD and he actually got heaps better when he realised he had a problem and that he could do things to solve it. He was also much easier to get along with when he moved out!!

If it's really bad, you could think about counselling for Bill or for your whole family. He might just need someone impartial to talk to.

Good luck!