Can anyone else relate to this?

Question

I am the only girl of four children. My oldest brother is 25, second oldest is 15, and the youngest in the house is my little brother Ashton, who's 11. So of course, the oldest (and the only one I get along with) lives in his own apartment and works as a medical assistant. So that leaves me and my other two brothers, my mom and my step-dad. My little brother can't stand me AT ALL. He seriously disowns me.The youngest one has my dad's horrible temper; he's etremely touchy and once threw a phone at me cause I told him I didn't care if he told my mom about something I did. He even spat in my face when he couldn't get his way because of me. Lets say I brought up some crackers to my room. He'll tell me I was a fat stupid cow, that I get on his nerves and that he's telling my mom. If my 15 year old brother was to do it, he'd ask him if he could bring up something too. If I'm watching TV downstairs, he'll take the remote from me and tell me he's eating (if you're eating, you have control over the TV since you can't go upstairs and have to watch it down in the living room). If my brother was downstairs, he'll ask him if he wants to watch something and hand him the remote. It's like he's sucking up to him! I told my brother he was a coward and treated me differently just because he's scared of Jason(15yr old.) He keeps saying he's not but he is. The sad part about it is I treat Ashton alot better than Jason does; he hits him sometimes, yells at him and calls him names too. Don't get me wrong, they do fight, but even though I don't EVER call them names(seriously. I don't see a point in calling someone something inferior or repulsive), I'm always the main target. Always. I get treated differently from both of them. They team up on me, call me names and try to make me seem like the stupid lazy one. I get the best grades in the house and everyone's always telling my mom how I'm alot more mature. I learned Spanish awhile back all on my own and now me and my step-dad speak it sometime, and my brother brought home a lot of Spanish books and called me a showoff (but this was months ago). If it was up to me we wouldn't communicate whatsoever, but my little brother is bound on making my life a living h**l, and I have to live with it for five more years. Has anyone else ever experienced siblings rivalry or had a brother/sister absolutely hate you for no reason? What could be the reason for his resesntment against me? I was never that way to my older brother when I was his age (I'm thirteen now)

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

I have 2 sisters and 7 brothers.  Although we do fight alot, we all know we love eachother. there is an occasional gang-up here and there, but you must remember to stand your ground. It sounds like you are letting them get the best of you. If you continue to let him slide like that then he will continue to run all over you.  I dont mean stoop to his level and call him names, but take back the remote.  Maybe you should take up a self defense class or my fav. ground fighting classes like UFC.  You learn how to do alot of holds, which you dont hurt the person but you get them to be submissive giving in to you.  It will help boost your confidence, you do seem to be lacking in it.  STAND YOUR GROUND.

Answer 2

Evidently that is just the way brother/sisters are towards one another. The just simply rub each other the wrong way for some unknown reason. Have you told your folks about the spitting, name calling, and hitting?  You need to have a heart-to-heart with them.