Can anyone explain how to or best way ?

Question

To email hundreds or more or post a long message to get a point across that I'm searching for a child I put up for adoption ? Or post the birth information on a website and do the work myself ? I know it's 2 questions but any advice will be appreciated. Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

I don't know if you stayed in a maternity home, but if so, they may be able to assist you with searching.  The Salvation Army, who ran Booth Memorial Homes, has such a service...

ISRR and the agency that handled your adoption are absolute musts.  Make sure you keep your address and contact information updated.

Be careful about paid searchers...there are a lot of scams out there.  I was able to complete my search via information I received from search angels (free) and through friends I made on a private email group.  

A general piece of advice about searching...save EVERYTHING and keep it organized in some sort of a file, no matter how unimportant you think it will be.  If your search turns out to be difficult, some little insignificant piece of paper might be the ultimate clue to solving the puzzle.

Good luck to you...

Answer 2

Also, try kinsolving.com

Answer 3

With our adopted daughter who wanted to find her birth mother for medical reasons, we went to the court house that had the birth records for that city, sent that to our daughter who was out of state. She went on the website and found someone in Oregon that would help her, within a very short time she found her birth mother. The sad ending was that after only about two years her birth mother die of a massive heart attack.

I saw a program one time that had a person that wrote a book  about finding people, but I don't remember if it was Montel, Dr Phil, or another program. Why don't you try to e-mail some of  the talk shows that have different types information and people on their show for some direction on how you could find and get information on finding your child.

Good Luck

Answer 4

I would sign up at the places your child will also most likely be pointed to if and when she / he searches for you. Which, in my opinion are....

1) www.isrr.net

2) your state registry ( if there is one ) ( there will be fee's with this...that aren't federally regulated, they can vary from $100 - $500 +)

3) the state or adoption agency you surrendered her through or had your rights terminated in. What I would do If I were you would be to sign a waiver of release to have your identifying information relesased should she request information from her adoption file through the state or agency. What this does is IF she requests her file, gives her your contact info, so of course if you move or change your number, update it through the agency.

4)adoption.com also has a reunion registry that searches like 15 different ones too, and as much as I despise adoption.com they still have a good registry and when you're searching, and desperate to find them, whats it matter using the enemy a little right?

also find any search angel online groups for your state. Leave the BEST trail you can for her / him. Sign up everywhere you possibly can. If you need state information and can't find it by googling it just click on my profile and send me an email asking for searching assistance in a specific state and i'll send you some links.

good luck. Thanks for caring and searching for your child, as an adoptee, i would have LOVED to have been found by my mother.

Answer 5

Follow the advice every one else on here as given, never give up, and what I think is the most important thing of all: keep a journal or file (as others suggested) and save everything- even the things you don't think will matter. They just might.

And, when you reunite, continue saving things- even if you want to burn them or throw them away.

Good luck! Its a long hard road. You might want to find support on www.adultadoptees.org Many of us over there have gone through the same thing.

Answer 6

I would highly discourage a mass emailing for such an issue. Even as a last resort it is a bad idea. In order to be successful, you would have to supply a ton of personal information about yourself and your child. The internet is the worst possible place to randomly spill that kind of info. if it does not hurt you, it could cause problems for your child or the child's family. Besides, you could cause all kinds of problems with the recipients who had nothing to do with the adoption.

You need to do a lot of detective work to find an adopted child, and it will likely require legal assistance since court records are usually sealed. This is where the internet is a valuable source. There are many, many groups that assist in finding and reuniting adopted children and birth parents. Do some basic legwork yourself. Do not depend on others to do it for you. Read the message boards. Start a file including all of the info you have now, and keep a diary. Search for an organization called ISRR. It is a free registry that is secure. BEWARE of for-fee searchers. Be sure you know who you are dealing with before giving out info, or you could find yourself ripped off and regreting your decision.

Answer 7

Start with the following registry...

http://www.isrr.net

Many states also run registries, so you should search for the state the adoption happened in and post your information, if possible.  That's a start, at least.  Depending on how much information you have, you may be able to do a search through the agency that handled the adoption (that varies from state to state).  

These are just a few suggestions.  I'm sure others will have more.

Good luck to you.