Can anyone give me adivce?

Question

My son is having a birthday party, and there's this kid who he was really good friends with over the last few summers, but over the year he found out the kid was a nutjob. The kid still thinks he is friends with him, but my son really does not want to invite the kid. If he does not he will most likely have a major enemy for the next few years. The kid is kinda friends with the same friends my son is, so if he did not invite him, most likely t he kid would try and poison his friends against him. Should he invite him or not.

Answer 1

ask ur son its him party his friends so should b his desicion x

Answer 2

if they were "really good friends" then you need to teach your son to talk to this kid and explain to him what is wrong

Answer 3

I would say that if your son does not want to invite the boy then he should not.  Also he needs to learn how to stick up for himself and not let the other kid bully him around.  Your son should not have the boy thinking that they are friends if they are really not.  That is just rude.  I think that if your son gives the boy the impression that they are friends, then does not invite him, the boys feelings will be sincerely hurt, and that is why your son would have problems with him.  I think that he should tell the boy before it is party time.  If the other kids are your son's true friends then the other boy could not ruin or poisin the friendship with your son.  If the kids listen to the other boy and do not want to be your son's friend because of this other kid, then they were never his true friends to begin with.

Answer 4

What do you mean by "nut job"?  If all the other children are invited to this party, then it would be wrong to exclude just one person.  If your son is only having a few ppl over, that's a different story.  Your kid is 14, so maybe this can be his decision and he will learn a valuable lesson for his choice and you can remain impartial.

Answer 5

i as a parent you should not mention this to the other kid and keep out of contact

Answer 6

At age 14 it could go either way.  It would probably be best to invite the nutjob.  If you do you won't have problems later and perhaps the nutjob isn't as bad as your son thought and they could become friends again.  Most nutjobs really need a few friends, even if its from a distance.  If you don't your son may risk losing his other friends.  Everyone wins if you invite him, potentially everyone could lose by not.

Answer 7

If he doesn't want to, than he doesn't want to. Tell him to have confidence, and man up. Tell him to make his own decision. SO, if I were in your son's shoes, I would ask the other friends I have that are the kid's friends, too, and see what they say.

Answer 8

Your already judging the kid.  He maybe not a nutcase, just has different ideas and views of things.  After being friends that long, I think it would be wrong not to invite him.  It maybe what he needs.  Silly to accuse him of poison everybody.  Your having a group party.  Every child there has their own feeling and thoughts.  Give him a chance.

Answer 9

tell him to just slowly drift away from his other friend, and he will leave your kid alone.