Can anyone help??? Life is too difficult!!!?

Question

All you do is try ur best at work, try to keep everyone happy at work and home but when the **** hits the fan everyone runs away from ya. last week i lost my girlfriend of 3 years the next day i lose my job. Cannot find work, got back with gf now not sure she wants to be with me. Since bein with her I lost all my mates and some of my family now that i need some help there is no one to help me at all!!! Can life get any better????? (My opionion NO CHANCE!!!)

Answer 1

I really want to help you.  I too have been through bad times.  I have lost the only man I had ever loved, I lost my job, had major surgery, lost my home and, if that wasn't enough, my Mother died 10 days ago - I loved her so much!

Please, please don't give up - I am trying so hard to carry on - please, please join me - let's make life better!  If not better - let's make it bearable!

Answer 2

I haven't got time to do my usual lengthy answer right now as I ought to be in bed really.  But when I was in hospital with depression this Inspirational Poem, which you may have come across before really helped:-

Don't quit!

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,

When the road you are trudging seems all uphill,

When funds are low, and the debts are high,

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh.

When care is pressing you down a bit,

Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit!!

Life is q***r with its twists and turns,

As every one of us sometimes learns,

And many a failure turns about

When you might have won,

If you’d stuck it out!

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow-

You may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out-

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,

And you can never tell how close you are,

It may be near when it seems so far.

So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit

Its when things seem worst that

You must not QUIT!!

Hope it helps.

ps Have you lost your friends and family because they don't like your girlfriend or just because you got wrapped up in your girlfriend and they went by the wayside??

You need to ask your girlfriend outright if for a decision about whether she wants to be with you.  There is no point being with her if she isn't 100% committed to you.

Is there any possibility of you regaining contact with some of your family/friends you have lost contact with, not because you need help now but because you want them to be in your life again?

Have you signed on for Jobseekers Allowance?? If not sign on so that at least your have a little bit of money to live on.  You can always apply for a Social fund Loan why you are waiting. Persist with the job hunting because unfortunately getting a job rarely comes overnight.  The key is to Persist, and you will get your reward in the end - be patient.

When life is not good, it always gets better at some point - life goes in cycles ie good cycles and bad cycles.

Answer 3

join yogaa =)

Answer 4

Did  you lose your mates and family BECAUSE of her or for her? If so, I would ditch her. Family and friends are far more important.

Don't give up hope.  

Answer 5

Slow down! Don't worry, a lot of people have been in the same situation, on some scale.

Take you life a bit at a time. Unless your facing bankruptcy enjoy unemployment. If your girlfriend has come back to you, she won't be running off any time soon. Reason with your old friends, find out why they have gone off, and if their reason is ****, they aren't really friends. Your family will come around. Reason with them as well and see what their problem with you is.

Everything will sort out over time, until then, take it easy.

  

Answer 6

Poppet, I can not help you get a job,

nor can I help you keep your G/F.

But what I can do is be here if you need a Friend.

I am only too Happy to listen and advise for what it is worth.

Just remember Sweetheart, you are not alone,

However you may feel right now!x

Answer 7

I hope this helps. My Grandmother used to say,

   "this too shall pass"    

        "it's always darkest before the dawn"

             "God will never give you more than you can handle"

When I am down and it seems the world is against me I just say them to myself and sure enough....she was right.

Good luck and God Bless

Answer 8

It seems like things sometime happen that way.

The only thing you can do is start doing something for yourself to grow and improve your own life. Personal developement is so much more than just a good idea. It is something you can do for yourself.  You sure can't change anyone else. Build your own self esteem and image and you will learn to keep pressing upward and never give up.  There are things about yourself you are not aware of and that is there is greatness in you put there by God himself !   You can change things in your own life by beginning to realize you can do better than you ever have in your past. Instead of spending your life trying to please others, set some new goals for yourself and start pursuing higher goals for yourself.  YOU can do it if you want to ...Takes determination and effort on your part.  I suggest you get this book that I got and it has changed my life for the better.  Just because it has taught me more about myself and others. It is personalized with your name throughout the book.  You can read daily affirmations about YOU and that alone will change your outlook on who you are and what YOU deserve. You can achieve a greater sense of life by applying these truths about YOU..It is a great tool for success in every area of your life..

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Answer 9

why don't u look at it as can it get any worse ? not get better cos if its that bad then shore it could if u try a little less

Answer 10

If your friends aren't there for you like you've been there for them then I guess they're not particularly good friends.

If you want to be friends with them then by all means be friends with them but it sounds like you need some new friends to me.

Not having a job could be quite a bad thing to go through at the minute with everything else happening as well but with the Christmas rush coming up places will be employing more people soon. You should be able to get a good job then, even if you have to wait a little while. Maybe the change will do you good?

It's your choice whether you want to be with your girlfriend or not but if you choose not to stay with her it'll give you a completely new start in all departments which may be what you need.

Answer 11

Let me put it to ya bluntly.

Life is hard and the nicer person you are the more likley you are to be s**t on. You gotta look after no.1. You just gotta keep goin and never sit back and give up, not even for a week, thats when the depression and self pitty kicks in.

Try new things, go for a job you would'nt normally go for and figure out whos best for you and whos not. Loose the loosers in your life and keep the good ones, if there isn't any then make new ones.

You only live once and when your gone your gone. So get up and be strong, strive forward and be the best YOU that you can be. You owe it too yourself mate.

Good Luk. xx

Answer 12

i think we all have ups and downs in life, we tend to lose our friends when were in relationships, its life im afraid, do you think depression caused you to lose your job, mayby you need a little of your space now anyway, so make themost of not working and take it easy for a while before jumping in to another job you seem very pesermistic which is not suprising really so wait until youvget a lil more confidence before jumping into another job, r u getting back with your girlfriend because you lost your mates , do u really care for her or are u relying on her be honest weve all been there , think about it

Answer 13

If there was no difficult time then we might not had valued happy times.

How many times you thank God when you were happy.

So be patience and hope for better.  

Answer 14

Life does get better.The shadow proves the sunshine.-Switchfoot.The end will justify the pain it took to get you there.-Relient K.Life is life,you live it to it's fullest.You're not living it to it's fullest.You're too busy complaining.I'm not trying to be mean but learn to enjoy life.Things could be a lot worse than they are.If you're not sure that your girlfriend wants to be with you then why are you still with her.Ask her if she really wants to be with you since you are unsure about it.There are plenty of jobs out there.Are you trying to look for a job?Get a part time job,it's better than nothing.Better yet,pray to GOD about all of this.GOD is the only one who can solve this.Maybe you are depressed. You need to think of all the things that are not going too well and you think of all the things that could have went wrong.There's people out there that have it worse but yet they still keep a smile on their face.I hope that I helped so GOD BLESS you!