hello,
I got married a year ago. i live and work in UK. my husband is from Mumbai. Before marriage my husband agreed that he will settle in UK. As a child he lived in pune with his parents as he finished his degree he moved with his aunt and cousin in mumbai. he lived with them for 7 years and was very attached with his cousin who he says is like his mother. before marriage he lived with her sometimes on his own as his aunt and his cousins mother went away travelling.
I told him that i find his relationship with his cousin very unhealthy. he said once we get married and we go to uk things will change so I listened to him and within a month after our marriage i bought him to uk. In the beginning he struggled to get a job for 2 months i supported him to settle here financially. Then with the help of my mum's reference he got a job. He worked alright i still did not ask money for home, neither did he offer to support me. I thought he was new to uk and he has only started working so i shouldn't pressurize him and i let go. another reason i did not ask him money becoz our church wedding and party was going to be held in dec so i thought let him save the money for the party. When the chruch wedding was due he fell short of money i offered to get a loan from my bank to put towards the wedding and supported him. The chruch wedding went fine and we came back to UK. after one month even then he did not offer to support me financially knowing that i have to pay for the house bills and the loan we took for the wedding. During this period he carried on continously talking to his cousin. I told him that it really upsets me. He assured me everything will be ok.
He still kept in touch with her and started secretly sending money to her which he says he sent to his parents. on finding out i told him why don't u send the money directly to ur parents he said no it makes me happy that way.
Out of frustration i wrote to his cousin not to interfere in our marraige. She replied a nasty email saying that she will support him if he decides to leave me and that i have a dirty mind.
My husband looked very confused everyday after this argument between me and his cousin everyday he said he wants to go back i said wait for sometime we will go together he did not listen. he promised me he will be back in 3 weeks. As soon as he went there he has started living with his cousin again and he tells me if i want to make this marriage work i got to accept her and settle in india. He has not called me at all, when i call him he screams at me. His family says they don't want to interfere infact some years ago his family and parents also doubted his relationship with his cousin. When my mum tried to ask him why he is treating me like this he snapped at her and lied to his family that my mum tortured him. infact me and my mum provided for him when he was jobless and even spent most of the money for the wedding. She treated him like her son and he blames her now. I don't know what to do i loved my husband so much and i don't know why he is treating me so badly.
Can anyone give me some advice on what grounds can i apply for divorce. Can i sue his cousin for causing interference in our marriage?? It has just been a year we r married and i have been living seprately since 2 months. Is it necessary that i have to come to mumbai to file for divorce??
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