Can anyone help me sort my life out here, Please ?

Question

Alright.I am a 16 year old boy named stephen.I live with my parents and only have a few friends and here is my problem.I am someone who is so passionate about music and i have done this all my life writing songs and play guitar all day long.My goal is to have success in music.I have a dad who does not do much with me he starts to lose a lot of money in his work and he can;t afford much anymore.My mum does her best to make me feel hurt.She complains about me for how i look and for me wanting music in life and i really don't answer her.She is just out of my head.She never have showed me a lot of love.My parents do fight sometimes.And my parents think i will be a failure in life especially my mum.I had to buy my own instruments i earned the money from working at houses cleaning and take dogs for a walk for rich families.I am also a good student and my mum thinks i am not good enough and tells me to take a look at other kids of other people and says i should be more mature and not dream about being in a band.It has always been like that since i have gone to school and its all messed up right now.I really love my passion with rock music.And those few friends arent really friends i can get close to.I dont have anyone really close to me.I never had a girlfriend before and i just feel alone with music.And i want to have a life and dream to come true and be happy person someday.But now its all so bad , and my mum hurts me a lot saying things that even make me cry and think" is this really my mum" and my dad is just a broke guy with a normal job and who can't do much about me and just wants me to get out of the house till i am 18.I dont have so much support in life.I am always sad and the only that makes me happy is music and i really need help from anyone who is honest.Who understands this.What can i do now ?

Answer 1

Trust yourself that you are a good and worthwhile person .... I'm so sorry that your parents have their own issues, and no answers, and take their frustrations out on you - it's easy to hit out at someone lesser than yourself - or someone with the potential to be more than yourself..... trust that you are doing a good job with yourself despite your sad situation, show some understanding for your parents but don't allow their problems and issues to be yours - don't accept the negative feedback they give you ..... talk to a school counsellor, look around for local bands or music venues where you can jam along, maybe join a music club or some other social activity where you can be with likeminded people - there you will find the support and encouragement you so desperately seek and perhaps the friendship and/or girlfrend you yearn for .... you will not be sixteen forever, you will not be someone elses punching bag - you don't have to be if you decide not to be ..... look around, seek out other sources that you can focus on ..... take control of your own life, appreciate your own abilities talent and self-worth .... somewhere in the not too distant future you can and will rise above all this .....

Answer 2

you need to learn to be your own best friend.  there comes a time when we have to stop looking to others, like our parents, for approval and self esteem.  You've worked to get your own instrument, you've learned to read music, and you play...build on that.  In another few short years, you will likely be on your own, and you will need to support yourself.  use this time to learn all that you can, develop your music, by all means, but try to pick up some knowledge of other skills because it is very difficult to feed, clothe and house yourself with music...at least until you build a reputation and become better known.  A career in music takes a great deal of passion and dedication, and if that is what you truly want, you've chosen a difficult road.  This is why your parents are worried about you, they know how hard life is.  So, you need to feed your own ego now, stop expecting your parents to do that for you.  You need to be your own best friend.

Answer 3

It's unfortunate that your mother doesn't support you in your music and instead emotionally abuses you. You have to do in life those things that you are passionate about, otherwise there is no point in doing them.

School still is very important. One has to make a living after all, and very few musicians make a lot of money. I'm not trying to discourage you; I'm simply being realistic.

I truly hope that you are not isolating yourself with your music, an artist must stay in touch with his potential audience. Maybe if you got out more you might make more friends and get more ideas for your art.

Be patient with yourself and most definitely DO NOT listen to the naysayers!

I wish you good luck - and KEEP IT UP! :)