Can anyone help me with a break-up?

Question

I have been in a serious relationship for five years with one boy. He is my first boyfriend. He is in the military and is gone for very long periods of time. Last year we ran into some issues with him not being able to find the time to call me. He came home for most of the summer months and we tried to put things back together. He renewed his love for me...while I on the other hand realized that I needed to break things off.

I have found someone else. I want to try out this new relationship. I still love my boyfriend but I'm not in love with him like I am with this other guy.

My boyfriend is on the verge or proposing to me and I don't know how I can break things off. I feel trapped, even though I know what has to be done.

Is there a way that I can break things off tactfully and honestly? This will be my first breakup and I'm not sure what to do. We were friends before we stared dating. It would be nice if we could be friends afterwords too.

Help!

Answer 1

just tell him that you dont feel the sam like you did 5 years ago.  say that you want to be friends and that he should wan the best for you.  do NOT mention the other guy.  your bf will def. be upset since this was a 5 year long relationship.  you need to break-up soon and not drag it on.

Answer 2

breaking up is never nice.  you will need to allow him to be angry and hurt and such.  AND do it clean.  lopping a man's arm off a little at a time is not nice so dont be wishy washy.  you are young and will go thru a lot more before you are thru.  some day, you  may be freinds again but he needs to be angry as you will hurt his male pride.  

Answer 3

Tell him its over, move over now its over, sorry its over.lol

just J/K, though seriously I think you need to sit with him and have a very serious discussion. Outline to him what it is you want out of this relationship. Theres no easy way to break up with people, so just make it plain and forward for him.

Answer 4

you sure you love this new man or is it lust... be fair to the bf... tell him and be honest  

Answer 5

The only way is to explain like you just did. Be honest and soon, prolonging only makes it worse and harder for you  both.