Can anyone help me with my obsessive grandma?

Question

My grandma has been very annoying lately. She's been the same all of my life but I guess that now since I'm older, I've noticed how obsessive she really is and why my big brother was complaining so much. She comes over ALMOST EVERY SINGLE DAY. She brings in food that I don't want like government cheese which is good but I don't want all of the time. And she brings in like liters of soda and packages of cookies every day. I like the stuff but you know you got to practice moderation every now and then. I try to make like a silent statement by not eating it but she doesn't get it. Her excuse for coming over so much is that she taking care of me but it's more like the other way around. I change the channel for her, I pick up the phone for her which she's completely capable of doing but decided not to for reasons I can't understand. Like if I'm in the bathroom and the phone starts ringing I have to hurry up and finish so I could answer the phone and she's right there sitting in the chair closest to the phone. The buttons say talk and off, it works the same way the one at your house does. She talks to me like a baby. She washes my clothes in warm water all of the time and most of the time the colors run and it ruins my clothes. I didn't ask her to wash the clothes! I just want to say "Geez! Why are you over here everyday? You have other grandchildren, spend time with them! Go back home or something! Bake a cake! You know how to do that, and you do it quite well! Make sure you make me one!" I can understand that she just might be lonely, she is single, but like come on! You don't see other grandma's doing this. Today actually, she comes over and then she has to leave again because she can't find her wallet. She says that her licence is in there. I say, "How'd you get here without your licence? You know that's illegal." She says, "Oh, I drove over here. You just have to drive really carefully because the police can pull you over for even the slightest thing." She has told me that her neighbors in the apartments have seen her rushing out the doors to come to my house and they say, "Ms. Scott, what are you rushing for? Where you going?" She tells them she's coming here and they look at her with a confused look. I just can't take it any more! It's worse than I decribed! Help please! Oh and it was pretty cold how it said I should classify this question in Health> Mental Health.

Answer 1

Sweetie, my grandma died this year. She was the last of my grandparents. I feel so lucky to have had them to the age of 45. Yes, your grandma is annoying. Yes, you are probably taking care of her. But don't you think she took care of you when she could? It's so sweet that she's bringing you soda, etc. Give it to a neighbor if you have to get it out of the house. She's showing her love for you. She may have dementia which causes her to say outrageous things. Overlook it. When you needed a diaper change she ignored it. It may even get harder; your grandma may need care at some point. I hope you're strong enough to give her exactly what she needs. I'll bet that's what she gave you.

Answer 2

i used to find my grandpa annoying... but he passed away last month and i regret not treating him with more love...

your grandma is taking care of u the way she knows how -- food~ just kindly tell her that u can't finish off so much food, tell her that her visit is great enough and that she doesn't have to spend her money on things that u won't be able to finish~

in terms of u taking care of her, perhaps she just felt that it's impolite to ans someone's phone. next time, tell her that u'll be in the shower and ask her to pick up the phone for u~~

tell her that you are doing fine here by yourself and that you're always out of the house or doing work stuff so you can keep her company too often. see if she'd wanna visit other grand kids~ tell her u'll call her for dinner next week, and u won't be home etc~~