Can anyone help personal relationship problems??

Question

I suffer with depression, I have recently been getting close to a girl i really like, i've known her for 8months, and as of a week and a half ago we were seeing each other, everything was going great, we got on well, kissed and that, then a few days ago I became confused and wanted to know where I stood with her, she said that we were seeing each other but she didnt want a bf, now that really messed with my head and i didnt know what to think, and cos of that I stopped eating for two days. I spoke to her yesterday and we agreed to be mates, I then txt her later on, being honest as I thought it was best to, telling her that I suffer with depression, and that it wasn't because of her, it's because of things in general, work, social etc etc, and now shes saying she doesnt want to speak to me ever again and that she would block my number, I don't know what to do, coud anyone help?

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear this.  Depression scares a lot of people because they dont know how to deal with it.  We have depressives in our family and they can come across as very intense individuals - sometimes too quickly for the other person to cope with.

My advice is to move on from this girl.  If she cannot cope with just knowing you are depressive she wont be able to cope with you on a more intimate level when the going gets tough - which it sometimes will.

Are you having counselling for your depression?  This might help you find a way of coping with your depression AND how to have a relationship at the same time.  To get into a tussle with someone who cannot cope with your problem will only make matters worse for you in the long run wont it?

There will be someone out there for you who will understand and be there for you - be patient.

Answer 2

send her one more text saying your sorry if u upset her and if shes needs you just to call and you'll be there as her friend then leave her be she's obviously upset by something that was said and wants some space from you so give it to her.

I also suffer from depression and i understand how much of a blow this will be to your confidence but try and be strong..good luck xx

Answer 3

1)  Continue with this girl to the level she is happy with.

2) Seek treatment for the depression

Answer 4

Im sorry. Depression is a problem but no girl should stand u up like that! To tell you the truth i think she just didnt like you . her saying that she wuz with you cuz she didnt want a bf is enough what she ment by that wuz that shes using you to keep other guys that are trying to get her to go away. she doesnt deserve u so move on  

Answer 5

You should spend time with friends. What she did was wrong, and you don't deserve it. If you suffer from a severe case of depression, go see a doctor.  

Answer 6

listen there comes a time in everymans life when he has to realize that she just doesnt cut it. just let her go man trust me its not worth the heartache. the sooner u get over her the better your life will be and u can move onto a real girl with some real depth and substance who will listen to you. one thing though, with some girls u dont need to share your feelings unless they start sharing theirs with u first. Dont be the first to share your feelings, because for some its a sign of weakness and lack of confidence. next time if this happens again, act like u know what u are doing and start looking for someone else.  

Answer 7

I understand about suffering from depression.

Below I'm going to explain more than one thing, and I'm going to give you clues as to how to turns things around...so read the whole thing, and you will profit !!!

I also understand that you were grasping at straws to try to make her feel love for you because you are defficient...WRONG...so she bolted.

First of all, no one wants your troubles, much less something so huge as despression.  

No one can help you with your depression, and you are no fun when you are depressed.

People want to be around people who are FUN.

So the first thing you need to do, is change.

You are depressed because you can not control some things around you that you want to be other than what they are.  This is hard, but you must grasp that, you have no power to change things or others, and you never will.

This part is the good news  :)

You don't have to be depressed, even with things remaining the same, BECAUSE you CAN change the WAY to respond to those thing.

You can decide to stop being the victim of circumstance, and stop wanting what you know you can't have.

There is much more to life, that YOU can control, in your own personal world, to where YOU can make choices to make yourself happy.

You can avoid those things that make you sad, or angry, and focus on only the things and the people that make you happy.  The decision to take this kind of control and power in your own life is yours.  Make it.

Stop blaming other people and other things for your moods, and you happiness.

Take responsiblity for you own happiness.

If there is a rotten apple or two in your barrel, toss them out, and be glad all the other apples are good.  :)

After you do that, you'll be a happy person, and others will begin to enjoy being in yoru company.

If you want new friends in your life, then first BE a friend.

Help others and it will return to you...it's just totally weird and amazing how that works, but it DOES.

^j^

Answer 8

When I read this, my first thought was " She's playing with you."

She practically used you, and didn't take the relationship seriously.

Her reaction obviously told you that she wasn't serious about her commitment.

Please, let her go.

I can tell you right now. that the fight won't be worth it.

Now about your depression problem, take a day off!

Go see a therapist.

Get professional help. You can't continue with the present & walk toward the future if you have so many things stressing and depressing you.

I'm sure it will clear your mind.

Take a breather!

Hope this helped, and good luck with your life situation.