Can anyone out there help? :)?

Question

im 18, my boyfriends 23. and hes the man of my dreams. dating for a year now and i cant imagine myself without him. i want to get married to him....now people have said that we are both too young, but i think otherwise. i'm going to school (college), have a full time job, i know what i want in life (meaning my career is to become a teacher) and i think i have a pretty good head on my shoulders.

i know that im only 18 and i should not think about marriage right now, (according to others), but this guy is amazing.

i dont want to get married when im 18, i was going to wait till 19 because i wanted like a long engagement:)

anyone out there got married when they were 19-20?

Answer 1

No matter what people say, you're going to do whatever the h**l you want, so what difference would it make what we said??

I didn't get married until I was 24, and I don't think I was ready then.  My ex-husband certainly wasn't ready to settle down, that's for sure....

At any rate, if you're asking ME what I recommend, then I would recommend that you wait till you're at least done with college.  Give yourself time to grow and become and adult before you settle down and start a life as one half of a whole.

Answer 2

why ask if anybody got here got married at 19-20? if they are still married it is because of hard work and determination which you sound like you have....you know what you want and so go get it..don't worry if anybody else did it because their story will be diff. you sound pretty mature and driven.....Carpe Diem

Answer 3

No but I know a lot of people who have and it didn't work out very  nicely. If you know it's right and you love him then whats the rush?? Just make it a long engagement.

Answer 4

Well, I got married for the first time at age 20 (2 year engagement)..but that was in 1974, quite a while ago....I was already finished with my schooling/training, working full time in my career and able to support my ex for a year after our marriage until he finished college and got employment in his field.

Great career you've selected....we need good teachers.

Just make sure than when you do make the leap, you two are not getting in too deep financially....I tell most young people now make sure you can support yourself alone should it not work out..believe me you don;t want to find yourself years down the road with several children dependent on you and a husband who has taken a permanent hike, been there, done that and it's really tough...good luck.

Answer 5

I do know this feeling from experience. I dated a guy and we loved each other and always talked about marriage, but being married is such a special thing. My logic is that if you love each other, there is no reason you shouldn't wait! Being married is very expensive, and I know you have a full time job, but if you were to get married, there is a good chance you would be living paycheck to paycheck and that is no fun! I think that it is great you two think you are ready, but when you are in college, you have so much growing and learning to do about yourself that by the time you graduate, you could be a completely different person. Also, a few years from now you two may not even be compatible anymore. Obviously me and my ex broke up because we were moving in totally different directions, and now I have this amazing man, and I about to graduate! SO I think totally think you should wait! If you love each other, time shouldn't matter!!

Answer 6

Yes, it didn't last. People are telling you that you are too young because they love you and don't want to see your heart broke. It's often that what you want at 18 is not the same as what you want at 25. I am not saying that it won't work, I know many couples that were married young and it lasted. I would make your engagement last until you are of of college.

Answer 7

Is this your first serious relationship? have you told him you want to get married? I am 24 now and getting married next year. Im a different person now to when I was 19. just enjoy your life. and take it seriously. your young.  wish you the best of luck

Answer 8

yes and divorced at 21  ---your marriage wont last  

your future plans    dont really include your goals   just him

as far as your pretty good head - you are already contradicting yourself -  stay in school and wait  if this guy is amazing   then marry him when you both have good careers - established   and a home and a SAVINGS ACCOUNT  

please dont get pregnant

Answer 9

Well, everything you described about yourself (college, full-time job, good head on your shoulders), I was the same!  I got married at 20 because I was in love, and my guy was amazing too, and we dated for almost 3 years before getting married.   But guess what?  That doesn't guarantee anything.  And we were divorced before my 24th birthday.

Yes, nothing in life is guaranteed, but you have no idea how much the two of you will change before you are 25.  

If he is amazing, and your are REALLY in love, why can't marriage wait until you are 25?