Can anyone please help me with my personal problem?

Question

I'm 15 years old and my older sister just left for college yesterday to Pennsylvania. I live in New York. I feel so sad and upset. People don't really know me yet..like my church youth group, school, etc. and i don't have my own group of friends...i'm afraid to speak up and i'm really stressing over that and trying to fix it..my sister left such a legacy and made my family proud by getting into a good college and all..and everytime i go on facebook i only have one profile picture and that's it..i want like pictures to show off who i am...i'm scared i might mess up with people and relationships...i'm so lost..

Answer 1

Grace, your sister's legacy is hers, now you must make your own, separate from hers.   As far as messing up, don't worry, everyone does sooner or later, so relax, and accept that you will have some embarrassing moments, but so will your friends, and other strangers around you.  Please tell yourself that it's ok to take social risks, if you don't, at the start of next summer you will be in the same boat as today.  Good luck!!

Answer 2

Well, now it's your time to create a Legacy and follow in your Sister's footsteps.   So, do great in school and strive to be number one in your class for the reminder of your High School years.  Hopefully you will be accepted at a great College and do as great as your Sister.  Keep in touch with Her and let Her know how your doing from week to week.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Sounds like you miss school. It'll be back soon and you'll be back to your old self in no time.  Till then, Try reading.  Perhaps, the Harry Potter series.

Axe

Answer 4

Just try talking to whoever is sitting next to you.

People can be unexpectedly kind if you just say hello ask them about homework or if they are reading a book ask them about that or whatever else they are doing. Alot of people out there are everwilling to make new friends but are just shy of making the first move. If you feel upset go watch a popular movie and let worries pass you by you can ask someone to suggest a movie or talk a bout the movie you watched

Answer 5

I'm sorry you feel so sad. I think it's growing pains. I know my younger sister felt insecure when I left home. Of course you miss her and that's natural. Now it's time for you to take a step forward and start building your life. I think you'll find people are more sympathetic than you think. Try and talk to someone you trust. God always puts people in our lives when we need them.

I've seen this in my life for decades. Pray for strength and courage and accept how you feel.

Answer 6

I understand what you are going through.

Firstly, it's not the way you look that will show who you are...Like, right now, by the way you describe yourself and your problems I am assuming that you are a smart girl! So, if you want to tell people who you are it's your actions that count, be nice, smile a lot and work hard to do a good job at school, at the youth church group etc... What you say is really what matters, so say what you feel at your facebook...Now, about the pictures, what I hate about facebook, myspace, hi5, etc...is those horrible pictures in bikini, or posing like you're the best out there you know? i'm sure you don't need to have those kind of pictures in your facebook, so focus on taking nice pictures with your animals, with your family, smiling, so that people see that you are a decent person, fresh, young and nice.

Oh, and don't get pressured to be better than your sister. You are two different persons, just be yourself the better you can! I'm sure you can do that!

Answer 7

Did you recently move or start at a new school? Once people at school and at church get to know you a little better your social circle will get larger. You may not believe this, but when you tell people that your sister just left for college and you feel lost and alone and insecure, several people will want to be your friend. I've seen it happen here on YA. Sometimes a person will post a question and just say, "Hey, I don't really have any friends. I'm kind of a loner. Will anyone be my friend?" They get several responses from others, saying, "Yeah, I'll be your friend." Let people know your feeling lonely and confused. You'll be surprised by their kindness.

God Bless You.

Answer 8

You know what, just go out with a cam and take pictures of yourself. Many people do it. As for friends, in time u will gain them. People are always interested in new people and always wanting to know what your all about!! Just stay cool!