Can anyone recommend an agency or lawyer that would be able to help us domestically adopt twins?

Question

Earlier this year, we miscarried twins. We have had trouble conceiving and we went in-vitro. The doctor does not think that we can carry again due to numerous factors. I know that we can't replace the children we lost, but there is just some hole. We have decided to adopt and we have a completed homestudy. After talking about our loss further this weekend, we decided to try to find a twins adoptive situation. I know it is going to be hard, but I don't even know where to start. Can anyone help? As an FYI, we are in a state that does not allow facilitators. Thanks so much.

Answer 1

To me, it sounds as if you are trying to "replace" your loss. Why not look at this situation differently. Is there really a need for twins, or is the need/desire to parent?  I think you'll find that your answer is very clear, you want to parent.  It may be more difficult, and a longer wait for twins domestically.  If your state does not allow facilitators, go to another state for your adoption process. Utah is a good place to start. You will have to travel.  In any case, I do agree with some of the former responses.  Give yourself time to grieve and put your twins loss in perspective.  I too lost twins, then another baby over 3 years time.  I now am blessed with a beautiful baby girl, adopted domestically.  I learned through my grief, that all I truly wanted was to parent. I found that through talking with the social workers at my agency I was open to so much more than I originally thought. I would accept mixed race, any gender, newborn to 1 year, some physical deformities, etc.,...In the end, the right baby came to us. She is just lovely.  I reflect on our loss from time to time, but also, am so very proud of my little family. Good Luck to you.

Answer 2

open adoption might be the answer for you, cause the lawyer can look in his files as see if there is one on his clients that know they are pregnant with twins, have you ever thought of adoption out of the country? I daughters pediatrician is a adoption specialist you might want to call around and ask one of them

Answer 3

Try talking to legal aid or to your local dept of human resourses.

Answer 4

Hi, First I need to know where you live?

Answer 5

You can work with any agency in the U. S.  Just begin to call them and send your profile.

But I think in honor of your babies who were lost, you need to take some time to go through all the grief processes.  Give it some time.  And the reason I am saying this is because you want to adopt twins.

I know you know y ou cannot replace the babies you lost, but yo may have some deep seated expectations to do that without even realizing it.

Honor the children you adopt, by seeing them totally as individuals, apart from the babies you lost.  It wold not be fair to put any unintended expectations on the children you adopt.  They cannot live up the expectations you had about your other babies, and should not have to.  Again, you probably know this already.  But just in case you had not thought of this, and maybe need a nudge, here it is.

Lots of people want to adopt twins.  It is not that common.  But in any case, I wish you luck!  Find a good agency, and get your homestudy done, and then wait for your call to pick up your little one!

Answer 6

i am in Jamacia so cannot help you with that one. **** luck in adopting the twins.