Can anyone shed some light? Please?

Question

To all my friends at Yahoo:

Why does everyone reply so meanly to me? I just ask simple questions and i love to here others opinions but sometimes people on here are so mean!

Why is it so wrong to want to be friends with my fiance's ex? Why should we not all be friends? Everyone is telling me that this is so wrong but I just don't understand why?

Can anyone shed some light? Please?

Answer 1

oh my GOD. Seriously.

Answer 2

Hot Girl, Well dear it may be the name that you use. People may think that you are full of yourself. I also do not see the problem with your friendliness. In the eyes of Jesus we are all family. Baby just stay your sweat self and ignore the sinful world.

Answer 3

I agree with you, as long as it doesn't affect the relationship that you have with your fiance, why shouldn't you have another friend?  

Answer 4

:P

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be friends with your fiance's ex, however, based on the anecdotes, it sounds like you wish to have a close relationship and she does not.  So, the question becomes why do you insist on being close friends when the other person indicated they are not interested?  Is it really necessary (or realistic) to be 'friends' with everyone?  Furthermore, quality friendships require time and commitment, not to the extent of a love relationship, but still in need of attention.  You could focus this effort into other, more potentially rewarding relationships.

Answer 6

My ex-husband and I share an 8 yr old son.  I am remarried with an 18 mth old daughter.  My ex's live-in girlfriend of 4 years is a very nice person (as am i, lol)  and she has 3 children.  We have gotten to know each other over the past 4 years and now have a WONDERFUL relationship... i would rather talk to her than my ex, and she calls for advise about THEIR relationship... I am SOOOOO glad that we have this relationship because it shows my son that even with decisions and changes life throws at you, that i can act like an adult!!!   AND, another thing, if anyone doesn't WANT to get along, it's because they still have feelings for the ex.... PERIOD.  And, if it isn't that, it's because they are immature can can't except that the ex has someone new!!!!!!!

Answer 7

When u gonna get marry u don't want third person to be involved and

if u wanna be friend with your fiances ex that mean u r inviteing trouble

cause your fiance don't have to make excueses to meet his ex u r doing this faviour to him and more time your fiance have to meet his ex

more trouble for u more chances he gonna cheat on u.

Most of the people want terms to be cut off from there ex but u r the

only one going opposite way so bad idea unless u want trouble life after

marriage or happy life choice is yours or unless u r thinking about

threesome.

Answer 8

we are mean because you are hot, hotter than us and that makes us mad!!! the ex sounds like a crazy and i'm sure is trying to tear your relationship apart.. even if you think she is your friend she will stab you in the back the second you turn around!! be careful she'll try to manipulate you and your man and everyone else in your life.  

Answer 9

the woman dose not want to be friends with you, give it a rest!!

give it a few years for things to calm down and maybe then you can be friends!

Answer 10

i don't think it's wrong to want to be friends with her. however, it is strange. you really have nothing in common with the girl except that you have both slept with the same man.  

Answer 11

It's great that you want to be friends with her, and in a perfect world that would be the case.  However, there are some unpleasant sides to life.  People have issues and sometimes even the most well-meaning, positive, idealistic people can't make things better--but I admire you for trying.

I gave you an honest answer--and it wasn't mean-spirited--but it received at least one thumbs down.  I'm not crying about it.  People are free to disagree.

You asked for advice from people in similar situations.  What you were told stems from the experiences of those people.  Granted, they should not share that wisdom in a hateful manner, but they sometimes do.  Perhaps those people have issues themselves, see something you don't see or are just fed up with what they think is a ridiculous situation.  After all, it's not a perfect world.

Answer 12

tsstssstssstsstssstsstss Hot girl you are g*y.

Answer 13

Because we all know deep down you don't want a friend but you want to control your fiance's past.

People here that are actually mature enough to see that probably see right through your fake "can't we all just get along" attitude.

Honey, please.  Wake up and smell the insecurity.

Answer 14

Sure...i will shed some light for you...You need to wait...wait for this woman with whom your fiance had a child..to heal a bit. You are the other woman in her life. I dont know any of the details of this situation, but from a basic human position, you need to give her some time...perhaps in time you will be friends, perhaps not.  Enjoy your man...be a super step-mother...show the ex what you are and give her a good reason to be your friend. OK?

Answer 15

Give it a rest already!  No wonder she doesn't want to be friends.  You have asked this question over and over today!!!  Get a clue!!!!

Answer 16

I freakin cant!!!

I just finished reading all the responses from your last question

All I have to say is I'm LMAO!!!

Answer 17

If they have kids than its great to be friends!  If not what does it matter?