Can anyone suggest to me how to make my life more interesting?

Question

I am married and have 2 young children under the age of 6.

I feel like I need something to make me feel like I am 'me' and not just a mother and wife.... if you know what I mean????

Answer 1

How my Mum and Dad brought me up that`s how I`m going to bring my `Little Princess` up. She is 7.5 months.

Once I was in a family like a football team. Such a noisy family. Fightings and squabblings were hard to avoid. What I missed my Dad was he always had many stories to tell and made us laughed. Besides, on days off, he took us to many interesting places with good food. I missed my beloved Mum who could cook very tasty Indonesian and Chinese food.

I wish I could learn her skills of cooking!

Answer 2

go back to work. even if it's part time and your pay only covers the child care.  It means you get to meet people and also feel like you're appreciated (cos mum's are often undervalued!)

Answer 3

My friends and I started meeting for dinner once a month. We all try to stay on a budget, so we pick a place that was a good price for a meal/coffee/dessert, and try to go to different places each month.

It started out as just 3 of us. A girl I used to work with who had also been at home with kids for a while, and my sister. After the first time, my friend said "my sister would probably love to come next month,", so she came, then bought a friend the following month, and it kept going!

The best thing is that I have made a bunch of friends when while I was at home with the kids, I thought I only had my family and a girl I used to work with. I never thought I would have had the social contacts that I have now.

Some are now friends I can meet with more regularly than once a month, and some I only have a little chat with at these catch-ups. Its amazing what you find out, talk about, and become interested in. I've tried new foods, heard about and read great books, got great recipes, had great laughs, and become a more positive person. I'm also not afraid (so much!) about what my life will be like after the kids have grown up. Its something I only have to set aside a day a month for, and it keeps me positive and interested for the rest of the month. But I also have other things I can do during the month with my new knowledge, friends and experiences. Its a great start to getting back into the world, and might make you see a bit clearer too!

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Start a hobby or exercise class, even though it's a small step, it will start the ball rolling. Maybe study something you'd always wanted to, but didn't think you could really do, because you had responsibilities.

Answer 5

maybe get a babysitter once a week and go shopping or meet some friends for a coffee or give yourself a treat

Answer 6

get off the comp, go out, and meet real ppl!

:D

Answer 7

There are good answers here.  If you can do a study course, even a weekend/one day course, on something that interests you, that might help.  Having time out (babysitter, relatives, husband even look after the kids) could help you feel like your spirit is your own again.  Maybe you can get involved in some community events/group that involves a casual commitment and you could do some work at home for that.  Even getting your husband to watch the kids and you have a relaxing bubble bath and read or rest or do the shopping alone or whatever might help.  Remember you are doing a very important job and don't underestimate the value of that or you for doing it.  Good luck.

Answer 8

I know what you mean. I was in the same situation and one of my son has special needs. It really helps if you put your 2nd child to preschool at least once a week to give you time to do your own thing. This really helped me a lot.

Just recently I've been going to TAFE and doing their Outreach courses. It's free and flexible so if you need to duck out to do something you can.

Different TAFE have different courses.

It's a good place to learn new things whether it's for self improvement or help in looking for a job etc.

I'm currently doing a gardening (propagation and landscaping course) and Coffee Shop. This is my 2nd semester in Outreach I love it because of the flexibility and also the social interactions with other people just really helps you find yourself again.

Just talking with another adult other than the hubby heps a lot ^^

Answer 9

find a really interesting and fun hobby that suits you others will think its interesting and you will have something to take your mind stressful things such as being a mother and stuff (btw CONGRATS) :) hope it helped.