Can anyone tell me if there will be a seperation in the future from my old man?

Question

we dont get along very well he makes me feel un important and really unimportant when it comes to the kids so i'm not happy but wont leave cuz i'm afraid that i cant do it by myself

Answer 1

I think you said it. You are worth more than he realizes. When you get away from him, resist his attempts to get you back. Do not feed the desperation of being on your own. You can do it better without him spiritually. With him your spirit dies a little each time he puts you down. The kids spirits die a little each time they see their mother's pain in that type of situation. There is help. Even if you have to go seek the help of someone you trust implicitly; your dignity will be higher not having to listen to the put downs and violent acting out. Peace of mind can be yours in the long run, your kids will benefit by seeing their mother apart from the storm of ridicule. It will also help them to see the bravery it takes to do what you need to do. Yes you will seperate from your husband. Sooner the better.

Answer 2

You're obviously not happy with your current situation.  Change it thru counseling or a fresh approach.  If you can't change things, get out of the relationship and don't look back.  You only go around once in life.  With your next relationship, choose more wisely and take things slowly.

Answer 3

Well, if you are afraid to leave him and won't stick up for yourself then it sounds like you are giving him all of the currency in the relationship.  If he's as emotionally abusive as you say *and* you have let him know how you feel, then it sounds like you're married to a real loser.  I'm sorry you have kids with this moron because you need to get out.  I'm also sorry if this sounds harsh, but it must be said.

The last thing you should be doing is asking a bunch of strangers to predict your future.  They can't because no one can do that.  I will tell you what I think based on my experience in this world.  You will do one of two things.  You will stay where you are and take abuse on top of abuse.  This will result in emotional damage for certain and it's not unlikely to end in physical damage as well.  Your other option is to leave this guy.  You may choose to wait until the kids are on their own or you may do it tomorrow.  Either way, I promise you it will get worse before it gets better, but it will ultimately be much better than what you're dealing with now.

Answer 4

Get out of the house, find some kind of job.. Take your mind of of your insecurties, than dump him and take care of YOURSELF!

Answer 5

I know what you mean...happened to me to. I regret not leaving earlier. If you wait around too long..it will be a lot harder to do..you 'll be worn down and feel totally worthless. You'll expect the worst all the time. You won't be able to get a decent job when you've been brainwashed that you're worthless. Do you have anyone in your family that can help you? Even if you don't want to...ask them to help you make a new start. You can  get medicaid...food stamps and maybe help with housing and electric. Just go to every resource you can find. Go to churches and see if they know of any resources. Just don't let him destroy the rest of your life. And don't destroy your own life trying to get revenge on him. It will only hurt you and your kids.  

You don't have to be psychic to know where this is heading. You only have to have gone through it yourself.You're not  getting any younger.The longer you wait..the harder it will be.

Answer 6

Get yourself to night school take some classes, then get yourself a part time job to get your confidence up

Good Luck

Answer 7

No, no one can tell you this for certain. But if you're resorting to psychics to give you help with your marriage, that does tell me that things aren't going well and that divorce/separation is not unlikely. Talk things over with a counselor experienced in dealing with divorce and single motherhood, it will probably really help you sort out what you want to do.

Answer 8

The pain you are currently feeling, is so much worse than any pain you will feel leaving. I'm not saying that this will be an easy decision for you to make, you are obviously struggling with which course of action you need to take, for yourself and the sake of your children. You need to make a plan - it takes time to prepare to leave - it is not always easy or advisable to 'just take off". Firstly, I would suggest some form of counselling, to start you on the road to recovery - to build your confidence. You are IMPORTANT  to your children and to their future. Their future lies in your hands - your happiness is their happiness. What do you want most in this life? What do you want for your children. You will be able to do this... you just need to start the ball rolling in the right direction. I wish you and your children all the best! I hope you find the help that you need. Good Luck!