Can anyone who can relate help out? Please?

Question

My Grandfather just recently died from cancer. He died quickly, considering some suffer for years. He was so healthy and then suddenly after removing his gal-badder we discovered he had stage four cancer that had spread and they weren't even going to attempt chemotherapy because they said it wouldn't help, and only make him feel worse. So the last year has been so hard on our family and now it hits me hard little things that I know if he were alive and healthy he would be right here with us having a great time. So my question is:

Should I watch my videos of him when he was healthy?

I just don't know if it would make it worse and make me so sad that I can't stand it or give me a comforting feeling to see how he was and how he's watching me from heaven. I don't know how it will make me feel.. Should I wait a little while longer till time heals the pain?

Please help... :(

Answer 1

Please do watch the videos and remember your grandfather when he was well and healthy.  As a psychic/medium who has spoken to thousands of souls who have crossed over, they only wish that you remember them as they truly were -- the good, the bad, and the ugly. They do not wish to be sanctified, but they do love when you remember the happy and funny times you've shared.  Your grandfather can hear you when you think of him, so do think of him often.  Send him your love, and look for the signs he sends you to let you know he is still loving you as well.  To honor his life -- live yours fully and joyfully, knowing love is an eternal energy force that never dies.

Cindi Sansone-Braff, author of Grant Me a Higher Love.

Answer 2

You know you should put the videos away for a while.  You need to grieve your grand father first and this grief will come in waves sometimes when you are not expecting it.  If you can let it all out and carry on with your day taking one day at a time.  You might want to ask your grand father to come to you in a dream so that you know he is still around because none of us die - we go on the our real 'home'.

Answer 3

when you are ready to watch them you will don't force it  

Answer 4

I think you'll know when it's time to look at videos, for me it would be too soon.  Ideally when you can think of your grandfather in a positive happy way with out crying or feeling sad you'll be ready.  All the best!

Answer 5

No I think you should watch the videos of your grandfather it will hurt for awhile until you see again what he was all about. My ex-father-in-law passed away a few months ago. Which would be my son's grandfather. With my oldest son he was like a father to him. And he got very broken up over the departing of his grandfahter. I talk every other day to my son Eric about his grandfather and what is was like. Eric knew his grandfather was one of the greatest friends I ever had even to this day. Eric and his son and wife have moved in with his grandmother so she does not to be alone plus she has a hard time to take care of herself these days. Eric has been going through videos and pictures and talking to his grandmother about his grandfather and it seems to be helping him over come some of the things he had a hard time dealing with. Everytime we talk on the phone Eric will ask me question's about his grandfather cause he knew that his grandfather got along very well. The pain never really goes away we just learn to except the things the way they are and remember all the goodtimes and all the things our grandfather's stood for.

I had to use this story of my son's, because I never knew my grandfather. He died in the first world war before I was born. And to this day I wish I could just sit down and talk to him and to hold him in my arms. You have had the chance to hold, hug, and do things with your grandfather. So just remember the good things and time will heal the rest. My condolence's and my prayer's go out to you and your family even though I'm not a praying man I think I can find a prayer in my heart for you.

PS

    My son Eric's son Stanley is named after his greatgrandfather and is my only grand child. And all I do is think of him everyday and it allways brings a little sunshine into my life Take Care.

Answer 6

I don't share this with everyone, but when I was 12 yrs. my dad was murdered boy did that tear me up, I was really close to him to, words can't tell u how much it hurt. The pain will always be there no matter how much time goes by. It just alittle easier to deal with. My dad told me before he went, he said If I could only remember him in sorrow or pain of loosing him then do not remember him at all, if u can remember the good times then do remember me. At leat u know that he is not suffering anymore he is pain free.

Answer 7

I would give it some time before bringing out the home movies.  There will be a time when looking back will be less painful and you may even enjoy the trip down memory lane.

Your Grandfather is free of his earthly body, no longer sick or in pain.  Something to be thankful for.

Answer 8

My grandfather passed away recently as well

I think if you feel your ready to watch the videos then you should

I think no matter how long its been you're always going to have a bitter sweet feeling when you watch those videos because you miss him.

If you're still grieving , then time is what you need.

But if you are dealing with it in a way when you feel comforted that he's in heaven then i say go ahead and watch them, they'll make you happy (there might be tears included but that's just normal :)

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All things must pass by george harrison

this song made me feel a whole lot better check it out

Sunrise doesnt last all morning

A cloudburst doesnt last all day

Seems my love is up and has left you with no warning

Its not always going to be this grey

All things must pass

All things must pass away

Sunset doesnt last all evening

A mind can blow those clouds away

After all this, my love is up and must be leaving

Its not always going to be this grey

All things must pass

All things must pass away

All things must pass

None of lifes strings can last

So, I must be on my way

And face another day

Now the darkness only stays the night-time

In the morning it will fade away

Daylight is good at arriving at the right time

Its not always going to be this grey

All things must pass

All things must pass away

All things must pass

All things must pass away