Can ex-husband and wife remain good freinds?

Question

My marriage has just ended. It has been dead for a while. I wanted to end it first. My husband didnt. We went to counselling and realised we werent right for each other.

It has been hurting like anything.He has met someone else.,

But I went on a couple of dates too when I wanted to end it. The person in question had fancied me app for 2 yrs.

Im gutted that the marriage has ended but not that we have finished? Make sense?

We have decided to do all of this amicably. we have a house that we need to get rid of asap so that we can both move on.

Im looking forward to my new life.

He wants us to be good freinds. Do you think this is possible? Or am I being naive?

Answer 1

Yes it is possible and if your bf or his gf doesn't like it than boo them if yall wan't to be friends than be friends.

Answer 2

Why not be Friends?  To have more friends then having more enemies will make life more meaningful.  Bear no grudge, life is short. Who knows, both of you will become good buddies since cannot be husband n wife. Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

Go with it and give it a try, there's no need to prejudge the future unless something hinges on it like kids.

With kids its a different matter and mature people will bite their tongue and decide to choose their battles wisely for the children's sake.

Otherwise, you have nothing to lose, if it isn't mean to be, it will fade. Seems like he needs some closure as much as you do.  Work through it at your own pace.

Answer 4

Stay friends, it was a mutual decision between both of you. You were friends before, Just keep it strictly friends to see how it really is. Maybe your both confused now, Are you really looking forward to a new life? Forgeting all about getting married and all the good times you had together? Married couples have a lot of ups and downs, thye might not admit it but it does happen and it does make them stronger. Theres always a few broken bridges on the way.

Answer 5

You're not being naive.  It is possible to be good friends with your ex.  My ex and I have been good friends for years.  Several times there have been functions he needed to go to and wasn't dating anyone special at the time.  He called me and we went together.  We still have many of the same friends and we all have a great time together.  Our friends all appreciate the fact that we've remained friends.  My ex and I have a platonic relationship and we have been there for each other through dating ups and downs and helped each other sort through what went wrong.  I know everyone can't do this, but if you can, it is a good feeling.  We weren't right for each other as husband and wife, but we are right as friends.  So if you guys still have what my ex and I have, which is honesty and respect for each other, it can work.  If it does, you won't be disappointed.  

Answer 6

I hope so.

Answer 7

Lots of couples say they will stay friends, but mostly in the end they do not

Answer 8

Its not going to happen, it would be nice but there are and where to many emotions involved.  Its best if you can do this nicely and move on with your life...separate.

Answer 9

i had to do that with my Ex, but that mainly because we have a child 2gethr

Answer 10

its ok as far as it not such a good friend anyway just be strong m,in the other hand i think u should remove him completely from your life en stop all communication if you want to move on

Answer 11

because you ended the relationship mutually, there is no reason why you can't remain friends...

though you are likely to grow apart and just contact occasionally...

take it one day at a time... :D

Answer 12

Yes my first husband and I did until he passed away.

Answer 13

I believe you can remain good friends.  You do need to get over him, continue your life, don't let him run your life.  But if you're comfortable with him, then go for it.  No use marrying the man, if you can't at least remain friends with him afterwords!