Can i IM my ex-bf under these circumstances?

Question

my bf broke up with me,he's been telling everyone to say hi to me every since (if anyone would be on the phone with me). he's been commenting my pictures all the time, making comments about what use to be "our song". basically i don't care, but 4 of his friends just died, and i still want to be there for him...(we agreed to stay friends) so what can i do?

Answer 1

It would be totally appropriate to send him a simple and friendly message with your condolences - "I'm really sorry about your friend.  That's so sad.  I wish I knew what to say - please know that I am here for you as a friend.  Please call me if you want to talk."

You should not comfort him as a girlfriend would, but it's perfectly okay to comfort him as a platonic friend.

Please don't use IM or text for important or emotional messages or carry on long conversations - they simply can't convey tone properly, and it leads to misunderstandings.

Answer 2

I think that would be the decent thing to do, but instead of IM-ing your condolences, do the classy thing and send a discreet card.

Just a thought.

Dru.

Answer 3

depends on how old you are, if your a child dont take this advice

go back to him and comfort him, be there for him emotionally and physically... when im upset sometimes some good s*x helps .. also it might be nice to run into your old bf.. maybe he really misses you, or maybe he just feels alone right now and thinks he wants to be with you

def talk to him at least

Answer 4

Under those circumstances it would be okay to contact him and express condolences and offer support.  Don't get sucked in to getting back together at this emotional time.

Answer 5

You can be there for him as a friend.....Call him and see how he is doing and if he needs anything  (as far as coping with his situation)

Answer 6

Yes you should thats just the friendly thing to do

Answer 7

be a friend to him. make sure he know's that ur thee for him even thoggh ur not together. try telling him tht straight up. that'll make him feel better especially since it seems he still likes u.

Answer 8

be there for him as a friend.

Answer 9

I don't really understand the question. When you said that he was commenting on your pictures... was he commenting in a good way, or bad way?

how did his friends die?

Answer 10

You should definately comfort him. You have to put aside the feelings and be there for him. Be careful not to get sucked back in because sometimes when you are going through emotional stress you make bad choices...believe me I know.

Answer 11

Yes you should be there for him through this.

Answer 12

dont do it. he broke up w you, which means that he wants you out of his life. if anything, he may want to use you for comfort during this time which is unfair to you,

Answer 13

It sounds like you're still friendly with him so I'd go over to see him instead of just IMing him. But if you can only IM him, you should go on ahead.

Answer 14

yes, you should IM if you are still friends

Answer 15

You can IM him under any circumstances.

It's only AIM.

Answer 16

you should DEFINATELY comfort him! Since you guys are now friends, you need to start acting like a friend and be there for him! Let him talk it out to you. It doesn't matter if you guys broke up, just talk to him and hang out.

Answer 17

you should definitely IM him or text him or something. You guys are still friends so you need to act like one and be there for him. Especially if his friends died. that's so rough. it maybe weird or hard, but just go with it. He needs you right now.