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Question

my name is tabattha i live in ga and i need some help its kinda complicated but i have 3 kids ages 7yrs 6yrs & 2mths & im married but my problem is i have no kind of help i ask and adk to get help and nobody wants to help me i clean cook take care of the kids everyday by myself while my husband works and he usually gets 1-2 days off and when he is off i dont really get any help from him i still have to do everything alone i 4got to mention i have 1cat 1dog and 2 guinea pigs that i take care of and im tired i cant keep going i get depressed 2morrow im supposed to go to a friends house and hes coming to get me while his family waits at home and now my husband asked me 2day b4 he went to work why do i need a day away from him the kids (the 2mth old is going with me) and the house and i told him ok im gonna give u a honest answer and i told him to get away for a while and he started getting mad and he hurt my feelings by telling me that we all need a break but they dont do anything around here except mess up and it got to me i still want to leave bc i think need a break im always at home doing everything and i cant keep doing alone what should i do if everyhting goes as planned i should be leaving in the morning i hope and come back sometime 2morrow nite but my husband acts like he doesnt want me to go i want to and need to bc i need a break should i go or not please please some1 help remember the 1 that can help me gets 10 extra pts so be nice about it and youll get them

Answer 1

Tell him that you realize he works hard and didn't know that he needed a break too. Tell him that you have already made plans for this weekend and intend to go through with them, but you would be happy to stay home with the kids next weekend while he has a day to himself.

I am a single mom and feel as if I have been on both sides of this. It is hard to stay home all day, taking care of the house and separated from the world that is going on around you. It wears you out both physically and emotionally and you are right - you definitely need a day to get away every now and then.

But it is equally hard when you are getting out and working every day. You envy the one who gets to stay home and don't realize how much they actually do. When you get home - you just want to relax and enjoy seeing the life that your hard-earned money has built for your family.

I think that you and your husband need to talk about this and come to a compromise. In my opinion, the ideal situation would be something like this:

First weekend of the month, you take the kids to have a special day with Mommy while your husband enjoys a day off.

Second weekend, if y'all can find a babysitter - you and your husband just enjoy having some time alone together. If you cannot find a babysitter, either split up (each taking some kids) or have a day at home doing something family-friendly.

Third weekend, your husband takes the kids for a special day with Daddy while you go enjoy a day off.

Fourth weekend, whole family does something together.

And every now and then there will be a fifth weekend. Treat this fifth weekend about like the fourth ... Enjoy your time together as a family. Have a picnic in the living room or at the park. Come up with silly stories of adventures that your pets would have if they had the house to themselves for a day. Watch a movie. Do something together!

I know that this plan isn't easy - especially while the children are so young. But try to come up with a close variation.

Good luck. And enjoy your day away - everybody deserves one every now and then!

Answer 2

You are overworked and underpaid.  You also have a 2 month old at home (this is a hard time - I remember).  But you absolutely right in demanding some free time for yourself.  Unless you are breastfeeding you should take a break from the baby too.  

Do like I do.  Plan a dinner out with girlfriends for a few hours so that you can eat and be merry once a week - every week - once a week.  You need it girl!

Answer 3

I don't think anyone can tell you wither or not to go. It's up to you. Is going out worth the problems they will cause at home. I understand you need some alone time but maybe you need to continue to try to explain to your husband where you are coming from. Its not that you are tired of your family you just need some me time. You need to explain yourself better. Let your husband know you're not rejecting him and the kids but you need some free time where your not working. You need some rest from the work of the house the people. Maybe one of his family members or friends can make him understand where you are coming from.

Answer 4

I would go.  Just tell him, "Honey, I love you and the kids, but I really need a break, you know, a mental health day, just once in a while.  You get days off from your work to rejuvenate yourself and I need the same thing.  It will make me a better wife and mom to take a breather once in a while."

Answer 5

Just compromise with him and during the daytime take a break and send your oldest children to a daycare center or something. I hope i helped

Answer 6

caring for three small kids is tough but there you are

I suggest that you take the kids to the park once in a while and even going for a walk with them will help you relax.