Can i have some things i can do to boost my self confidence ?

Question

ok well i am 14 and recently posted a question about a sweatshirt i liked asking if it was cute, i posted a picture of me (not the best) on here of like knee's up to help people imagine the sweatshirt on someone and help them answer the question with the best answer they could.

i was going though the answerer's and like always there a couple people like ur ugly this and that and then i came across some guy who was like "It would look great if you lost 50 pounds."

and here i am now, i have been trying to loose like 20 and i already feel terrible about it... and then when that happened i almost like cried,

please no more mean answers i just want a way to help my self confidence. thanks for reading.

Answer 1

Never put up pictures of yourself unless you have a good self esteem. My advice:Its ridculous that you would let some person of the internet thats probably overweight, a drunk, and stuff like that. Don't lose 20 pounds because somebody told you. Ok listen. These people don't know you. What are they supposed to do? Tell you how great or pretty u are? Because I think deep down thats what you wanted to hear, that you look good. Not so much about if the sweater was cute. Pull it together. Your 14 not 4.  

Answer 2

Well, those people are lame.  Did you get ANY positive feedback?  Dwell on that.  People who put others down just have low self-esteem themselves and it makes them feel better.  I'll put a thumbs down on it.  I won't even look at the picture because outward appearance doesn't matter!  Why not?  Because even these so-called "beautiful" people lose their beauty in a matter of 30 years or so and then everyone decays on the outside...when that happens you better hope you have people in your life that love you for who you are and think you're beautiful no matter what.  Work on the inner person and the outside will glow.

I just counted you had like 16+ positives on that question and just a couple negatives.  Many of those comments should boost your self esteem.

Answer 3

Lissi, posting open questions about your looks on here is an invitation for nasty comments.  Unfortunately there are a lot of unhappy, nincompoops who will say mean, nasty unkind things.

Don't dwell on what those people said to you.  You are 14.  Your body is still in the beginning phases of many changes that will affect you in all kinds of ways, including gaining and losing weight.  The important thing for you to do, as far as managing your weight is to exercise regularly (30 to 60 minutes) every day and to eat properly and in proper portions and drink, Drink, DRINK water.  :)  As you hit 16, 17, 18 you are going to see a lot of changes in yourself. You'll see changes in your body shape and your face.  You will be surprised.

I want you to realize too, that the only way these people on here that talk trash can make you feel like trash or unworthy is if you decide to trust them more than you trust yourself, your good friends, your loving family.  You need to look at yourself inside, as well as outside and realize that you are a unique, incredible creation of God, and He doesn't make junk!

The next time someone makes a rude comment on an question, just reply..."I'm blowing this one off considering its source!"

Thumbs Up To You!