Can i keep my baby's dad from visitations?

Question

Hi, I am 19 years old so i don't know how visitation rights work. My daughter is 2 and her biological father wants visitation rights or maybe even joint custody. He is not on her birth certificate, has not been in her life and only pays child support not so often and it's not even the right amount and he used to live in the city mission. I really don't want him to see her because he don't deserve it and i know he don't know how to take care of a toddler. So, is there any way i can keep him from getting visitation rights?

Answer 1

Well since his name isn't on the birth certificate there is no physical proof of his paternity right now.  That in and of itself can prevent him from seeing this child.

If he has been known to be homeless and has pretty well neglected to have a relationship and help with the child from the word go then it shouldn't be a problem to get the courts to take away any visitation rights he may have.

You will have to go through the courts on this though.  They will have to make the decision.  Just make sure to have evidence that he has had no part in her life, doesn't pay regular support and is pretty well a bum.  If you don't go to the courts with proof then it won't matter, he will be able to see your child.  You must have validation that he isn't stable or fit to see her.

Answer 2

tell him if he don't pay..he don't play. he should support u and his child financially first before he is able to see her again..cause its unfair. u are not just his "babysitter"..where he can treat u as his doormat and come in and out of your life and your child's life as he please...i would call the domestic relations office in your area and have a talk to them about this..you are doing most of the work for your kid..he shouldn't deserve sh*t until he does his part...*sigh*

Answer 3

Not unless you can prove he is a danger to your child or otherwise unfit.

Not being on the birth certificate can mean he has to prove paternity, which involves him paying for expensive DNA tests to put his name on the birth certificate.  Right now your child has no legal father, which means he has no rights to visitation, unless you have something court-ordered that says otherwise (which I can't imagine a judge doing without first establishing paternity).  Having his name on the birth certificate then allows the state to go after him for child support, which they will take directly from his paycheck.

Just another reason not to get pregnant at 16.  Been there, done that, and it is not fun.  Gloucester boys beware!

Answer 4

well you cld file for full custody of your daughter and if he comes around when you tell him not to you cld have a restraining order put against him.hope it helps!

Answer 5

no, he must be found to be unfit. He can learn how to take care of a toddler if he was able to see her. I hear your anger/resentment, but this is about your child, not you....your daughter needs her daddy.

Answer 6

If he's not on the birth certificate he may have to prove he's the father to get visitation.  You may want to talk to a family law attorney so the father at least would have to do some work now to gain his right to see her after being absent so long.   Good luck to you and your little girl.

Answer 7

Hi,

He is the father of the child. You are not seeking to deny that. It might be that you are angry at the father for not being a decent boyfriend.

I am not going to advise you on how to prevent him having access to his child. Remember your daughter is not your exclusive property. She is the product of a union between two adults who cared enough about each other at the time of conception to bring a new life into the world.

It is a fact that seperated father's that are involved in the children's life are much better payers of maintenance.

It is the right of the child to know and enjoy the company and love of her natural father. It is natural for that child to love their father and their mother. To deny a child that, is to deny that child a significant part of its own identity. The child should know its father, with all his faults and good points.

He might annoy you. You might hate him. He might hate you. However, you must rise above all that and put your child first. Perhaps have one day a week where he takes his daughter out.

Of course you will have anxieties over his care of your daughter and he too will be anxious over your care of his daughter. At first there will be teething problems over his having access to his daughter and she may play up. But in the long run she should settle down. Hopefully, in the future the child can move freely between the two of you and you can learn to cooperate.

In the long run your child will grow up better psychologically ff you can cooperate. Long drawn out court battles are psychologically damaging to children. I have seen many cases where the child has ended up a dysfunctional teenager.

He does have visitation rights. This looks like a long drawn out court case. You would be much better off cooperating out of court.

Answer 8

girl im with you.. i dont want my BD to see my son.. but **** theres nothing really i can do.. and hes so stubborn he wants to be with him but i dont trust him eveyrtime he takes my son to spend the night. my son comes back alll weird and he cries alot likehes scared or he didnt pay attention to him or he hit him.. hes only 8 months.. and he never helped me b4 when we brokeup he wanted to start seeing him.. hes trying to make me mad and trying to not seem like a bad person thats why hes doing it i know it >:(..but i hope u get what u want.. fuc^7K that dude that said she need hes daddy..NO HE DOESNT. SO MANY MOTHERS RAISE MORE THAN ONE CHILD ON THERE OWN AND d**n SURE DONT NEED A DUDE NEXT TO THEM..